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Desiree
Master August 2013

I dropped out of a wedding *vent*

Desiree, on September 17, 2012 at 10:44 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 28

I never thought something like this would happen to me. I was a BM in a wedding this Friday (09/21). Her bachelorette party was this past Friday and I got way too drunk so my friend called my FH to come pick me up. He was with her FH who got super pissed and yelled at him for coming to get me. He...

I never thought something like this would happen to me.

I was a BM in a wedding this Friday (09/21). Her bachelorette party was this past Friday and I got way too drunk so my friend called my FH to come pick me up. He was with her FH who got super pissed and yelled at him for coming to get me. He then went off on this whole other thing yelling at my FH saying he wouldn't have anything if it weren't for his "mommy and daddy" which isn't true, he's worked hard for everything he has - the only thing they paid for was his education.

He's done this before. He's always been really jealous of my FH. Well he then turned on their other friend (another groomsman) and told him he would burn his house down with his family in it.

When I told the bride about this, she just defended her FH and said that basically we were all lying.

Some other things have happened in the past month having to do with the groom saying he only wants to marry her for money and that he doesn't trust her. (cont)

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  • Fiona
    Super October 2012
    Fiona ·
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    HEY as long as no one got smacked around and has all their hair, call it a win and keep it moving. *wiggle*

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  • Fiona
    Super October 2012
    Fiona ·
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    Aaaaahhhh


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  • Fiona
    Super October 2012
    Fiona ·
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    Or


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  • Robin A.
    Master July 2012
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    It sounds to me like you did the right thing. The purpose of a bridal party is to support those people in their marriage. If you can't do that (and I can't say I blame you at all!) then you needed to step down.

    I would create distance and leave it at that.

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  • Desiree
    Master August 2013
    Desiree ·
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    LOL @ your pics, Fiona!

    So last night, the bride texted the other BM that dropped out (the one who's family he said he'd burn down) and said "you don't really think [groom] would hurt the little one, do you?"

    That's not the point. The point is he said it!

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
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    So he's abusive, at least verbally, and she's not particularly smart. I'm glad he wouldn't hurt the little one, just the big ones.

    This may turn out to be the best thing that happened to you this week.

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  • Kay
    Super December 2012
    Kay ·
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    That is crazy, that you can ask someone to be your bestman and then decided over something like that "oh nevermind, i'm replacing you" isnt a bestman suppossed to be your best friend, the person you can go to and talk to about anything. I am sorry to hear you are going through this. It is probably best that you not attend, maybe after the wedding and ocne they had time to think about it he will realize he did something worng. Weddings can cause a lot of stress maybe it got to the groom, but even if it did he didn't need to handle it that way he did. I wish you the best of luck and hope that this will all work out.

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  • Combay
    Master April 2013
    Combay ·
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    Sometimes things happen for a reason (as chiche as that sounds). You don't want to go against your heart and you certain don't need poison in your relationship. People come into our lives for a reason and season and theirs is up. Sorry for the hurt feelings, but I hope you can move past it and I hope the bride got a prenup if she's got money.

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