Hannah
Savvy August 2021

i don't love my dress.

Hannah, on January 16, 2021 at 5:41 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 56
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I went into dress shopping with a specific vision in mind... I wanted a plunging neckline with spaghetti straps or off the shoulder with a soft A-line or sheath/column siloughette and it had to fit our fairytale theme. I did get the soft A-line in French tulle (super soft). However, I didn't get the top I really wanted. I tried on a total of 24 dresses between 3 stores. Nothing was right. Either the top wasn't right or the bottom wasn't, or the dress was horribly itchy everywhere and I couldn't stand wearing it with my sensitive skin.

I ended up going with dress number 20. It's very comfortable, has an open back with beaded straps on the sides and it has a plunging keyhole in the bodice that goes from about mid chest down to just above the belly button. The keyhole was a compromise for the plunging neckline. The bodice is a high neck/halter style. I think the best way I can describe it would be that it's all illusion for the bodice with lace overlay and then it has built in cups. The top part of the bodice is the illusion gathered to meet at the neckline with matching beading for the neckline. And the whole top has tiny sequins throughout. I'll add some pictures. Although I think the dress is very pretty, it just doesn't feel like me. I bought it because nothing in my budget was working for me, but this dress was so comfortable and I loved the bottom and the open back. I just don't love the very top of the bodice because I feel so covered up. Not that I wear a lot of revealing clothing, but I don't wear halter tops or high neck shirts, so it just doesn't quite feel like "me". But my mom and sister who went dress shopping insisted it was my dress and I sent pictures to my fiancés aunts that I'm close with and they loved it, so did my bridesmaids.
I'm not worried about my fiancé liking the dress. I think he will love it. I could walk down the aisle in just about anything and I'm sure he would think I looked great. I'm worried I won't feel confident wearing it on my wedding day. I tried my dress on at home and cried in it because I felt so insecure in it that my mom came over to make me feel better.
I am having a couple alterations done. My seamstress already made the top a bit more fitted on the sides of the bust which made a huge difference! But I also asked her if she could bring the cups up just a tiny bit because they sit too low for where my boobs fall. Plus I think raising the cups will make the torso area look a little longer and more flattering since I have a short torso. My next fitting is in February so we will see if that helps. The low cups were making me feel like I had slighyly sagging boobs since mine aren't as big as the dress has room for, so I hope moving them up boosts my confidence! Here are some pictures from before any alterations were done. Please ignore any clutter in the background.i don't love my dress. 1
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Latest activity by Hannah, on January 25, 2021 at 8:37 PM
  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I think you look gorgeous in it - the soft tulle in the halter top goes really well with your skin, if that makes sense. I have a chest that gets red at the slightest irritation and could not pull it off, yours looks amazing to me!!
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you so much!! I always get sun burned a little bit on my chest each summer and if I talk a lot or just get warm, my chest will get red so I keep telling myself that I'm glad that that is going to be covered up. It's just not something I'm used to I guess. Thank you for the compliments! 🥰
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  • Brianna
    Savvy March 2021
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    This dress looks gorgeous on you!! I love it
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you Brianna!! I think part of my insecurity also comes from the dress being different from any wedding dress I've ever seen. Doesn't really feel traditional/bridal. But I know that being different isn't bad. I don't really want to look just like every other bride out there but I guess I'm scared to stand out.
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  • Brianna
    Savvy March 2021
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    I can completely relate to that and understand you perfectly. I think that you should really sit and take a moment to think about if you really want to go forward with the dress. It’s your big day and you should feel confident and beautiful no matter what! I believe you will look amazing regardless of what you decide 💕
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
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    I love it! It looks so soft and dreamy!
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  • Lindsey
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I tried tho exact dress on. It’s soooo light, airy, and comfortable. I loved the back on it too. I think adding some extra cups may help you with the feeling of sagging or see if they can make the slit in the middle wider so you feel less covered? I also was told some girls add a thin belt to this dress. I didn’t want a belt though so never tried it. Honestly, you look really good and will totally rock it with your hair/make up done. It’s a classic dress that isn’t going to be out of style in a few years. I think your feelings are normal-I’ve had so many moments of “there is prolly something better out there” but at the end of the day it’s just a dress and you my dear have a beautiful one!
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you!! Yes this is something I have thought a lot about. I think I will go ahead with this dress because I spent almost my max budget on it and I'm still paying it off. I have been looking at other dresses that are cheaper just in case but I think I will go ahead with this dress especially because everyone else loves it, and I know I just over think a lot of things.
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you Marisa!! It really is super soft! My seamstress is a miracle worker because I totally snagged it in a couple spots with a stinking hang nail, but oh does it swoosh! Very soft, very dreamy! Thank you!!
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Oh wow! That's so crazy that you tried the same dress Lindsey!! Did you end up getting it or going with a different dress? I tried having padded cups put in but it ended up just looking too busty and not proportionate with my body. I have thought about seeing if we could make the slit or keyhole wider. I think I will see what it looks like with the cups being moved up a little and see how that looks/feels. Thank you so much for the compliments and reassurance! I agree that it is a classic dress. I have been seeing some more higher neck dresses recently which makes me feel a little better about having something different.
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  • Lindsey
    Dedicated October 2021
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    The dress was out of my budget so I didn’t get it. It was my top 3 choices for sure though. I just remember it being so soft and comfortable. I still wonder if I should of just gotten it. The dress I went with has a high neck too. I noticed strapless dress are not super in anymore. High neck or long sleeve seem to be the new thing.
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    I'm sorry you weren't able to get it. I had to ask my consultant to take away about 7 dresses that I asked her to pull for me because they were about double my budget. I didn't even get to try them because I didn't want to fall in love with them and then not be able to have it, but I also wonder if I should have just tried them and maybe paid more for them. I'm sure your dress is absolutely lovely! If you don't mind sharing a pic, I would love to see it! Yes I'm seeing more and more high neck and sleeved dresses over the last few months too! I think we are at the beginning of the new trend lol.
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  • Kiara
    VIP August 2021
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    I think it look gorgeous on you... why don't you love it?

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  • Kristen
    Devoted October 2021
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    It’s beautiful!! I’m sure that with some alterations, you’ll come to love it. Maybe you could even explain to the seamstress that you’re not totally in love with it and mainly bought it for cost, while explaining exactly what gives you trouble about it, and she’ll be able to put something together that will officially make it “your” dress. No bride should feel “meh” about her dress. This is your wedding day! You want to feel in a way you’ve never felt before. Again, talk to the seamstress, and you’ll get something you love, I guarantee it ❤️


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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you Kristen!! That's a good idea! I'll see if she has any other ideas at my next fitting! Thank you for the compliments! It makes it hard that most of the pictures I have of me in the dress are in poor lighting and/or of me wearing a mask, so I feel like maybe I'm just not able to appreciate it fully due to not being able to see it in its full glory, you know?
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  • Kristen
    Devoted October 2021
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    The mask probably hurt it. No woman when she imagines dress shopping ever envisioned wearing a mask while doing so. Of course it’ll cast a shadow over the whole thing. The lighting will affect it, too. Before long, you’ll be writing back here telling us how much you now love your dress!
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  • Melanie
    Just Said Yes October 2022
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    Your dress looks beautiful.

    I bought a dress I didn't love either. Actually I cried when I tried it on, I loved it. And then I had to change my wedding date three times. Before I tried on the dress I bought, I found one I absolutely loved, it was exactly what I wanted and was completely out of budget.

    My original wedding dress is a ball gown. I love it, it is beautiful. But not me. I wanted an old Victorian dress that was elegant and beautiful and that was black. This dress that I want has everything I want and the designer of the dress created the exact same dress in white/black instead of ivroy/ivroy.

    What I'm trying to say is which might be different then everyone else..

    Dont settled on a dress you don't love.

    I personally think you look stunning in it and your fiance will be blown away. I hope your seamstress can make the dress something thats you so you fall even more in love with it. Smiley smile

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Such a shame. I think it looks beautiful on you!
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you so much Kiara! I think it's a beautiful dress, but I keep going back and forth on how I feel about the top part because it's very different from what I normally wear. I'm used to a scoop neckline and not so used to a high neck. All of the compliments you ladies are giving me though are making me feel so much better though. I know I'm probably being ridiculous because I know the dress is lovely, it's just not what I thought I'd get and I'm having a hard time getting over that. Thank you so much for the compliment! ❤
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  • Hannah
    Savvy August 2021
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    Hi Melanie! Thank you for the compliments!! I am loving it more after reading all of the comments from you ladies! Thank you! Oh no! I'm sorry your dream dress was way out of budget! I'm sorry you don't love the dress you bought originally and had to change your date 3 times! That must have been very frustrating and difficult to deal with! A ball gown sounds lovely! Is there any way a seamstress could add to it to give it a more Victorian feel? Ooh a black dress is daring! I love it! When is your wedding? If you can afford to get this dream dress and you're okay with spending that extra money then go for it! But I am sure the dress you bought is absolutely gorgeous! I hope you get your dream dress or can fall back in love with the dress you have!
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