"I better be invited"

Yes!! it is so rude. I just kind of brush it off though bc we have a set budget and can only invite so many people and me and FH have decided only close family and friends. If someone asks i just explain politely why i cant.

My only experience was at FH's coworkers wedding, all of his coworkers were seated together. A co-worker of his I've never met nor heard of before asks us when the big day is. I tell him, he asks where? I tell him the city. He says "Well I'm not driving that far, you should move it closer or I won't be coming" I was like uhhhhh who are you?

The worst is when people you didn't even plan to invite (or are even close to) offer you help. I think to myself, "I actually might need help but would it be cool if I still didn't invite you?" Hey, they offered! Haha

ETA: OR when they find out I'm engaged and make a comment like, "Oh we'd LOVE to come to Hawaii for a wedding!" I want to ask them, "So you got invited to a wedding here?"

Drives me nuts! Like seriously I see you May once every two weeks at work. I don't know you!

YES! Plus my FH and I had one of his friends (who isn't exactly his closest of friends) say "If I'm not a groomsmen there's no point in me coming" like fine don't come then lol

Ugh.....FH has a "friend" (I use that word loosely because they have really grown apart) that was our roommate for about 7 months while he needed a place to crash. He ended up moving in with his parents. Eight hours south. He left his very large tool box full of tools in our garage and came to get them two days ago. Then he said, "I'm going to try to get off work for the wedding".....Our invitations just went out, and not one of them went to him. He'll get the picture when he doesn't get one. He also did that passive aggressive, "If I'm in the wedding (fill in the blank)" when we would talk about it in front of him like a year ago! So rude.

OMGoodness I absolutely hate that. It's so tacky. If you have to ask or demand that most likely you won't be haha

Yes but it's mine and FW's day. We get to decide who is there and who is not. We honestly haven't said anything to those people because if they were are REAL friends and family, they would have been invited.

I've had old friends who have actively tried to break me and FH up and still say this to me. I'm sorry but if you can't support our relationship on a regular basis I'm not paying for you to come enjoy free food/alcohol. Some people have a lot of nerve.

Me too !!! soooo annoying

Yes! So so annoying and a little awkward!

Same! There's nothing more awkward than responding to people who "can't wait for the wedding" but weren't invited

I've had so many people say this to me. You wouldn't believe the amount of messages I've received asking "what happened to my invite". And when I tell people we are keeping it close friends and family they look at me funny. I even had a coworker I haven't known for 2 weeks ask why she didn't get an invite. Smh. The nerve!

Agreed! It's so rude!

Yes!!!! I have a lot of friends at church but we can't invite them all because we don't have a flexible budget and food gets expensive. Oh and my sister, MOH, decided to tell me she is bringing a plus one... her best friend. I have only met her best friend once. This annoyed me. We are already trying to figure out how to cut our list down from 150 to 125 and my sister wants to add in a plus one.. I don't think so.

Wait.. I have one for you: my FH's stepmom. (They do not get along at all).

Not only did she imply she was invited (we are still on the fence about it, because of his dad..) but then she told me "well, it can't be in October because I already have plans."

Huh?

I'm having people I use to work with and never hung out with them outside that job write me on FB all the time saying "can't wait for your wedding!" "I better be invited to the wedding!" Or my favorite "if I don't get invited I'll crash the wedding!" People are crazy and rude.

3 of FH old friends have said this! One of them said this THREE times. Needless to say, after the last time when they did so publicly on fb, he wrote a reply back politely telling them to stop and that it is rude! I feel like if you have to make that statement, you know you aren't invited.

I had THREE people FH and I had literally just met at a party ask if they were invited within 15 min of knowing them! Like wth? What was your name again?!

I've had two people say that to me: 1 I was gonna invite already so I laughed it off, the other is a person I don't really talk to, so I never answered her.

I've also had one person try to invite herself to my Bach, and I made sure none of the party details are public