"I better be invited"

Yes just joke it off like it's going to be really small, even if it's not, they usually won't ask again

Yeah. This happened to me all the time. I don't understand how people could be so rude.

I just laugh awkwardly and say I will let you know.

I think its funny when really close friends or family does it but not people who I don't even talk to. especially since FH just agrees!

I had an EX-STEP COUSIN, as in a person I used to be related to by marriage, say this to me. I kind of just smiled and avoided the question. I haven't seen him in years before this a couple of weeks ago so NO he's not getting an invite. He can be heart broken if he wants.

A coworker just said that to me yesterday, " I hope I'm invited "

I even had younger family friends telling me how great usherettes they can be.

I had an old high school friend comment on an Instagram photo asking when is my wedding .

Last weekend. A family friend said, " we will rent a car and bring all of the kids for a road trip to Texas".....

I think people think it's "cute" to say that when in all reality it is awkward if you aren't invited and rude even if I was going to invite you. I am praying I don't have too many of these encounters when I get closer to my date.

Not just that but I got, I better be IN the wedding.

Sorry, nope.

Everyone at my work place has told me this. And i just look at them like i dont even talk to you outside of work why would u come. So i have told them we will see my venue has very limited space

All. The. Time. It's still early enough in the game to just smile and move on, and most people have dropped it for now.

My response would be "Sure the ceremony is open for you to attend" and let them figure it out..LOL

Omg so annoying! We felt pressured into inviting one of FH's "friends" (they barely talk anymore.) She threw a fit that he didn't personally tell her he was engaged and was so concerned if she was even invited. And then she missed the RSVP date lol some people, I swear!

Omg this happens to me daily! So I just tell them that it's not for a while. Then I go home and tell FH and he's like, "Who the hell is this person? Have I met them before? Who DOES that?!"

This has literally been one of the few things that brings me almost to the point of Bridezilla mode. I had a friend who I haven't spoken with in 2 - 3 years (we were never close, just on good terms to make conversation) TELL me that "she doesn't expect to be invited to a wedding except she better get an invitation for mine". We were at a social banquet event for our co-fraternity, I was about 4 drinks in, and I have never sobered up so quickly because how pissy it made me. She wasn't invited before, and definitely wasn't after that.

I just don't understand how people can think this is okay.

I had a girl from my old church ask me days after my engagement if she was invited. Ive had a few more do the same and I had a cousin include her brother in a Facebook PM about my wedding and when I deleted it she got this attitude with me after I told her that her brother wasn't invited. ETA: She told me she 'assumed' because he's family that he's invited. You cant just assume you are invited because you're related.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who knows crazy people! Haha! Mine has been mostly former coworkers that I haven't spoken to since they quit and that I wasn't even that good of friends with when we worked together. I just laugh and say ok! (They're not invited) lol

Yep, I have a coworker who would always ask for details about my wedding, and I never talked about it at work. I didn't invite any coworkers either. She was totally hinting that she wanted an invite. Then after the wedding she stopped talking to me, plus I found out that she's been asking other people at work if they were invited to my wedding. We also had some friends say they hope that they were invited. I just told them that we were paying for everything ourselves and keeping the guest list small. It was so frustrating.

I've had it! ur not alone, I've had a friend pretty much invite herself (she is invited but doesn't know) and invite her friend and hint that another friend would like to go with whom I barely know so i told her no! super rude

I'm worried because I want a small wedding but I fear if I don't invite people, then there will be tension. Like if I don't invite my dad's friend, my dad may get mad and not walk me. So I feel you.

One of FH's far removed cousins (who I never met in the years I've been with FH) met me at a family wedding and grabbed me for a tight hug and was basically YELLING that she had no IDEA we were getting married and that she had to find out from so and so. It was super obvious she was showing us how offended she was.

After we caved in with guilt and invited her, she RSVP'd no to my shower and didn't RSVP for the wedding.

I honestly don't know why people behave this way, but in my experience it's been from people who have no idea you pay over $100 a head at a wedding...

@Stacey Why would your dad be that mad? That's no reason not to walk you.