I am not interested in this wedding

Sorry to hear your frustration. I worked with a bride in the same exact situation last year. She too didn't want to plan a thing, and the groom also wanted the "wedding".

My advice to you is to hire a professional, even if it is to just help with the planning process (and not assist on the day-of). For instance, we offer planning support for couples getting married in a different state at a great price. You receive help for getting the process started with budget creation, timelines and design advice.

Planning a wedding can be challenging, but the more you put it off the more stressed and rushed you will be as you get closer to the date. The good thing is that you have options!

All the best...

I'm sorry you're feeling like that. My suggestion is to either do something small or find something as all inclusive as possible (less decisions to make). Also, once you find that place ask for suggestions on other vendors and only make your decisions among those. You really don't have that much for time. Do you have a lot left to plan? Otherwise you could hire someone but I know that not havinge enough money makes that nearly impossible.

I'm sorry I have gone thru spurts mostly I get that way when something goes wrong, first money, then ring, now my nieces prom may be on that day and we would have to rework somethings since there whole family is involved. Although FH doesn't want to change date we would still have some added changes

That's actually not a bad place to be in. I think too many brides spend way too much time thinking, researching and obsessing over... well, tablecloths.

Where are you located? Perhaps you could get a planner for a few hourly consultations? Our planner didn't charge much because she was relatively new in the business, but she was incredibly helpful.

Also, besides being married, is there anything that is actually important to you about the wedding? Food? Entertainment? Photography....?

I'm in stl but we are having a DW. I thought that would mean only a few people would come but FH wants to invite everyone. Our guest list is at 128, and I was hoping for 30.

What is important to me is the quality of food. I just went to a wedding that had awful food and ot was rather annoying.

Also I guess the only other thing I care about is that we write our own vows. Other than that I could not care less.

I just want may to be over and then we could move on with our lives

OK, then a couple of things.

a) You still don't know how many people will show up, right? You could be much closer to 30 than you think.

b) Food was one of top priorities for me too :-) I found it easier to deal with the rest of planning when we found amazing food. I'm not sure what your options are given that it's a DW. But whenever I got into planning blues, I started thinking about that dinner... and things got much better.

c) Take a weekend to knock out the important stuff if it hasn't been done already. Like the DJ, photographer, officiant and such. Then take the rest of the time to enjoy being engaged. It's a great stage in life.

You do NOT have to spend every living second obsessing over tablecloths and centerpieces. Just make sure important things are booked, and go on your merry way :-)

We understand your situation. But it is only fair for both of you to have a fabulous wedding, we believe you guys have more then enough time to hire a unprofessional who can work with your wedding budget.

Feel free to contact us if you have any questions.

My daughter said she picked the things that were important to her so everything else we can just roll with.

Not to be a downer, but I think this is something that needs to be resolved by communication with your FH, not hiring a planner. Marriage is all about compromise and communication.

If FH is overwhelmed by the process, take it step by step. My DH and I have "wedding free" days when the wedding is not to be discussed. And we also set aside time when wedding is what we discuss. And once we make a decision, we don't go back as rehash. We made decided what was important to us, made those things our priorities in planning and execution, and we didn't sweat the other stuff.

I know that a wedding is important to him so I am more than willing to have one. I'm just not excited about planning it is all. I love that family and friends are important to my FH and I would never change that about him! I am just going to have to suck it up and get the ball rolling.

I think we are going to have about 80 at the wedding so it really isn't that big... Just more than what I wanted

We went through something similar. We live in NY and had this huge 200+ person wedding planned for next November. It was getting so big and out of control and the date was so far off that we decided we didn't want to wait any more. We both come from big families but managed to cut our guest list down a lot. We wound up getting married outside under a willow tree in Boston Massachusetts with 45 of our closest family and friends this September 29. It felt so good. We where able to keep things on a smaller scale, and pay attention to the details that we cared about. We had our reception in the wine cellar at Mooo.. because food was also very important to us. Every one raved about the food and had a really good time. Highly recommend scaling back and keeping the important things.

Do what you want. While some aspects of planning any type of event is stressful, you want your special day to be special. Brainstorm with your FH and see what compromises the two of you come up with. You may be surprised.

If FH is the one who wants the wedding, how about telling him that he needs to be the one to plan it if he wants it to happen? Either he'll change his mind when he figures out how hard it is, or he'll take the stress off of you--and either way, it's a win for you.

Honestly, I don't see why he should be allowed to decide the type of wedding, if he's going to dump the planning of it on you.

You just need an all inclusive wedding where you don't have to worry about every detail ;P You can find quite a few of those, depending where you are.

With a DW, I highly doubt even 50 people will show up.. especially if it's going to be somewhere exotic..

I agree with D2. He shouldn't be able to pick the kind or size of wedding if he's not willing to help plan. How big is your budget anyway? You may have to show him that his expecations are a little unrealistic.. I'd see if you could talk him into lowering that guestlist.. by a lot.. having your nearest and dearest is all that really matters anyway, isn't that the point?

If u can afford it how about a wedding planner they do everything

Book at a venue where it is all inclusive. I did not feel like going through wedding stress. Our wedding venue is all inclusive (destination wedding) and the reception venue does my centers pieces and decorating. I just approve it and I've given them my color scheme

At the moment there are only a few time sensitive things that need to be taken care of. You have time. Besides making sure those things are taken care of...take a break. Give yourself a weekend off. I promise it won't kill you or FH and the wedding planning won't fall apart either.

That's what happened in September for us (a month before the wedding), we just had enough. (Neither one of us were really into the wedding, it was more for our family. We just want to be married.) So we took a weekend. We went to the zoo, went out to a nice sit down dinner (instead of fast food from a drive through) and then camped on the couch watching movie after movie. It was a GREAT weekend and we both had a chance to enjoy each other again and remember that there was more to our relationship still than just "planning a wedding". Find a weekend, put the wedding planning on hold for 2 days and take a break! It helps!

Good luck with planning and you'll find your interest in it!

I'm Completely feeling the same way.

IT SUCKS!!