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"Every family function or friend event that I attend – even when it is NOT about me brings up my wedding: What are your colors? What are you wearing? Who are you inviting? How are you doing this/that and the third?"

This happens to me ALL. THE. TIME! It literally drives me crazy. My fiance will be like "you talk too much about the wedding" and I'm over here like "THEY BRING IT UP"

Another annoyance I'm dealing with is people being told that I've said something when I haven't. Example - people being told to back off from giving suggestions... I am happy to take suggestions, doesn't mean I'm going to use every single one. But if I'm going to tell someone to back off, I think it should actually come from me.

View Quoted Comment OMG, yes... I swear, one of these vendors will be the death of me lol

I’ve never had to work so hard to get people to take my d*** money! 😂🤦🏽‍♀️

Unnecessary drama is my pet peeve that keeps popping up unexpectedly. My fiancé and I set goals for what we do and do not want as a part of our wedding, and NO DRAMA! was at the top of the list. We both consider our parents pretty laid-back, but the only drama so far has come from them. It's always been because they're happy for us and want to be involved, but I could definitely do without family members inviting guests we haven't planned for, worrying that they aren't involved enough or are missing out, etc.

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I'm so with you on this one! We had a family member get really excited about the engagement and casually invite 22 people, roughly 8 of whom might have ended up on the guest list (most of them in the "if we have room" category!) otherwise. What frustrated me was that this family member knew the max. capacity for our venue is 130, which means they knew they were essentially taking up about 17% of our seats (I was irritated enough to do the math ) with people my FH and I don't keep in touch with on even an annual basis! We've mostly figured it out and they know they may have to un-invite some people, but the fact that all of us have now spent multiple hours dealing with this totally unnecessary drama is so frustrating.

All the "I need hashtag help!" posts... No one needs a hashtag. Calm down.

Not being able to talk to my dad about it because he was so awful during my first wedding that I don't want to be bothered this go-round

People inviting themselves

Ohhh Good topic! Here are mine:

*People pissed they aren't in the wedding party. I cant include everyone i've ever known to stand up for me./People pissed they aren't the MOH or BM and are upset they are "JUST A GROOMSMAN or JUST A BRIDESMAID"

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*People CONSTANTLY asking "How much is THAT gonna cost?" or "Isn't that going to be expensive?" "You're going to spend a small fortune on your wedding." Um...First off my finances aren't your business, second of all YOU HAD your wedding. YOU OBVIOUSLY had to spend money somewhere. Weddines aren't cheap.

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* "Why do you want to do THAT?" "I did such and such so you should." "You could just do ______..." Unwanted and unwarranted advice. Expecting me to have a cheap wedding since I have children.

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*"What kind of food are you serving? Do you think you're made of money?"

Im sick of being criticized for everything to do with my wedding. I have stopped bringing it up all together.

I think my main annoyance is the fact that my mother doesn’t seem excited about the wedding or wedding planning in the least... but she will not hesitate to tell everybody every detail about it. I would prefer people not know all the details of my wedding before they get there. That was always my favorite part of weddings - waiting to see what the bride wore, what the decor was like, etc. I’d prefer my guests have that experience rather than my mother tell them every last detail beforehand

My mom constantly asking me , “have you thought about the exit? Have you thought about who is taking _____?”
basically any question I have thought of , she echoes. Even if I thought of it

I was actually surprised by the number of potential vendors i never never heard back from. you'd think they'd really want the business but i guess not.

I know this post was last week but I still wanted to chime in. My wedding is 3 months away and as my fiance and I are getting ready to send out invitations we have noticed more and more people who are not on our guest list are trying to invite themselves to the wedding and it's driving me insane!

TLDR: Family drama, people being inconsiderate of us and how we feel/our budgets/timetables, and constant unsolicited advice

We are doing an evening wedding as well as a child-free wedding. I talked to my brother who has 4 children and let him know that we were planning a child-free wedding. He kept hinting and saying things like, well the kiddos will be well behaved (they never are) and we can find things for them to do in your wedding, handing out programs, flower girl etc. I was trying to politely tell him no but he kept suggesting ways to let them be in it without other people being offended their kids couldn't come. I finally straight up told him that his 16 yo was the only one going to be in the wedding. Then he said, "well I'll have to tell my wife" who proceeded to throw a huge fit because she doesn't have a sitter for the 3 youngest kids (her 3 kids, the 16 yo is from his previous relationship) and that she also couldn't go. Our wedding isn't till August 2020...that's plenty of time to figure things out. Then she demanded that we pay for a day trip to the zoo, aquarium, or a nice dinner out somewhere (not fast food) to make up for their hurt feelings. Also that the middle one still has huge meltdowns when "her heart gets broken" (part of the whole reason we don't want children at our wedding), so they wanted me to video chat to tell them they couldn't come; as they had apparently already told them they were going to be in my wedding. My FH and I were like, "Are you kidding me!?! Why do we have to pay for your entertainment because you prematurely told your children they were in OUR wedding, and have decided you can't find a sitter when you have a year to do so?"

Also, my future MIL and SIL are driving me crazy trying to make us do the wedding where they want, FSIL keeps insisting she needs to be his "best man" which is SUPER not gonna happen, and just yesterday she decided to book an excursion over the upcoming holiday (without asking us first) which will be at the same time as our engagement photo-shoot. She then gets upset when he tells her she needs to take us off the reservations, and says we need to pay her the cancellation fee. Ummm...nope, you booked it without asking us about our schedule. That's on you.