Humor Me. What's a random annoyance for you?

View Quoted Comment This is my biggest little annoyance too. All these rules on etiquette that don't apply to me and my wedding but people seem to think it applies to every wedding. Like bridesmaids, who arranges bridal showers or bachelorette parties, what's important and not important.

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That would be super annoying! I hope everything works out for you!

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EXACTLY! Lol

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I was at a bridal shower and my cousin (not the one we were cerebrating) was insisting on talking about HER and MY wedding and I'm sitting there like, "We're here to celebrate someone else's wedding." I don't get it.

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I have a similar story. FILs referred us to many venues. But, they were out of our price range. Some of them started at $135 p/p. We opted for something just a little over $90 and not one of the venues FILs referred. The next day, FMIL calls FH and curses him out because she thinks we can't afford our wedding and the price is too high. Mind you, the places she referred was WAY out of our budget. I got so annoyed with her because I felt like she only made this huge fight because the place was 10 minutes from my mom and it wasn't something that FILs recommended. FH and I are also paying for our wedding alone. I do not get people's audacity to talk prices when they're not contributing.

View Quoted Comment I second the people asking can you really afford all of that! We are having a small wedding (around 40-50 guests) but I am doing ALL THE THINGS! I am getting the dress I want, rings I want, food I want, cake I want, etc...and I've been asked that a million times because we are pretty financially challenged. But here's the thing - Im a collector of toys, dolls and antiques (a hoarder) and when I need money, I just sell a few things. My FMIL asked my FH recently how I was able to get the rings I did and also pay off everything for the wedding so fast - FH says, "You dont understand...she makes *A LOT* of money on the junk that she sells" 😂😂😂

View Quoted Comment My mom used to annoy me with many things, too. She is gone now (and so is my dad) and I wish evedy single day that she could be here to annoy me about my wedding. She loved my FH so much and she would be so happy that we are getting married. She would have so much fun looking at all of the pretty things and arranging flowers. Appreciate your mom, and believe everyone when they say that if you dont, youll have regrets.

1. People telling me what I should or shouldn’t do. Is my wedding and I know exactly what I want.
2. People not reading the website! I even created a FAQ section and every question I got was there! Like just take the time to read it. I don’t mind helping or answering questions but I made the website for a reason.
3. People saying is a waste of money to have such big wedding. I should just do something small and go to court.

Definitely people inviting themselves. Especially people I rarely talk to or friends from years ago that I no longer talk to.

• People not taking your engagement seriously, let alone the wedding. No Karen, I’m just planning my imaginary wedding with my imaginary fiancé.
• “You HAVE to let your sister be MOH even though she’s not taking part in any of the planning and hates being happy for anyone But herself.”
• “Why are you looking at dresses? Your wedding is in 2 years.” Well I am engaged and I am getting married so what’s wrong with looking? I’m just getting ideas people.
• “You have to do it in (hometown I haven’t lived in for 3 years) or I’m not going.” *Facepalm*
• Everyone assuming I am pregnant. I come from a small town so the majority of marriages are because of pregnancies. I am infertile, so no I am not getting married because I am pregnant.

Somedays I honestly just want to jump in the car with my boo and go to the courthouse. Then I remind myself that this day is going to be an extra special day for US. People are invited but they are not the priority. If they don’t like it then they can go plan their own wedding and do whatever they want there.

Here are my two biggest annoyances:

1) My FH's side of the family thinks literally everyone is invited, including cousins of my FH's parents whom he hasn't even seen since he was 5 years old. My FMIL literally came back from her daughter-in-laws baby shower and said "my cousins are asking when the wedding is so they can save the date" and I literally looked at her and said "they can wait for the save the date they aren't going to receive." Sorry not sorry.

2) My FMIL thinks that the rehearsal dinner is for her to plan and that she doesn't have to run things by us. Um no. My parents are vegan, as am I, and she literally told me she was thinking of having it at Bird Dog Barbecue. The audacity! Since then I had my FH tell her that we would plan it but keep her in the loop. I've included her in so much including wedding dress shopping, venue touring, and food tastings so I think those events will make her feel included enough to let the reigns loose on the rehearsal dinner.

For me it was the lack of courtesy with returning the RSVP's. I sent out 75 and got back 7. Well 8 if you count the one that came two days after the wedding with no name on it.

View Quoted Comment To be fair, I’ve asked that before when I’ve had social anxiety. Sometimes I can’t think of anything to say to make conversation and if someone has something big going on that’s an easy question to ask. Just saying! It’s not the worst question, at least someone is taking interest in what’s going on in your life.

My Biggest annoyance is... My FH trying to invite his "Best Friend" to our wedding when he has not came around once for the 3 years that i have been with my FH. That to me is annoying because if he was really a "Best Friend" I would of met this dude at least once already. Also, unwanted guest that my FH wants to invite that i do not wish to have. That is an ongoing issue.

Having people ask me why im spending so much money on a wedding when i can use it for something else. Ummmm cuz its my money, my problem, i work hard and yolo...duhhhh

We had FAR too many people trying to add on plus-ones... including the Best Man. The week of the wedding.

I was not hiding the part where I was struggling with family issues, that we didn't know if my family would show up (they did not, and I wish I had known, because I probably WOULD have added people...).

I couldn't believe so many people would just... not know the etiquette, and also think it was totally ok to contact the bride and groom and push for a date (IN NEW YORK CITY), *knowing* I was getting rejected by my family.

But also, I may or may not have threatened to throttle the Best Man, and DH was pretty much wondering why his best friend was Not Getting The Message... (the girlfriend didn't even exist until after the invitations went out... and also, we added his father on because everyone just assumed his dad was invited? I mean, it's fine, DH grew up with this family, but um...)

Yeah, that was probably my biggest annoyance.

(SIL remains much more than an annoyance.)

Telling vendors that my guest list is under 30 and having them come at me with an 8-10k food and beverage minimum. It's as if they don't want to entertain the idea of a small wedding. Super frustrating at the time but I found perfect spot so whatever!

View Quoted Comment My brother just shamed me for this yesterday. He was telling me to donate to the homeless people because he knows how much my wedding is costing and they need food more than I need a wedding. I found myself justifying my decision. Super annoying because I have already given my give this year, and I have waited 29 years for this day. This is OUR day and we are going to celebrate as such. For half of a year, charities can be put aside and Jen can be put first and without a guilt trip.

View Quoted Comment I guess I don’t see the point to this? Like I get that some questions are more serious than others or make more sense, but I feel like this is a place to ask those neurotic, petty questions. And I think they can be entertaining to read sometimes lol. I guess I don’t see how this is an annoyance if it’s not like a huge deal.

View Quoted Comment You should enjoy the fruits of your labor. If you are not depending on anyone to help you financially for the wedding then i believe no one has the right to tell you what to do with your own money.