Humor Me. What's a random annoyance for you?

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Yes totally! EVERYONE asks me if I am excited! One of these days imma be like Nah, whatever...My own wedding sounds totally boring yeah...

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YESSS!!! I have had like 7 people ask me if so and so is coming when the person who asked is not coming!!!

Annoying questions that the same people ask me on a frequent basis and I just roll my eyes hard af:
“how’s the wedding planning coming along?”
“Did you do Anything wedding related this weekend?”

I can’t explain why the “how’s the wedding planning?” Question annoys me so much!

My biggest annoyance right now at 15 days out is this stinking seating plan. This one doesnt like that one, these two dated and had a bad break up....its exhausting really!

View Quoted Comment You don't have to invite your whole office. I have the same issue where my coworkers talk/ask me about my wedding. I have one of them sending me websites to check out to find a dress and stuff, I never asked her to do that, and I don't even like her! She has an attitude problem, rarely talks to me and she is hot and cold with me. (Like are we making an effort or not?) I hope she doesn't think that I'm inviting her or anyone at that. Yes, it is a personal event and they have nothing to do with it therefore, shouldn't expect it. Or if it makes you feel better let them know nicely, when in wedding convo, that you wish you could invite them but you can't. People should understand 100%.

Annoyance for me: When people want to have an opinion on things that cost alot of money (catering for example) but they do not want to pay for it!

People who I haven’t spoken to in YEARS, all of a sudden wanting to “hang out and grab a drink” so they can fish for an invite.

extended family that have been rude to me my whole life and rude to my fiancé believing that they should receive an invite just because they are family.

people who think they are the wedding etiquette police and hold the rule book for what you are allowed to do and not to do at YOUR wedding! UGHHH!!

That last one reaaaally gets me lol

Love my family to the max, but my mom and future mother in law keep insisting we invite this person, and that person, etc. to the wedding whom my fiance and I barely know!! My FH and I want a smaller wedding (under 100 people) and we don't want to invite people we aren't super close with, like what's her name and what's his face! Thanks but no thanks!

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I understand what you saying. My fiance's mom has passed away and he used to say the same thing to me. However, now that he knows my mother he is more on my side about things. I love my mom but she has some substance abuse issues and she is the type of person who says things just to fight and cause a problem.

I'm really sorry about you mom. I'm grateful that my mom will be here to see me get married and hopefully meet her grandchildren but if you have anyone in your life who struggles with substances and isn't mentally well it is a challenge on an everyday basis.

View Quoted Comment That would pics me off so much!!! How many actually showed???

We had a court house wedding w 4 guests and are now having a reception for all friends and family for our 5th anniversary. No bridal party, no registry, none of that. Very informal. We want to celebrate our marriage, thing people do when they get married, which was not rational for us at the the we actually got married. I honestly think if we wanted to have a bridal party or all the bells and whistles that come w a wedding, we could. We are just not into that. Just want to have a celebration of our relationship that's gotten stronger over the years. I get so many questions ala "so what do u call it?" "Is it a wedding?" "What is it?" Etc. We are very open about calling it a vow renewal party not a wedding yet people seem to still need clarification... We love you, you mean something to us, why don't u just come to a party we are throwing and have fun..why the need to label it one way or another...

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Nearly everyone on his side showed, some on both said they were but didn't. I'd say we probably had about 60 or so out of the 75

My best friend keeps telling me she wants to help me plan and anytime I ask her for help or advice on something, I never get an answer.

Mine is a specific vendor. We saw a DJ company at a bridal event and they the first ones we met with. We loved the presentation at the show. Our appointment was a waste of time. We gave her a figure for more than one vendor, corrected that when we realized the mistake and she was still trying to sell us at the original rate. She also promised to send us actual numbers, which I only received after someone at the parent company emailed me.

Long story a little shorter - I told her we were going with another DJ service. But I still get phone calls, emails and texts from other people at the company asking if I’d like to book!

As some of the other ladies said it is the whole wedding etiquette issue with other brides to be. I really dislike the mindset that if a couple chooses to elope or go to the courthouse we are foregoing any traditional celebrations that other brides do? Who dictated that unless you have a wedding where many are invited you cannot have any kind of celebration? Even in a Martha Stewart article she suggested to do an Engagement party as a way to include people in your day when you are eloping; yet I have read or have been told that if you elope you basically cannot do anything. I really thought I cannot celebrate in any fashion because I would be offensive or tacky. The main reason my FH and I are eloping is because he has social anxiety and is off put by the idea of the attention being on him...even by a few people. It is his day just as much as mine and I do not want to make this a horrible experience for him to look forward to you know? I love the idea of a destination elopement and ultimately it is him and I in this relationship and I am happy that he is good with us even having any kind of ceremony; so if it is just us two then I am perfectly happy with that as I just want to be his wife. I have had friends and co workers who know I am eloping and why and when I mentioned that I wanna celebrate by having a wedding gathering and a bachelorette but how I felt that I should not because I was told it is wrong. They have told me do what I want as it is my day and even two said they want to plan something for me which made me feel special. I am not out to get gifts or anything rather I just want to celebrate a huge life milestone for me that truthfully I thought may never happen. I am still shocked I am going to be married next year. I definitely will follow advice of how to hold the celebrations as to not offend people or make them think they are coming to the wedding but I do want to celebrate my day and I am blessed for my friends that have encouraged me and even said that they want to celebrate even though I am not having a wedding. Thanks for listening and I am sorry people are frustrating you before your big day. When it comes to life events people can be bothersome.

My FMIL constantly dropping ways my FSIL can be in the wedding.

People asking to see my dress in front of my FH probably tops this list.

second and probably the most stress inducing has been that they (Venue manager & DOC) expect me to be able to describe in detail what my decor is over a month out when I am renting about half of it day of and therefore don't have it to take pictures of or do mock ups of. and then when i explain things in detail, they ignore half of what I said and still insist that I am having open flame or some other violation concerning things that are explicitly explained to not have that (i.e. battery-operated candles). I'm about fit to be tied with all the miscommunications and still have 3 months to go.

Definitely people expecting to be invited to your wedding or are not even close to you.

I think we can all agree that it’s annoying when people ask if they’re invited or say “I better be invited!” I have a lot of coworkers who I get along with but some I’m not as close to. I’d love to invite them all, but we’re all nurses/CNAs- who’s gonna work on the day of my wedding if you all expect to be there? Lol

Couple things...
We’ve been together for 5.5 years before getting engaged. Never had any relationship issue that delayed it, just took our time. We were engaged for about 2 years before setting a date and picking a venue. We ALWAYS hear “when are you getting married”, “what’s taking so long” and similar! It has been so annoying! It’s none of your business people!

FH and I met at at work in March of 2011 and I still work there. So many people know we are together, engaged, etc. A few people have asked if they are invited, or say things like “I better be there”, “I’ve know you guys from the beginning” Mind you, we aren’t close with ANYONE but one person who will be invited. Just because you know me or have worked with me for many years doesn’t give you an automatic invitation. Ugh!