Humor Me. What's a random annoyance for you?

People keep asking me for the professional photos and insisting my photographer is taking too long. 1st of all, it’s less than a month! 2nd of all, I signed the contract and paid so please mind your own business. I don’t mind bridal party or parents because I think the day is about them too but random family members who are in about zero photos insisting I send them the photos as soon as I get them bugs me. I have no good reason to be so annoyed about it but I am lol. At least I realize how dumb I sound.

Mine is having the guilt trips for getting married in Hawaii. Also having his grandmothers ask “oh did you invite this person?” When the grandmothers aren’t even coming.

My biggest annoyance at the moment is a friend of mine hounding me on what she should wear to the wedding. It's not a super formal event and she claims that she doesn't want to be too dressed up and will consistently send me pictures of different dresses. I have told her that they all look good and she has told me that it is so hard to dress for my "theme". I told her the "theme" is wedding and just wear what makes you comfortable! Do you understand how many other decisions I need to make?! Your outfit is not high on my priority list!

So far it’s definitely been my side of the family complaining about it being on a Sunday. I think they got over it at this point but when we told them it was a Sunday wedding they didn’t like it and kept trying to persuade us to change it to Saturday. We told them Sundays are cheaper, all Saturdays at our venue we’re taken up, and that FH’s family would be traveling and Sundays were better for them than Friday’s. One of my cousins said “What about your family???” Even though they live 45 minutes away from the venue 🙄 and one of my other cousins literally told me not to be cheap. Even though she and her husband didn’t have a wedding at all to save up for a house. Like k. Thanks.

View Quoted Comment We are answering the original posters question who asked what’s annoying and I offered MY opinion, the issues raised at times are annoying to read; whether you agree or not is inconsequential to me...as an older bride some of what is asked on here is quite ridiculous, again MY opinion coming from a different generation.

People nonchalantly searching for an invite. As if people asking right out isn't annoying enough. I have had several people try to strike up a conversation on instagram or text me and they bring up the wedding almost fishing for an invite without actually asking. I HATE when people beat around the bush so this really annoys me. Also super fed up with my grandmother trying to run the show. It started with my dress, then it was the decor, then she was trying to delegate who was on my guest list. Her most recent thing is trying to make mom wear what she picks. She texted me the other day and sent a link to a long dress with the comment "It's not the same blue as the groomsmen tuxes but close. (I already told my mom and FMIL they could pick the gown/color they wanted) Your mom has to wear short or long. She can't wear midi or high-low because her legs aren't nice." First off lady: That was super bit**y. Secondly: She's a GROWN a** woman. She can dress herself.

How about being asked in a room full of people about Invitations. It was our LAST day as my department had been laid off. Ma’am, you should be concentrating on finding another job, not a Wedding that several people in the room had actually been invited to.

So, once I received enough “No” RSVPs, I sent her one by text. She was in between 2 different +1s and then, didn’t even bother to show up. I understand having a headache that started the day before.

However, I don’t understand NOT bothering to let me know that you can’t make it. She let me know after I text her that we didn’t see her.

I had someone text me the day of that they weren’t able to come because their Grandmother had a Stroke. Which was completely fine as well. Another person didn’t want to bring a cold to my Wedding, so he sent a message by another person.

The point of all this is to say “the key to successful relationships is simply communication”.

People asking if they can bring a date or their children... The people addressed on the envelope are the people invited. It's so awkward when they confront me about it

There have definitely been a few that I’ve come across with planning!
1. I am SO tired of people who ask me questions about the big day judging me for my choices or how big my wedding is or the money I’m spending!
2. It’s really hard to be excited to plan when everyone is trying to push their ideas on you and tell you your ideas aren’t good

"Every family function or friend event that I attend – even when it is NOT about me brings up my wedding: What are your colors? What are you wearing? Who are you inviting? How are you doing this/that and the third?"

I hate this! It's not like they really care. I hate being a spectacle. For example, I was at the gym, and TWO ladies (seeing them separately in ONE DAY) that I haven't seen in a while went straight to my hand to see if I'm wearing my ring. When they didn't see it, they PICKED UP my other hand. Like, not even a hi? I don't wear my ring at the gym (I'm a part-time group exercise instructor). I haven't seen these people in a while, and that's the first thing they do. It's obnoxious.

I also would like to add: People telling me that I don't look excited. Just because I'm not all, "Wheeeeeeeee I get to married my best friend!" (and not that there's anything wrong with that), that doesn't mean I'm not excited. I'm a very practical person, and I'm having a lot of fun planning this - If I wasn't crunching numbers or looking over my spreadsheets or looking over my timelines all the time, then that would mean I'm not excited!

My annoyance at the beginning of wedding planning (Jan 2019) was having my FH's older sister and younger sister rant to him about how they were not chosen to be bridesmaids, that it's also his wedding and he has a say as to who can be in the bridal party. FIRST of all, his sisters have been super rude to me since I've been dating my fiance and I have TRIED to have a relationship with them but they're just not easy to get along with.

Next is my FMIL who has been recently stating that she knows numerous of people who want to be invited to our wedding and that we need to send them a save the date/invitation. When we stated that we were over our # of invited guests and we just do not have the money to invite more people... she FLIPPED out to say that "well dad and i are giving you money so I do have a say on who can come" .... LOL. They are NOT giving us money but have chosen to pay for a rehearsal dinner I did not choose to have. Like what makes her think she can decide on who is invited to OUR wedding.

Honestly, I am very overwhelmed with wedding planning while having my FMIL complain about life itself and then think her opinion for everything needs to count.

Honestly, I’m kind of annoyed with myself for asking one of my BMs to be in the wedding. I feel like it did it out of a sense of obligation, which makes for more difficult planning, since I now have two out of staters!

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Wow, that is crazy!!! She may have a say in who attends your dinner, with your input, but NOT your wedding!! The nerve of people!!

I think the “am i invited?” Is everyones tone one cause the AUDACITY, anyone who has asked me that.... was not even close to invited, those who know, don't ask. My sister(we have different dads and mine was not in my life and now deceased) suggested if anyone was walking me down the aisle, her dad would love to be a candidate.... him and i are NOT close and he’s not even invited, which i feel like hasn't crossed her mind yet and thats going to be one hell of a convo.
it also annoys me that i think some friends and family dont realize how much $ were spending on this and keep suggesting or asking if were inviting X family member that we haven't talked to in ten years. Like.... 140+ a head, nah dawg, they had years to reach out.
ALSO, our wedding parties waiting till this month to get their attire, MY WEDDING IS IN A MONTH.
And ya, ditto to the “are you excited?!” honestly, yes, i am SO excited to marry my best friend BUT i’m equally excited to be done with two years of planning and pinching pennies. Thanks for the vent forum, 40ish days away and I'm DONE. 😂

I have not experienced to many annoyances with my wedding planning, I mean except for my fiancé who keeps telling me that it is my big day, so whatever I want.
I do have some people telling me who I should invite and the guest list is a big one.

I think ours are pretty much the same! We went to a baby shower recently and kid you not, I remember nothing else but being bombarded with questions about the wedding! I could’ve screamed!!!

View Quoted Comment YES THE WORST 😭😭😭😭😭😭

My parents keep asking if we're sure we want this expensive thing. Ugh.

Relatives offering to pay for something then backing out! One relative said she would pay for my wedding cake then all of a sudden said she couldn't.

Relatives also telling me to invite so and so or they will get mad (when I have only met so and so once in my entire life!)

AND people telling me that I am too young to get married! I am 18 and girls my age have been getting married with no problem for generations! All our great-grandmas and great aunts got married at my age it seems and they turned out just fine! (personal pet peeve!!LOL)