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How to not cry

Jennifer, on February 1, 2017 at 1:44 PM Posted in Planning 0 83
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Any tips out there on how to not bawl your eyes out like a blubbery asshole while walking down the aisle? I'm hoping my anxiety and general social awkwardness will help fight back the tears.

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  • NewlyMrsLachney
    Master September 2017
    NewlyMrsLachney ·
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    I've heard some brides say that doing a first look helped them feel more secure walking down the aisle because they'd already gotten those emotions out.

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    Sorry, I was a blubbery assahola. And that was with walking up with my husband.

    Til we got to the front pew and my son said "Don't cry, Mom, it's not so bad."

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  • ceelengoestocamp
    Super December 2016
    ceelengoestocamp ·
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    You will be okay even if you cry. I cried through the entirety of my vows. I knew I was a crier. And thought a lot about how I was going to keep it together. And it made no difference, I cried like a baby. It was minorly embarrassing but honestly didn't matter to anyone. I say just let yourself feel the emotions and if you cry, you cry. I also cried at my first look too, sooooo not so sure it helped with the crying but I enjoyed it haha.

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  • OhCarol!
    Expert July 2016
    OhCarol! ·
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    The rehearsal was very helpful. I think the rehearsal let me get all my nerves out. It took everything I had in me not to full on sob at the rehearsal. Surprisingly, I was fine on my wedding day!

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  • SarahHoff
    Expert October 2017
    SarahHoff ·
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    I have no advice because I expect to cry like a baby as well. Partly from the emotions and partly from my extreme anxiety over being the center of attention. Pretty much any strong emotion makes me cry, including anger.

    But I just had to comment... @Nonna T, "Don't cry, Mom, it's not so bad." made me laugh out loud at my desk at work. So cute.

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  • Jamie
    Super September 2017
    Jamie ·
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    I am opting to do a first look hoping that will help calm my nerves. I'd rather sob in front of FH than 300 people.

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  • misty
    Devoted August 2017
    misty ·
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    I'm gonna be a blubbering asshole. I just know it. Just listening to the music i picked for walking makes me cry. I am as worried as you! Lmao

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    @SarahHoff, I did lol right in church. My 30 year old baby, he always makes me laugh Smiley smile

    Just to add, we had a rehearsal, a first look and we greeted our guests before the ceremony. When I looked up and saw all those people there to support us, I lost it. The photos are AWFUL.

    eta--handing Joe some kleenex to put in his pocket for me, little did I know how much I would need it!


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  • FMW
    Super August 2018
    FMW ·
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    I agree with the first look idea. I'm hoping that will help.

    My boys are walking with me down the aisle and one has already said "you aren't going to cry the whole way, right?" Least they expect it!

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  • Shannon
    Super May 2017
    Shannon ·
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    I'm a complete and total crier and have no doubt that I'll be a mess, although I'm hoping maybe the adrenaline will help distract me from wanting to cry lol

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  • FutureMrs.M.
    Super July 2017
    FutureMrs.M. ·
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    I was just thinking about this last night while I was in the shower thinking about our vows, crying lol I cry over everything so I'm assuming I will cry that day. Im going to make sure my sisters have tissues handy

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  • ceelengoestocamp
    Super December 2016
    ceelengoestocamp ·
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    I actually think the pictures are pretty funny. I think I cried worse because I was trying not to cry so I'm team "let it out".


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  • OG Ruth
    Master October 2015
    OG Ruth ·
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    I thought I was going to be a mess walking up the aisle. But right when the ceremony started, my cousin was the first person I saw and she whispered "You've got this" and blew me a kiss; I was all smiles walking up the aisle and happy to see DH with a big smile on his face waiting for me at the altar.

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  • MrsKristenS
    Master August 2016
    MrsKristenS ·
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    I am a crier. I am super emotional. And I did not cry at all during our first look or the ceremony. There's so many emotions and so much going on that I just never had time to focus and cry haha. The day is a blur, and I've heard from a lot of people that you aren't as emotional as usual. I know I wasn't!

    The only time I cried was during the reception when I realized that everyone I love was in one room to celebrate my marriage. It was magical! Except the ugly crying pics! Haha


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  • Jillian
    Master June 2019
    Jillian ·
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    Shit now I'm crying just thinking about walking down the aisle! I will be that blubbering asshole lol

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  • Angela
    VIP April 2017
    Angela ·
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    I just teared up going through the information sheet I'm sending to the band. I'm in huge trouble

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  • MsJeaT
    Super October 2017
    MsJeaT ·
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    My bestie/bridesmaid gave me some really good advise over the weekend after I had asked her the same question! (sidebar: Ive been an emotional mess througout my wedding planning process. tears at the drop of a hat lol) ANYWAY She said for her reciting their vows to each other prior to the wedding day helped tremendiously. .. she said it gave her a chance to get all her emotions out and she was able to really take in the words during her ceremony after hearing them for a second time without all the emotions clouding the moment

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  • ceelengoestocamp
    Super December 2016
    ceelengoestocamp ·
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    @OliviaP Thank you!

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  • MrsNerd
    Master October 2016
    MrsNerd ·
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    No advice. Just sharing in case anyone wanted to feel better about their own crying. Because it will be no match for my ugly cry down the aisle. No match. I sobbed the whole way - when I got to my parents, the most wonderful thing happened - my dad accidentally knocked off my veil, and from then on we all laughed. But before that...like I was walking to slaughter lol.


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  • Trista
    Dedicated July 2016
    Trista ·
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    We did a first look and it did help, however, I still felt the urge to cry while walking down the aisle (& I'm generally not a crier). I stopped myself by looking at my guests. If I had looked at my husband the entire time I would have lost it & looked like a complete mess.

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