I have a baby who will be 1 at the time of my close friend’s 2-night bach party in another state, and I’m breastfeeding and don’t want to be away from him for an overnight, so I rsvp’ed only for 1 night. Then, after some anxiety I realized I was only comfortable w/ flying down+back for the day (6am-9pm). And now after drama unrelated to baby, i want to back out but don’t know how to w/o hurting bride’s feelings.
The party planner has been bitchy to my face (“you’re leaving that baby!”) and behind my back (telling my other BFF that I need to put my big boy pants on, that my offer to sleep on a couch for just my one night means I “don’t understand luxury”). She claims this is all b/c she is standing up for the bride who got married in a sad situation w/ her mom at the hospital, but the bride is a 34 year old woman who can come to me if she is hurt.
I’m not going to spend $500 to go hang with the bitch planner. So how do I back out without damaging my relationship with the bride?