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Maya
Dedicated October 2018

How soon after your engagement did you start planning your wedding?

Maya, on July 22, 2017 at 12:57 AM

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My family is feeling like we are moving too fast in touring and finding vendors for our wedding though is 13 months away. We got engaged this week July 17th. Is it too soon to plan? Should I set the date further?

My family is feeling like we are moving too fast in touring and finding vendors for our wedding though is 13 months away. We got engaged this week July 17th. Is it too soon to plan? Should I set the date further?

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  • LuckyAK
    VIP March 2018
    LuckyAK ·
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    I got engaged in June 2016 and I'm getting married in March 2018. As long as your taste doesn't change- I'm happy I got started so early. I had my venue booked in October 2016 and found my dress the same month. It makes it easier to not be in a rush!

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    Not too soon at all. I had a year and my venue didn't have a lot of dates left. I wish I had given myself a couple more months. The last couple months of planning were crazy!

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  • T Marie
    Super October 2017
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    It's not too soon at all. We got engaged October 2015. Started planning Jan/Feb of 2016 for May of 2017 but had to put it on hold due to unforeseen circumstances. We found our venue this past Feb for October wedding.

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  • Jessica
    Devoted June 2017
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    I guess it depends on what you consider planning? From what you've described, I'd consider that planning. I mean you have to look into venues before you can set a date, and start thinking about other details. Until you choose a venue, you won't know how long it will take you to save for it either. We were very fortunate to have enough in savings that it wouldn't have mattered if we got married in 2016 or 2017 at our venue and still have an emergency fund, but if we had chosen a more expensive place we might have had a longer engagement.

    We started planning immediately, we signed venue contracts 2 weeks later for a date 18 months out. It wasn't ideal as we wanted to be married asap. It was either 18 months or 4 months with the venue I wanted, it was the busy season at a job I just started and I wanted to enjoy planning so 18 months it was! I've known people who got engaged and booked a venue the next day for 6 months out (booked the resort where they got engaged), and people who were engaged for 4 years before even starting to look at venues.

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  • Lindsay
    Dedicated October 2017
    Lindsay ·
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    We got engaged in February and our wedding is in October. We found almost all of our vendors within a month, then we were able to relax for a bit. As long as your vendors are booked, the rest of the planning will be easy with the amount of time you're giving yourself. Don't wait too long and make a plan for when you want to do everything. Time flies!!!

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  • Susan
    VIP December 2017
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    I thing you're fine. Many popular venues will book up over a year in advance, especially during wedding season- and remember you don't have a date until you have a venue!

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  • WishUponAWilson
    Devoted May 2018
    WishUponAWilson ·
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    I think it depends on your planning and life situation. My FH is in the restaurant business and right now it's off season. While he's able to help and go around to places, we're planning as much as possible. In another two months he won't be able to have the extra time with me. We did a 13 month engagement. Have all the major vendors, picked our venue within a month and all the others fell into place within a few weeks after that

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  • MissMay18
    Expert May 2018
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    I think you should start booking because 8/18/18 is a very popular date. Good vendors and venues will book up fast.

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  • MrsC2B
    Expert December 2017
    MrsC2B ·
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    You are right on time. Always give yourself enough leeway to shop around and figure out pros and cons of choosing one vendor over another.

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  • Rebecca
    Super September 2017
    Rebecca ·
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    First, congrats on your engagement! We started shopping around immediately. Our engagement is just over a year long, but could definitely have been 2 years! Lol.

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  • MsMac
    Expert September 2017
    MsMac ·
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    We got engaged about nine months before our date, and I started planning for real about two weeks after he proposed. Thirteen months is basically a year, I don't think you're starting too early. The more time you have, the better. Wedding planning takes a lot of time and has a million moving parts, especially if you don't have a planner.

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  • Catie
    Expert October 2017
    Catie ·
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    I got engaged and on the car ride home I started going over ideas of what I wanted with FH. lol that week we were already looking at venues and had it booked a week later.

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  • Natalie
    Super September 2017
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    Nope I think it's perfect. We got engaged July 29th last year and had a venue by September.

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  • NinjaBride
    Super June 2018
    NinjaBride ·
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    I don't think it's too soon! We got engaged in February but I was busy with school so we didn't book anything until this month. By the time I started planning the wedding is 11 months out now. Do whatever works for you.

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  • Madison
    Expert September 2018
    Madison ·
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    I've already got 90% of it planned and it's not until September of 2018. I started planning in May of this year.

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  • lawn_flamingo
    Devoted September 2017
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    I booked a venue within a week of being engaged. Engaged on December 21st, when we saw all the family for Christmas, they were all "you're getting married in 2017 then, right???", and I was like, "sure, I don't know, I guess that's cool", and found a venue right away. 9 month long engagement and it's all worked out really well so far.

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  • Samantha
    Devoted April 2018
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    We started planning the next day...I had my dress less than a month after he asked. You're not planning too early in fact I think you're giving yourself enough time to save, make changes and not be stressed

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  • Futuremrsc
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    Futuremrsc ·
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    We started planning right away with a 17 month engagement and I'm glad we did beacuse time is going by crazy fast and you don't realize how much stuff you have to think about and decide on until you get started

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    Futuremrsk ·
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    Depending on your area you are right on track. In our area venues, djs, photographers, and catering people book up to 2 years in advance, some even 3 years out! So if you have your heart set on certain vendors it is better to book early and get them secured than to wait and maybe wind up disappointed because the date you wanted is already booked for whichever vendor. 13 months will fly by. We have been engaged since April, and I feel like it was yesterday, yet here we are coming up on end of july soon!

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  • Cecilia
    Devoted November 2017
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    I think is never enough time, keep going girl, do whatever you can before so you don't stress yourself later.

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