How necessary is Garter/bouquet toss?

I am doing it cause my sister's wedding 3 years ago me and my fiance caught both the bouquet and the garter respectively. And another reason for me is that although I am a bit uncomfortable with the removal of the garter I want to look back 20 years from now when we have a quarrel and say this man went under my dress in front of 200 guest and pulled out my garter belt from my upper thigh and be able to forgive him.

I'm doing both. I had a breakaway toss bouquet made of 12 artificial flowers. Single flowers will be received instead of one bouquet. It works for my style.

Im not doing either one. There will be very few single women at my wedding to do the toss as I am one of the last ones to get married. Seems silly to do it for the children in attendance. And my fiancé and I both agreed removing the garter is awkward in fron of the families.

We didn't do either! The garter toss feels so inappropriate to me and the bouquet toss felt like a waste of time. Our guests didn't notice either missing and our vendors didn't question our choice to exclude the either. Our florist threw in a "toss bouquet" for free in case I changed my mind (I had a cascading bouquet...so no way was I tossing that!). We didn't end up using it but it looked very pretty on our card/gift table.

I agree! Skip the garter toss! I’m getting married in September and will be skipping this awkward part of the wedding agenda!

It's up to you and very much a know-your-crowd thing. I don't really see the tosses being a cost issue, though. Generally florists will throw in (har har) a free toss bouquet for free as part of the wedding package. (Actual bridal bouquets often weigh upwards of five pounds. You could seriously clunk someone in the head with it). Garters--especially one to be flung across a reception hall--can be bought for a buck online. (FWIW, my bridal salon gave me one as a gift for buying my gown.)

I haven't seen a garter toss since the 80s. I did the bouquet toss at my wedding this past December and unwittingly threw it at the head of our DJ. Since she was standing nearest him, my husband's cousin wound up winning it on a technicality. :-)

Totally not necessary and everyone is so not doing it! I MIGHT get a toss bouquet and do that, just because my florist does it cheap. But the garter I can't bring myself to do. I'm wearing one but I don't want my husband crawling up my dress in front of my dad and brother. My fh likes hockey so we might wrap some ribbon around a puck and he'll toss it or shoot it with a stick or something cheesy. But don't do anything because you think everyone else is, so what you guys want to do!

Not necessary at all; I'm not doing either at our ceremony! I just am not into this tradition at all

I meant at our reception; it's early hah

I am getting married later this year and we decided we are not doing the bouquet and garter toss. I always hated being out there for the bouquet toss when I was single, so why would I do it to other people. Plus, I always thought it was super awkward for the guy and girl who caught the bouquet and garter when he puts the garter on her.

Repeating everyone when I say DEFINITELY do what you prefer! I will say a coworker suggested making a cheap second bouquet (or buying) one to toss. DO NOT throw your own! It’s you and your spouse’s day, do what y’all want!

Yes. My fiance and I aren't following those traditions. It's not necessary to do it. No one will care and if they do care it's their issue not yours. It's your wedding so do what makes you comfortable don't do what others want or expect. In the end have a great time doing your own thing.

I choose to include them in my wedding. So the choice is yours...be different!

OMG I am SO glad I read this thread!! My FH was NOT keen on the garter toss and to be honest, I wasn't either so I think we'll skip it. I already snagged a cute toss bouquet at Hobby Lobby for like $6 with a 40% off coupon that I plan to use. I think that part of the reception is kinda cute, and there will be a few single ladies there. But I think we will skip the garter toss, even though I already bought one and will probably still wear it under my dress

We're skipping both - my sister is getting married less than a month after us, so we already know "who's next."

Everyone doesn’t do them.. but you can find Amazing beautiful garters on eBay and Etsy! For 20.00 or less and get just one! To show off for his eyes only. Get a few flowers tie them in a ribbon and toss it! Forget the garter toss.. it’s your day enjoy it how you see fit!!

I didn't do either of them. No one missed it! They are fun, but they aren't that important.

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I LOVE this idea.