Ingrid
Super September 2018

How necessary is Garter/bouquet toss?

Ingrid, on July 11, 2018 at 3:23 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 78
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I’m already over my expected budget, and I can’t justify spending money buying not one, but TWO garters so that my husband can go up my dress in front of people. He’s shy, so I can’t picture him having a fun time doing this either. Also, my bouquet is expensive so I don’t want to throw it away??? Honestly I’m wondering if people will even notice if we skip out on these traditions. The only reason aim even considering doing them is because “everyone” does them, and that doesn’t seem like a good enough reason. What do y’all think? What will you do at your wedding?

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Latest activity by djkooima, on February 12, 2019 at 2:07 PM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I don't think they are necessary! I'm getting a toss bouquet so I can keep mine and my garter isn't special to me so I don't mind giving it away. Usually the guy doesn't take it with him anyway. BUT if I was at a wedding without them, I wouldn't care!

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  • Pegs
    VIP July 2018
    Pegs ·
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    Definitely not necessary. I will say that the garter removal makes me cringe like all heck. But you definitely do not need to go through with any of these traditions.

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    Heck no! I completely agree, and frankly I see no reason to "single-out" the already "single" wedding guests. We are skipping both of these outmoded traditions.

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  • Ingrid
    Super September 2018
    Ingrid ·
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    Glad I’m not the only one feeling that way!!!
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  • M
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    Mim ·
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    I haven't seen either toss done 8n years. Just skip them, no one will care.
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  • Ingrid
    Super September 2018
    Ingrid ·
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    Another reason to fee “salty” — I’ve seen guests basically tear apart the bridal bouquet in their efforts to grab it. What a waste of a hundreds of dollars bouquet 😭
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  • Disneysue
    Devoted September 2018
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    We aren't doing them either. I ALWAYS HATED the toss, and would make every attempt to NOT go up or stand in the back in when I forced up. Besides, on our guest list, I think theres maybe 3 single people in total. Definitely NOT necessarily at all.
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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
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    Not everyone does them anymore. As someone who was single for a long time, I was glad when the tradition got skipped.

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  • H
    Dedicated October 2019
    H ·
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    Definitely skip. 100%. I hate the bouquet toss as a guest.
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  • Keisha
    Dedicated October 2019
    Keisha ·
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    I don't think anyone will notice too much. If they do, oh well! It's your wedding. If it won't be fun for you or your hubby I really don't see a point in putting yourself through it. Smiley smile

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  • Brae
    VIP September 2019
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    Not necessary. We're not doing either.
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  • Ingrid
    Super September 2018
    Ingrid ·
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    I’m surprised at how many people are agreeing that they are doing neither — it seems that every wedding I’ve been to has done both. I haven’t been to that many weddings, though.
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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    We are not doing either! The last three weddings have all done them, but I have zero interest in doing it at our wedding. Plus, if you stop the dancing for those "activities," it really kills the party mood. Our DOC asked if we were planning to do it and was relieved when we said no.

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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
    DC Wife 10.27.18 ·
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    Not necessary at all. We aren't doing either.

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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    Not doing it - I hate how people feel put on the spot with this. We have maybe 4 single ladies and 6 single guys at our wedding.
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  • Kristina
    Master August 2018
    Kristina ·
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    Most people are tossing this tradition!

    I'm not doing either. I never enjoyed having to go out and try to catch a bouquet, and I've always found the garter toss to be tacky and highly embarrassing. I always dreaded it when thinking about my wedding and finally decided to do away with it cause neither myself nor my FH wants to do that in front of people.

    If you don't want them, do away with them. It's becoming quite common!

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  • C
    Devoted September 2018
    Chrissyboo0 ·
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    They are not necessary at all. It is just personal preference. I'm not doing either one. I personally find the garter toss weird and tacky. The bouquet toss them s just unnecessary and really isn't anything to miss IMO.
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  • Little Star
    Expert April 2019
    Little Star ·
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    Echoing PPs here! It’s definitely not necessary and we aren’t doing it either. Most of our friends aren’t single so there’s no need to! I am thinking of giving my bouquet to the couple who has been together the longest, though.
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  • Lily
    Beginner June 2019
    Lily ·
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    Oh, I'm surprised so many of you are skipping this tradition but I'm glad that is the case! I was planning to do both. I don't care much for the garter so don't mind giving that away. However, I do care about my bouquet. It was never my intention to throw my own bouquet because I like flowers so definitely want to keep mine. I planning to throw one of my bridesmaids'. Now that I think about it, probably best to throw a cheaper in case they all want to keep theirs. Maybe get one from the deli, hmm, got me thinking!
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  • Ingrid
    Super September 2018
    Ingrid ·
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    I like the idea of an anniversary dance and giving the bouquet to the couple who’s been married the longest. But I don’t want it to be mine or my bridesmaids’ bouquets. Maybe I’ll ask my florist to bring one cheap one for this.
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