How necessary is Garter/bouquet toss?

I'm not doing it because I think it's tacky, but also every vendor that hears you're not doing it also goes "thank gd, it's so tacky" lol if you don't want to then don't!

I've seen the anniversary dance posted a few times on this thread? Will you explain this a bit please?

We are not planning on doing either! I actually went to a wedding recently where they did it and they did not have many single people, so there were only a couple of people up there. I definitely don't want that to happen or to embarrass anyone, especially my FH since he is pretty shy too!

I don't think you need to do them! I'm skipping out on the garter toss *that would be extremely awkward*. For the bouquet toss you could make another smaller bouquet (your local hobby lobby, Michaels, thrift store or even marketplace on facebook) and use that bouquet. Or you could simply skip out on that, I don't think anyone would miss it. I've been to weddings where they skipped out on both as well.

Garter toss and bouquet toss seem outdated to me. And why waste the money???

The last wedding that there was a garter toss that I went to was over 10 years ago and I think it's because the couple were in their early 20s and thought "this is what you do"...and I can almost bet they wouldn't do it now. I thought they were a thing of the past and quite frankly tacky but I see on here it sometimes still does happen. I actually cringe at the thought.

As for the bridal toss, I have gone to weddings that have had them and others that haven't. I personally am not doing one because I am in my mid 30s and I know that many single women my age hate it and I don't have many younger women going. I also don't want to lose my bouquet. I will say though, I am a little sad not to do it, it seems fun and cute.

At the weddings I have been to that have the anniversary dance the DJ announces that it's time for the anniversary dance and calls up all married guests that want to participate in it. As each song plays he stops the music either halfway through or when it ends on a particular anniversary such as 10 years. At each anniversary the DJ asks something along the lines of the secret of the couples marriage or some advice for the newly married couple. As the time of marriage gets longer it's narrowed down to the couple that have been married the longest which at the last wedding I went to was I believe 70 years and they were in their early 90's. The advice this couple gave was to have good communication and the husband told everyone a bit of their story which was rather heartwarming as they had been through WW11 together. Usually the longest married couple is given a bouquet of flowers which can be a toss bouquet.

From a scale of 1-10 (10 most necessary) it's a 0.

I plan to skip it as well. But since I'm doing all silk flowers, I bought a cheap $5 bouquet that actually matches, to toss if people bug me..

We didn't do either. We felt like the garter was embarrassing and most of my friends are married, so it would have been awkward to do a bouquet. We also didn't want to ruin the flow too much. No one said anything about missing it

We're not doing either. We both don't like those typical traditions. I am however keeping the family tradition going by wearing my mom's garter. My sister wore it on her wedding day and it's also my something old, borrowed and blue.

I am not doing either one. We want more time to party and mingle.

These traditions are definitely not necessary. My sister did them at hers but my best friend opted out of them. I haven't made a finally decision yet personally, but I am leaning towards not doing either! Save your money!

We aren't doing either, the idea of them just make us uncomfortable and we'd rather spend our night dancing with friends and family. We aren't very traditional to start so we are changing some traditions to fit us and taking out others all together. In the end it's your wedding so spend it how you want to!

They are definitely not necessary. We're still doing them though. For what it's worth, a toss bouquet can be pretty cheap and the garter toss doesn't have to be that scandalous. But people certainly won't miss them if you don't do them.

I'm not doing either. As an alternative I'm doing an anniversary dance so that I can share my toss bouquet with longest married couple.

It's your day and you get to decide what you want to do or don't want to do. If you decide you want to toss a bouquet but not your "real" one, but don't want to have a smaller toss bouquet made, buy an artificial bouquet from a craft store to throw. I'm already doing artificial flowers anyway, and want to keep my bouquet, and the woman making my flowers throws in a free toss bouquet.

What an awesome idea!!