How much is too much to spend on a bachelorette party?

Thanks for all the suggestions! I don't have any updates yet.

And I have been to the destination (Savannah) before and I'm bummed that I won't be able to go since it's so beautiful there. But I'm definitely not driving there! That's a 14 hour trip!!

They cannot expect you to spend all of that. I have said "No" to 2 of my close friends bachelorette parties this year and nobody took it personally, which is how it should be when there's been an out-of-town bach party planned. Good luck, I hope she understands!

I spent about $300.00 on a bachelorette party this year. It was overnight in Philly and that did not include the hotel room because the bride's mom paid for that as a gift. It was a lot, and if she wasn't my best friend/literally the only person I know aside from myself getting married in the near future, I would not have spent that.

Hi all! Another update. Like I said earlier, after telling the bride and MOH I will be unable to attend the bachelorette party due to budget constraints, the MOH was going to speak separately to the bride about moving the party. The MOH texted me yesterday saying the bride is not budging on the destination, so now the MOH will track flights with me. At this point, I'm completely fine just not going. However, it seems my friend/the MOH isn't willing to drop me off the bachelorette party yet. After talking to her, she emailed me the link to custom cups to buy for the bachelorette party and then put me on a group email with the itinerary! I thought I made myself crystal clear that I will not be attending.

Ignore the links and group emails

The bride won't budge? Really? Well that doesn't mean anyone will do her bidding if they ultimately can't afford it. Maybe someone needs to have a CTJ talk with her.

Oy

I am better off financially than some of my bridesmaids. I would like to give my Maid of Honor money to cover airfares and to assist with any expenses. I will stay out of any planning as that is her bailiwick. When I ask someone to be a bridesmaid how do i say to them I am paying for your airfare, hair, makeup, dress, jewelry and all you are responsible for is your shoes? Is there some tactful way to do this?

Hapenny