How much did you spend?

I'm in NH and am a between 25-30k not including the honeymoon.

Its going to be decently expensive because it is in New York, it also depends where in NY. If you are doing in somewhere in the city or on Long Island, that is where you are going to pay the most. If it is upstate NY it will be slightly cheaper, but not much. Mine is back on Long Island (where I was born and raised) and it is probably going to be somewhere between 30-35K.

Wow you guys, that's a looot of money.

I hope you guys have your dream wedding and have a lot of fun.

Wish you all good luck and so much love. <3

My parents have generously given us a budget of $42,000. FH and I expect we'll contribute around $5k on top of that. Our wedding is in Baltimore, we expect 175-200 guests.

About 14k for 90 guests in St. Cloud, Fl, including dresses and accessories, not including airfare to the wedding destination and mini-honeymoon to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter (both were free because DH won a competition at work for a vacation so he chose to use the funds on airfare and Universal).

Wow... all I can think is that wedding are TOO DAMN expensive!! This industry has gotten OUT OF CONTROL! Seriously... I long for the days when a wedding was a fairly simple (an inexpensive) affair. There is just no way I could in good conscience spend probably more then $3-5000 grand for a wedding. And that's taking into account the cheapest place I can find to get married that is still decent (read that as under $500), that almost everything we spend money on is either something that we can actually use after the wedding (talking about any decorations, bouquets, etc..) or keep (like rings, etc..), that the dress stayed under my $500 budget (excluding accessories and alterations), that any bridal party wear was something they already had in our color scheme or they could re-use, that the people we invited were our nearest and dearest (i.e. those we'd care if saw before we died, or attended our funeral), and then sharing our first meal as husband and wife somewhere good, but not too expensive, and reasonable for what you get. By far our biggest splurge was our $1000 honeymoon (not incl food, souvenirs, etc..).

There was one place I wanted to go after the ceremony, but it was $40 a head, even with only 20 people, that's nearly $1000 before tax, tip, etc... I just couldn't do it, when there were other affordable alternatives that I knew had good food. That $1000, could have gone to so much more!! I have kids, there are charities... heck, it'seven Christmastime when I get married. I think of all that money, food. A lot of the numbers mentioned here could buy you and your spouse 2 cars outright, put a down payment on a house, and if you've really just got money to blow- there are others less fortunate, and charities. The numbers being thrown around here just boggle my mind. I can't even imagine spending that kind of money on ONE day. I'd seriously cut my guest list to immediate family, and maybe a couple close friends, and do it WAY cheaper... then save and bank that money for rainy day fund, car, house, a baby later so I could take off time from work or buy all the baby crap we need/want. But no way could I justify spending that much, on my wedding, to myself.... but maybe that's just ME, and I'm weird... the oddball. I am guilt driven creature, and I just couldn't do it.

Anyway, too each their own... whether we chose to have a dry wedding, cash bar, make our own cake, left friends and family help, or spending 10's of thousands of dollars on our wedding... each individual choice makes each individual wedding unique. I don't believe there's a good or bad way to do anything. They are all choices. And sure some may judge us for them, but let's face it there's no way around that either, no matter what we do, what choices we make down to how we dress, what house we buy, what we name our kids WILL BE judged,. So we need to spend less time worrying about what Sally down the street is doing, or Linda on the forum, and just support each other -regardless if their choice would be ours. Just be glad we DON'T have to our things their way, because I am also pretty sure they are just as glad they aren't stuck with our choices in life too.

My parents gave us what they could afford. What they could afford was $42k. Just because people want to spend a good amount of money on a wedding doesn't mean they're sacrificing elsewhere in their lives, or not donating to charity like you repeatedly mentioned.

Long island roughly 25000 for 100 people

Not including rings or honeymoon, about $6000 for 75 people.

Laughing because you say we shouldn't judge Linda on the forum, when in your previous paragraph you basically judge big budget brides for spending money on "ONE day."

Blood of my first born child.

This thread was an eye opener for me. We hadn't really kept up with the expenses for our wedding... but it looks like we will be right under $9000 for ours with 50 guests. ETA: I can't spell today

We were going to do it in NY to because that's where we live but most of my fam lives in VA, and he only has 20 people coming the other 180 are mine but with the DJ, Cake, Caterer, Photographer, Alcohol beverages, venue, decor, and miscellaneous things we are spending about 12gs.

@Special what? All things are not equal. If I want to spend, say, 60K on my wedding (just a number I pulled, not necessarily reflective of my wedding), that's MY business because it's MY money. But if I'm allegedly hosting guests to a wedding, then presenting them a cash bar and self-catered warm seafood, that is their business because I'm being a terribly tacky host and will be (rightfully) side-eyed by anyone with an eye and a sliver of a sense of etiquette. It's not at all the same thing.

And FYI, just because I choose to spend money on my wedding doesn't mean that I don't give to charity or that I don't put money away for all the things you mentioned. Some of us can afford to do both, so quit assuming.

When we wanted to get married in the city, we were going to rent out a restaurant in little Italy..60 pp on NYE. So many options in NYC you aren't stuck with just big venues there. We decided to do the same thing, but here in nj..NYC would have been cheaper lol!!

I'm in nj. We spent around $50000 including every single expense down to the smallest detail

I also should say this was for 150 people On a Saturday night in July and does not include our honeymoon

I havent done an updated total yet but everything but honeymoon (not having one for awhile) is under $5k

Mine will be about 35k including honeymoon. I live in Connecticut

In the Houston TX location. I'm about 10,000 that's was my min budget max is 15,000 I haven't added it with our rings, my dress, honeymoon.