How many "wedding crashers" did you get?

Skip the extra table. It extra money that probably won't get used. Sounds mean. But we skipped doing an extra table, 'just incase'. They way I seen it, you bring an extra, uninvited guest/s with out asking. You will figure out your mistake when there is no where for them to sit. And we did have one for sure that came. I was quite p*ssed off with it. It was a 12 year old girl, in jean shorts and a gruby tank top. At our formal wedding.

And yes, I had been told that they were looking for table that had enough empty spaces wo fit her in.

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So someone brought a random scrubby pre teen and then tried to change his seat to fit her in? Did you have assigned seats? That's what i'm afraid of because then what do they do?

Mrs. Schmidt....That is sooo rude! The problem with kid crashers is the trouble it causes if you are having a " no kid" or "restricted kid wedding."

I also say skip the extra table....cost alone. If you are doing buffet,your caterer, my tack on some extra cash. If you are doing sit down, caterer may do the same.

Oh...at my first wedding...many moons ago...we had 6 no shows that we paid for. Solution...we asked for the dinners to be wrapped and brought home...after all, we paid for them. : )

Good luck!

We had two guest bring extra people but it was sfter the dinner was served so i didnt mind too much

We are having somewhat of a child restriction... kids under 5 other than our 3 year old who is in the wedding are asked to stay home with babysitters. If we added all the young kids like babies and toddlers it would be over 12 more seats and we just can't do it. What i'm worried about is our friends. They are almost all going through the "date someone for 1 week-1month and then find someone new" phase and I am not about to pay for the extra space for them. We seated groups of friends together so they would be happy with who is at their table and not need to bring random people along to feel better. But you never know what's going to happen til it happens.

@ MissGrimm, I didn't have assigned seats. I like open seating when I go to a wedding, as for assigned seating, I somehow get stuck with the rude obnoxious people

I to this day, still have no clue why she was there, I know who brought her, but I haven't the slightest idea why she was there, this was also a guest of IL's

I had 3 people get sick and didn't show up, and 1 didn't make it from the ceremony to the reception. However, it was ok because one guest brought her sister that I wasn't aware of so then it got knocked down to 3 empty seats. But the caterer provided my 3 vendors there with the same entrees instead of the basic chicken breast that apparently the vendors normally get.

You don't need an extra table because about 5% of guests will not show up when you thought they were coming.

since you have 70, it should be easy to place them in the no shows.

you might want to call a couple of people, who are notorious for not showing up or bringing an extra --just to be aware of prob ahead of time.

I have a son thats 8 yrs old and I feel bad making it a no children wedding when my children will be there.So I'm going to order pizza for them if I get uninvited guest they will get pizza!

We didn't have any issues, thankfully. My mom's cousin called me a few days before to see if her daughter's fiance could come. I think JJ gave great advice about calling people. I know it's a hassle, but it'll keep you from stressing on your day.

I had one and he was not part of anyone side of the family. It was an church event going on next door and than he was talking to some of the bridesmaids and groomens outside. I thought they knew him from somewhere. Than this guy had sat at the Family head table. Come on really. Than he made an excuse to the workers and said that he knew my mom. My mom said sorry but I don't know you. They told him that he had to go and was really professional about it. Not many people knew about it. Hubby wanted to go kick him out himself, but I told him no let the staff handle it since we are eating and we are on the stage.

We only had one extra (in a crowd of 120), but it was no big deal because of several last minute no shows.

Hah-I plan on doing assigned tables, so if someone shows that rsvped no or someone just brings an extra person, they will find themselves a bit stuck and looking like an idiot when there is no place card and no seat for them! and I plan on contacting those who dont RSVP to get their answer when the time comes, so, no I wont feel sorry for them one bit

I can almost guarantee that you will not use that extra table, I bet there will be some RSVPs who said yes, who are no shows; and maybe one or two adds; it will balance out.

I agree about not needing the extra table..I think there's more of an issue with guests who don't show than uninvited guests who do.

At our hometown reception, I don't think we had anyone show who said they weren't going to, and we DID have people not show who said they were coming. We only had one person show up who wasn't invited--girlfriend of an invited guest.

I share your fear. I don't plan to have any extra seats available. Being an older couple I feel that we invited you to our wedding because we wanted you there to share in our joy. If we didn't invite you then.... We have scrubbed our list and keep reminding ourselves to invite those we want to have there. I already have a couple of cousins that invited themselves. I expect more may invite themselves. I am not going to make accommodations for the uninvited ones because I'll remind them that they didn't invite me to their wedding. Also, we are going to have our reception on a military base and we have to supply our guest list to them for them to be let in. I hope that they will be stopped at the gate if they are not on the guest list. If we didn't have that I would probably hire some kind of person to check names before entering the reception.

The no shows make me irate and i know there is nothing i can do about it, on my day i cannot and will not focus on the no shows or else it will show all over my face and all i can see me doing is doing the calculations in my head of money spent!!!! it is so rude and inconsiderate.