How Many Venues Should You Visit in a Day?

I've seen your posts a lot so I know you have a lot planned. Has your boyfriend been involved the whole way through or are you waiting to present all the ideas when you get a ring?

View Quoted Comment It’s just my opinion. Once we were officially engaged I ran every decision by FH. It’s his wedding too and I wanted him to have equal day. If that meant I nixed any venue he really hated in photos or in person then I did. We only toured venues we both loved and did it together first before bringing in anyone else. It’s not just about the bride and since he took the time to ask you to marry him and gave you an engagement ring it’s only right for him to get equal say

You should really just bring a backpack or tote bag with all the things you’ve picked already. Be sure to have your engagement story rehearsed too. They’ll want to know

View Quoted Comment When we went to 3 back to back, we took the information packets they gave us and took our impression notes and overall thoughts while driving to the next one. We crossed all those off our list pretty fast. I am happy that the venue we picked we didn't

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To add to what I was saying...
I am happy that we didn't have anymore venues scheduled on the day we found "the one" for us because we spent almost 3 hours there.it would have been a long day

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Yes he has been involved the whole way through. I ask for advice, help, opinions, and discuss with him often the vendors I have reached out to, and the things I have planned and ask his thoughts and take input. We are both equally very excited not just to have a wedding, but to be married. We are so happy to have planned so far in advance in order to have a seamless day instead of a poorly planned wedding like the most recent wedding we attended.

Actually it is important to disclose that and you are lying by omission when you don't. You are making them believe you are looking for a service for a specific date and that they may possibly have your business.

When someone runs an independent company (like a photographer) they rely on services like weddings to make a lot of money to sustain their business. It's inconsiderate to waste their time because you are day dreaming of an event that MAY one day happen.

So if you aren’t really engaged yet, are you planning all this out so you can just pay for it when he does propose? Do you have money for deposits?

2-3 is probably the more realistic goal because you may find many venues dont give weekend tours either because its outside of business hours or they have weddings booked on the weekends. This includes other vendors. I did find it was easy to book the catering tastings any day so you could probably do 4-5. Just give 2 hours between to give you time to get from one to the other.

I will answer your question: non until you're engaged.

Otherwise it's a waste of everyone's time

We just did 2 in one day but we could have done more. Whatever you feel like you have time for but overdue yourself.

We've done two in a day at most, that were in the same town. We looked at 5 venues and it took 4 Saturdays total

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Absolutely I agree 100% that it is about both of us! I have both asked and listened to hear anything he has said, suggested, or asked of me. I 100% know that it is not just my day, but OURS and have planned accordingly. I have added and nixed a lot of things he wanted and am always happy when he has input.

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We plan to be wed. My $40 promise ring holds the same meaning to us BOTH as a $4,000 dollar ring will hold. He had a surgery keeping him out of work for half of a year, so he is just now saving money for a ring. We are both excited to be officially engaged, to have a wedding, and most excited to be husband and wife and married to each other. If we weren't planning on being wed then I would absolutely tell vendors that. but we plan to be wed, and plan to be wed in 2019, which can be pushed back if need be.

Yes? I don't see how it is relevant? It was poorly planned from beginning to end. I am too young to drink and FH does not drink.

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That is something I am worried about! I don't want to make appointed meetings with venues and be late because I stayed long at one I loved! Being clear with the vendors that there is a time I must leave by if I have an appointment after will be important!

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Then why the distinction? I mean if he asked, and you said yes and you are planning then it really doesn't matter if the ring was 40$ or 4,000$ dollars. All that matters is that someone asked and you both are on the same page and are actively planning.

I just don't get why the distinction. In many books you are actually engaged. Is it really just because the ring is inexpensive?

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I AM looking for a service for a specific date and that they MAY possibly have your business.

I am not any less serious than engaged brides in my search for vendors and venues.

If he was out of work for 6 months, maybe you should wait and save up money for your married life together rather than a wedding. What happens if he gets hurt again and can’t work? Construction work is also dependent on weather, that could affect his job too

You don't even need a candy ring to get engaged.

The words "will you marry me" followed by "yes" have to be said by him or you.

That's all that is needed.