How many times would you ask someone to RSVP?

As far as your friend's "I'll let you know." I would have responded, "I need an answer now as my numbers are due soon. If you are unable to give a definitive answer now that is fine. We will put you down as a no and see you another time."

I followed up with one of my dad's cousins twice after the deadline, the second time letting her know numbers were due that day, and still couldn't get an answer. A week after I gave my count, I got her RSVP in the mail, she never even bothered to call to say she was coming so I had to redo seating charts and everything. RSVPs make you realize how inconsiderate people can be!

Maybe I am being too harsh but I would say once. BUT then again, when it comes to that situation arising for me, I would probably ask more than once.

Frankly? I wouldn't even do it at all, but once is enough. After that?

"We're sorry you won't be joining us though we appreciate your good wishes". Buy your own dinner, rude people.

I only had 8 ppl from my side that didn't RSVP by the deadline. So I fb messaged them (once). It resulted in 4 of them RSVP'ing No. Sadly, the 4 that are left are my grandfather, his wife (my step grandma-who I am not close to at all), my godmom and my godsister. At this point I don't think they are coming.

I think twice is enough for sure. But then you have to follow up with "Unfortunately since I didn't receive a firm response from you before our caterer's deadline, I've had to count you as a decline" type of thing. They need to know not to show up.

I'm planning to call/text/email (depending on who it is) once and ask directly. Then, if I don't hear from them, do it once more, saying if I don't hear from them by X date I'll assume they are a no and am sorry they can't attend/something a little more polite than that lol

"My numbers are due now. Are you coming or not?"

Simple and to the point. After her putting you off, I wouldn't be nice about it anymore.

My fh would have asked once after that it would have been considered a NO...if you have asked more than twice just move on. She would learn that day..just saying

Did you call or just text/fb message??

If/when you get invited to her wedding, you need to mail that RSVP the day AFTER it is due. I understand people have their own lives and stuff going on but sheesh!

I would ask and let them know if you don't hear back from them by a certain time then you are considering it a no. They should've had enough time to RSVP and then being reminded on top of that is surely enough.

I would put them down for a no but thats just me. My family and friends would expect that deadlines are firm and I am certainly not going to wait by the phone to see if your coming. Period

I always think when these questions come up - I am the only one that who is not planning on making any calls to people who don't RSVP. I feel this falls into the same line as telling adults what they should wear to the wedding.

I guess it's a personal choice for each person.

We will have a table, in the very back, of the venue for those who have not RSVP'd and my DOC will help direct those whose name is not listed on the seating chart.

I will not be sending mine until October. I told my fiance already; if they don't RSVP by the date that is stated on the invitation, I will not lift a finger to go out of my way to ask for their response. I will take that as a "eh." I feel like those who REALLY matter will respond in a timely manner.

I asked until they told me.

But, then again, I'm annoying sooooo....

Oh, and Sept2017AKBride.

Follow up.

We had TWO invitations lost in the mail.

I feel like it is important to follow up with people...sometimes things happen. but i agree with many pp's that if I have to ask more then once or twice its a no...too bad so sad lol. I'm glad I came ocross this thread since I didn't think about following up with them that I counted them as a no so they dont show up!

I had someone ask me when the wedding was? This was one week after the rsvp deadline. She is not coming.

I would try one last time, today, to CALL anyone that I hadn't heard from (no texting or facebook). Anyone who hasn't gotten back to you or you can't reach should be marked as a NO.