How many times would you ask someone to RSVP?

I would maybe try one last time? "Our final numbers are due today at 5..."?

As many times as it takes for me to get that 5th star!

@MrsSasswood....I'm confused

When I ask my missing people I will let them know that if we don't hear back by xyz they will be counted as a no since we need numbers for chairs for the ceremony.

I would be all over that and hound them! Lol.

I would call again today. Be blunt and tell her its a yes or no. Numbers are due and if she is getting married then she should know how it is.

She sounds like a no to me I wouldn't ask anymore

Once!

I would only ask once. Maybe twice depending on who it is

I gave up after 2 tries. If I call and text u and u don't have the decency to reply, I'll take that as No. I had one person give me a bunch of reasons they couldn't come but they refused to say the word "No" or "decline". So I told her I'll take that as a No and she said ok. Some people just want to hold out hope for a long time but my caterer can't wait till the morning of the wedding for someone to make a decision.

I plan on reaching out to people once.

You ask once with "If I don't hear from by this [date/time] you'll put them down as a decline with regret. As you've already reached out, reach out one last time with that so that all can assume there is a final deadline.

I'd give her one last shout then take it as a no. She should know that you need those numbers. I normally would say 3 unsuccessful attempts 2 successful then could it as a no.

Twice.

Going through this whole RSVP process has made me realize how rude some of my friends are...

I'd reach out to anyone who still hasn't given a yes or no one last time today, specifying that your final numbers are due to the caterer today. Include a time as the deadline.

I would ask once, then the 2nd time I would give them a cut off date and tell them they are a "no" if they do not meet that due date.

Honestly I would only reach out to people one time and then when I still don't hear back from them I will kindly call or send a message stating to them that unfortunately as we never received a yes or no from them we weren't able to include them in our final count.

Ew! I'm so annoyed for you! Who does that?

I would try calling each of the outstanding RSVPs and leaving a message such as:

"Hi so-and-so, I just wanted to follow up about whether or not you will be attending our wedding on August 20. Our venue requires the final numbers by tonight, so if you could give me a call back to confirm yes or no, that would be appreciated! I hope you can make it."

I know you've already done this, but maybe by stating that today it's either a yes or a no, they'll hopefully actually say "Oh no sorry we can't" or "Oh yea sorry I meant to tell you we can make it."