How Many Speeches Will You Have At Your Wedding?

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The idea of doing the speeches at the rehearsal dinner comes from my sister and BIL: they did this at their own RD, my FW and I loved it! (FYI i'm a groom)

We are doing this for the reasons you mentioned plus our parents,my step-parents and our siblings will want to give a speech/toast/roast but they fear public speaking , so giving them in front a smaller crowd is a good compromise.

About the thank you speech: my FW fears public speaking (I don't) but she still wants to say something, so we're planning to give a joint speech to accommodate her fear , I want her to "deliver" 3-4 lines and I'll take care of the rest. Since it's the only speech we're having at our reception, I would like it to last 3,5 - 4 minutes in lieu of the more traditional 2 min.

View Quoted Comment True but it worked out. This way I can ensure no embarrassment happens lol. I’m so glad I gave them time limits.

View Quoted Comment I love the idea of giving the speech together! Definitely helps with public speaking fears.

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh, I could totally see people on their phones if they get bored, but getting up and walking outside the venue is crazy! Definitely a sign that the speeches ran on for too long lol. Time limits and limiting the number of speeches is a must.

View Quoted Comment You could always ask your DJ to make an announcement about it! You might also want to have a system determined so that ten people don't all jump up and try to speak at once, lol. Maybe a sign up list with the DJ so they know who to hand the microphone to next? Otherwise, this sounds super fun!

View Quoted Comment I'm similar to your FW! Public speaking and I don't get along, lol. I think it's great that she's planning to still say something! The joint speech will likely help ease her fear. I think the longer speech makes sense, since it's the only one you'll have at the reception. Sounds like you have a great plan in place!

No toasts for us. They always tend to be awkward and uncomfortable. Plus not everyone is comfortable with public speaking.

View Quoted Comment Nothing wrong with that! I agree that sometimes, the speeches can be a little awkward. Sometimes they can be fun though! I think it just depends on the person giving the speech and what they choose to say. Skipping the speeches also gives everyone more time to dance/eat/socialize at the reception - definitely not a bad thing!