How frequent is your communication with wedding planner?

I've spoken to her once since we hired her a few months ago. She's just hired as a day of coordinator so communication wont pick up until April.

What does your contract say? What exactly did you hire her to do and what has she agreed to do? There are different types of planners consisting of different duties. Also, I would expect that as you get closer to your wedding you should hear from her more, but even that is subject to what your contract says.

I lived in the same town as my wedding planner and we pretty much only communicated via emails or text unless she was accompanying me on a vendor meeting. And as far as how often we communicated it really depended on the month. We communicated a lot at first getting venue stuff nailed down as well as the DJ and photographer and hair and makeup. Then she told me there wasn’t anything else to do right now but our next thing would be invitations x months out. If I ever had a question or needed to check in with her about something I could but a lot of times there wasn’t much to be done until closer to the wedding or she was just handling stuff for me behind the scenes and I didn’t need to know about it.

View Quoted Comment That sounds about right. So far we have booked our photographer and partial floral. Our event is 9 months away. I guess I'm just being nitpicky and just wanted more 🙁 I'm just so excited and wish someone were as excited as me lol I just don't have friends or family alongside nor do I have a bridal party

View Quoted Comment Yeah it’s hard because at the beginning there’s a lot of stuff to do but then there’s definitely a waiting period where there’s not much that can get done. If there’s something you’re concerned about though I would email her. I know once I emailed mine freaking out that I didn’t have a florist and she was like Kelly I have two florists on hold for your date you’re fine haha. There were a lot of things she just handled and I didn’t have to deal with it which was great.

View Quoted Comment We got married in October as well. By February we had venue, DJ, photographer, hair and makeup, my dress, and sent out save the dates. But after that I don’t think we did anything until end of May. My wedding planner had florist and transportation on hold. My wedding party and family had nothing to do with planning, they all just showed up for the wedding.

I don’t have a wedding planner (yet??), but I see no harm in you asking her what to expect for a planning timeline and how often you’ll communicate or receive updates. Just be friendly and emphasize how excited you are, and that this is all new to you, so you are a bit anxious about not knowing what to expect.

Giiiiirrrrll. That could be understandable how she might feel a little perturbed due to doing work not needed but at the same time you’ve already paid her in full. I think you should be communicating frequently if she was hired for more than day of coordinator. I had one that wouldn’t really contact me unless I contacted her. I eventually ended it because I wasn’t getting things done that I felt should be done or at least thought about. You hired them to take stress off of you so they should do that. Once a week sounds very reasonable in my opinion. But if it gets to sketchy and she isn’t responding back you confront her about it. I waited too long and am now 5 months out.

We have a similar package and I hear from her about every few weeks which is fine at this point since we are 7 months out and I have booked all of my vendors. There really isn't much for us to do at this point. We will speak more regularly as the wedding draws closer, but haven't felt the need to keep in touch more than that at this point. If you reach out to her she should be responsive though. All brides are different and require more communication than others. You can ask her for a weekly touch point if that makes you feel better. I am sure you wouldn't be the first or the last to ask for that.