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How do you ask for monetary gifts only

Private User, on December 7, 2011 at 11:09 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

My fiancé' and I both have homes and we are in the midst of buying one together. We are already trying to consolidate what we have. We really do not need another appliance, plate or glass (lol.. i have no clue where to put half of this stuff.. preferably his stuff.. lol) We are all filled up in these items, the duplicate items will be given to charity. giving some away.. So how do we put on our invitations that we would appreciate monetary gifts..

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Latest activity by Celia Milton, on December 7, 2011 at 11:08 PM
  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    You shouldn't put anything on invitations about gifts at all. Much less solicit cash.

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    Ok thanks ladies.. i am not soliciting for cash.. I just wanted my guests to know that i would prefer to not have gifts because i have way too much as it is.. not to mention that i don't like going through the hassle of returning. Thanks for your advice. I won't do a registry.. and hopefully i don't get gifts.. I know that may sound strange.. but believe me when i say i have every kitchen appliance that is needed (I love to bake, cook and entertain) so yeah between the two of us, we have a host of things.. and a lot of it is fairly new...

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  • Mrs. S™
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    Well, word of mouth is one option. Honeymoon fund is another, although some people believe that's just another way to ask for cash. A small registry is probably your best bet, because then most people in fact give you cash. If you don't have a registry at all, you're most likely to get many random items with no gift receipts so that seems like the worst option for you.

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  • Danica  Cindell
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    I have heard of couples setting up a bank account as a way for your guests to make anonymous deposits to. You shouldn't include it on the invitation-though I have seen cute way to do so. People will ask you where you are registered and you can say "Bank of America, here is the link" etc.

    Also, there are honeymoon funds that you can register for that guest can buy you experiences, dinners, even airfare! So, there are non-tacky ways to do itSmiley smile

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  • krisalicious
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    There are still people who will not want to give you cash and will give you a physical gift, regardless of whether you do a honeyfund or honeymoon registry or set up a bank account or anything else. And you'll risk offending them by setting up those things, they can be kind of controversial. I would avoid them, personally.

    Truthfully I think it's best to do a very tiny registry so that these people are more likely to get you something you will actually use. And if someone asks where you're registered, you can say "Thanks! At Target. But we don't really need much, mostly we're just saving for xxx. How was your Thanksgiving?"

    Good luck.

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  • Denise Dumars
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    You don't. It just isn't appropriate to ask for money; that's all there is to it.

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  • Yardiegirl
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    There is no way to ask for money that won't come off as tacky. There's an option on myregistry.com for guests to give you money but it's still has that tacky connotation to it.

    If you don't do a registry, people will give you things you really don't want. So, I would do a small registry of things you may need anyway. You might need some more towels, or sheets, or luggage because the ones you have are getting older. At least if its small you gave your guests an option.

    My friend just had her wedding and did not do a registry and she hardly got anything. That is because most people think a monetary gift has to be a certain amount. So, if they don't have it, they couldn't give it.

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  • Celia Milton
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    You don't.

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