Me and my fiancé have been engaged for a year now and still haven’t been able to feel as if we have money for a 13,000 wedding. Why does it seem like a lot of couples get engaged and instantly get married in a years time. Like where or how do these couples do it so fast! Sometimes it seems they even spend more then that. Is it a credit card, loan, or a family or both or savings I don’t get it!
It could be all of those things ! I had a friend who got married in three months! And she did it cause her husband had a lot of savings to pay for it all and she chose a venue that pretty much had packages to do everything for her
I would’ve been married in 8 months but dang CV19. Our wedding was about 15k not including honeymoon and our wedding attire. We paid for 70% of our wedding from tax refund and work bonuses. We’re both are engineers.
We got engaged around May and were planning on an October 2019 wedding. My sisters were unable to come because they work in hospitals so I pushed it to February 2020. It gave us more time to save. I was able to work a lot of OT when I could, and I also conveniently switched to another company and asked for a higher salary. We also took advantage of cc points, and used what we could for plane tickets, car rentals and hotel rooms. Our wedding was $30k (so my half was 15k) and we don’t have debt because we paid our cc immediately when the statements came. The ONLY thing any one of our parents paid for was my mom wanted to gift me my wedding dress, which was $500 (not included in our final budget). Other than that it was all us.
At least for me, it was a lot of planning ahead. Making sure we got good deals and taking advantage of what we could. Saving as much as I could, not eating out as much, bringing in lunch, etc etc. Its possible!
Now, some of that is ... I was 36 by the time we got married. So, I had a little bit more room re: credit/getting extra hours at work/etc. We also had family help, bargain hunted, and grabbed dates where we got better deals because vendors wanted to fill the date.
We didn't want to wait, so we made it happen. And we cut a lot of things that we didn't care about to do so.
I won't lie to you, it could get really stressful.
There are lots of reasons which contribute to how soon a couple gets married after getting engaged; everything from finances to availability to just taking a while to decide. That and generally speaking the more elaborate the wedding then the more time you *usually* need.
We’re getting married in December on our anniversary. I knew I wanted that date so mid-late last year before we got engaged (we got engaged on NYE 2019) I already started booking things (specifically our venue). There is a lot that goes into it!
For us we both worked a lot of overtime. Also, the more glamorous the wedding the more expensive it is. Our original wedding for 92 people (pre-covid) with buffet, open bar, officiant etc was $7800. Since covid came along we had to downsize with a guest list of 7, get married in an outdoor garden for $250, catering for $350. That was easier compared to the original $7800.
Would a year engagement be considered fast? I’m 31 and he’s 30 so we have enough in our savings. Plus my mom is helping out about 40%, his mom 12%, and the rest between us. Had we not had any help we would opt for a much smaller but nicer wedding with all the upgrades lol.
We've been planning our wedding for just over a year now and less than 4 months to go. We have been saving a little each month, 2nd job, overtime, tax refunds and bonuses. Our wedding will be 100% paid in cash but we planned it that way from the start. We didn't want to take out any loans or be in debt in any way because of the wedding we wanted (our entire destination 50 guest - wedding including rehearsal, transportation and Familymoon - FH has a son who will be with us) will all come to less than $8K and we find that to be high.
It could be any or all of it! There are people who go into credit card and/or loan debt for a wedding (wouldn't recommend that). There are families that pay for everything. And there are plenty of couples who pay for it all themselves. Also age, careers, and goals contribute to that as well. We all make decisions that are best for us at the time.
Are you asking how do couples get married so fast and have money to pay for it? Like many people mentioned, it depends on a lot of factors. Some people got married in a park, or just court house or their parents help pay for it.
In my case, I have been saving up money for the past 5 years for my Pinterest wedding.
Two of the people I know had a 80 grand wedding. One had a rich parents, and the other two are doctors.
I was planning my wedding very specifically for a while. We started dating October 2nd 2016, got engaged on the same date in 2019 and were planning on getting married on the same date in 2022. Then we got really excited and decided to keep the same date and get married in 2020, haha.
We're eloping so 6 months was plenty of time. It's crazy how much people spend in total when you add up all the small, unnecessary details. But everyone is different with what they consider essential.
You can omit whatever you like, and break traditions/skip them altogether!
Lots of was to save $. For example, you can make your reception a potluck instead of feeding people, skip favors altogether (most get tossed in the trash after the ceremony), buy a white bridesmaid dress instead of a bridal gown, get married somewhere scenic and reduce the amount of decor to purchase, etc.
You don't have to break the bank to throw some lavish party for guests. They're attending to show their support for you and your partner on your happiest day
I am a money saver to a fault lol. I have been saving as much as I possibly could since I started working at 18. I had my son at 16 and I am one of five kids so I grew up watching my parents never have any money for anything. So I always promised myself I would have money. When I met my now husband, I started saving even more. I knew we would get married eventually. And when he finally proposed 6 years later, his parents gifted us a wedding. However due to covid we had to postpone our big wedding and we ended up getting married in our backyard for 50 dollars 😂 it was absolutely perfect. If I had a choice to go back now, I wouldve married him last year, 3 months into our engagement in a back yard wedding. Some couples are lucky enough to have family to help as we were, and some may have been saving for years before the engagement, as I was initially planning.
It depends on a lot of factors. Everyone has different financial situations. For me personally, my husband and I were married 10 months after we got engaged and we paid for our wedding on our own. We created a new household budget right after we got engaged and saved every penny we could. We didn't go without anything though, we just tightened up our extra or unnecessary spending. So we didn't go out as much with friends -we started inviting them to our place or we would go to their's, we stopped our usual weekend trips that we'd take a few times a month and we started cooking at home a lot more. We both have great jobs, both of our cars are paid off so we don't have car payments and we don't have a lot of credit card debt. We dipped into our savings a little bit to pay everything up front, but put that money back into our savings before our wedding. We did not put anything for our wedding on either of our credit cards. I also saved a ton on our wedding b/c our date was in our venue's off season, we chose a local restaurant for our food instead of going with our venue's catering or a catering company, our cake was made by a coworker's wife who has a fantastic bakery business, I DIY-ed my bouquet and my bridesmaids bouquets (I'm not a fan of real flowers so I didn't see the point in spending hundreds/thousands of dollars on things I don't like), I DIY-ed our centerpieces, wedding programs, escort cards, RSVPs (so I did not have to buy the ones that were offered with our invitations & b/c my husband wanted funny RSVPs), we didn't hire a wedding planner, we decorated our venue ourselves, our DJ was a friend of a friend who gave us a small discount, our photographer was my sister's best friend who has her own business and gave us a discount and our officiant was one of my coworkers who my husband and I love. It is doable to get married not long after you get engaged, but a lot of factors do go into it.
We put the deposits down for our vendors ourselves, they were spaced out so they didn't hurt the pocketbook as much. I'm an only child so I guess you could say I'm spoiled but my parents are paying for most of the wedding. I and my FH are buying the extras i.e. gifts for the bridal party, his tux, and any of the smaller things. My FH's dad has offered to pay for the beer at the wedding and the rehearsal dinner. We are going to pay for wine as well, my FFIL will pay for it initially but we already have it planned that we are paying it back. Just easier than having another cc for them to charge. I would say my parents are paying for 70%, my FFIL 15% and then ourselves 15%.
Yikes! Now I feel guilty, me and my fiancé will be engaged for a year and a half by the time we get married. We’re paying for our wedding out of pocket but we were also able to get a credit card we put the cost of the venue on. Our wedding is also on the pricey side compared to some of the numbers I’m seeing but we also live in a pretty expensive area in Florida.... Yikes!