How can I tell my best friend(who might be a bridesmaid) not to bring her rude boyfriend?

You kinda can't tell her that unfortunately.

You don't. I had a friend's rude boyfriend ask me to my face at our reception "So which guy did you marry?", indicating his distaste for me dancing with a couple of my guy friends. You can't stop rude people from being rude. Just try to ignore it.

You don't. It is proper wedding etiquette to give anyone in a relationship a plus one to your wedding no matter what your relationship is with that person. Unless, he is physically violent, you invite him. You will have so much on your mind and going on at your wedding that you won't even notice him. Plus, your wedding is almost 2 years away, they could break up before then.

You really can't.

Nope. She is in a relationship so if you invite her, you invite him also. ESPECIALLY since she is a bridesmaid.

Shoot, I was afraid of that.

Would it just be better if I didn't invite my friend at all? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings,especially my friend's. But if this guy shows up, based on their former interactions, I wouldn't be surprised if my fiance approaches him and flat out tells him he's not welcome and needs to leave.

**Note** I haven't asked her to be a bridesmaid yet, and no invitations or save the dates have been sent out at this point.

If you're THAT hell bent on him not being there, that you're okay with hurting your friend by not inviting her at all, then I don't think she should even be in consideration for being a bridesmaid. I'm not saying you're a bad person. We didn't invite quite a few people because we didn't want to hear their idiot mouths run for even a few hours, but if she is THAT good of a friend, I wouldn't just leave her off the list.

Honestly, you're not even going to notice him there. Both you and your FH will be pulled in so many different directions that day that you won't spend more than a minute with most people.

Your FH needs to be a grown up for an evening. He doesn't have to like this boyfriend, but if this girl is important to you and you want to invite her, then your FH needs to understand that it means this guy will more than likely be there too. He can ignore someone for a few hours.

Pretty sure if you're calling her your best friend and she might even be in your BP, if you don't invite her, you'll probably ruin your friendship. Some people to save on budget, only invite plus ones if there is a ring involved (fiancé, married). While this is not ideal, it's somewhat common and a reality of wedding budgets. However, if she ends up being in your BP she gets a plus one no matter what. Honestly I would just keep your fingers crossed that they break up before you have to send out anything official lol. Sorry, I bet this isn't what you wanted to hear

As far out as your wedding is, I might just hold tight on the whole thing if you can. It might be tough since things will come up and she might ask or even make assumptions and it could be tough to deal with, but it might be the way to go. I mean with this much time, they might not even be together by then! Then you avoid the whole situation! When you do get closer in and need to start making calls, reevaluate. Honestly, I wouldn't advise anyone to pick bridesmaids with a couple years still to go anyhow. Even with friends you've had for years relationships can change. Or you might go from thinking you want 5 bridesmaids (for example) to deciding you really would prefer only having 1 or 2 and be glad you didn't already ask all 5 girls. I asked my bridesmaids about 9 months out I think (I don't remember exactly). Even with that I ended up losing a BM half way through.

So personally I would play it by ear and not promise anyone an invite or a position in the party until later on. If it's still an issue when the time comes IMO I think the best way to handle it is to make up your mind between just the two of you if you are ok with them coming and then if it's anything other than yes you need to explain to her why. If you're close enough to her that she is a potential BM then not getting an invite at all will likely sting a bit and she deserves to know that you didn't just decide to leave her out lightly. Chances are she is well aware of the tension and won't be too surprised that that is the reason, but I still think it's worth explaining.

You don't, and you have 2 years. They may not be together in 2 years. I wouldn't risk your friendship by saying things that will hurt her feelings. If she is a bridesmaid, she should get a +1, and you aren't allowed to dictate who she brings. Probably not what you want to hear, but as I said, you have time, try not to let something like this stress you out so early in the planning.

Oops, didn't notice how far away your wedding was.

Reggie is right. You've got lots of time. Don't even worry about it. Who knows what is going to happen in 2 years.

You have over 2 years for this. A year and a half until you need to send out invites. I'd hold off on asking for anyone to be a bridesmaid or Groomsmen. A lot can change in a year and half.

This shouldn't even be on your radar right now. It's too soon to pick your bridal party anyway. This is not something you need to worry about until you send out invites a few months before the wedding. They probably won't even be together then.

Your wedding is so far out- don't ask anyone to be a BM yet. And who knows, they might break up by then!

Oh my god, you have two years to let this play itself out.

I am sort of in the same scenario and, unfortunately, you can't. Mine is actually my MOH and her and her boyfriend are in this on-again, off-again relationship (for like the last 2 years) so I am just PRAYING they are off during our wedding! you kind of have to suck it up. sorry!

If he's really always a jerk to you, then you should sit down with her and talk about it in a non-wedding-related conversation.

A lot can change between now and the two years away that your wedding is. A: wait to ask her to be a BM. You don't really need to ask until about 8 months out. B: they could break up by then

You could literally wait like 15 more months to decide anything about this.