How can I tell my best friend(who might be a bridesmaid) not to bring her rude boyfriend?

You have time to let this play out. But imho I would tell my best friend. As a matter of fact she would already know not to bring his ass. I can't believe how many people bite their tongue on their day lol. If it was to the point where you can't be in the same room with him, why in the heck would she bring him?

Ridiculous!

I really doubt you would even notice he was there. He won't be around most of the wedding day.

If she is your "best friend" and you don't invite her - you will likely ruin that friendship.

Wait.

I know if a friend of mine didn't invite me to her wedding only because they didn't like FH, I'd probably stop being their friend. Then again FH isn't a total asshat, but still.

If someone said vile things to me and FH they wouldn't be invited to the wedding, period.

i can't grasp how people let other people treat them like shit and the perpetrator's SO magically doesn't know about this horrible behavior.

What is your relationship like with your best friend?

I know one of my best friends has a boyfriend that no one approves of... She has agreed that they are in a terrible relationship, but she is still with him and wants to work things out.

She knows how I feel about him, but she means way too much to me to exclude her from my wedding. She has to be there and if that means that her boy does too, alright. I'd suck it up because she means that much to me.

I guess sometimes you just have to have people at your wedding that you don't want there. What can you do? Sometimes an elopement just sounds so much better than wedding planning stress.

Give it a year and see if she's even still dating him.

If your wedding isn't for another 2 years, they could very easily breakup especially if he's a jerk. Just wait for another year or so before asking her maybe.

You have plenty of time between now and then. I would not worry about it till the beginning of 2017

Yes, you definitely have time to hide and watch for a while before making any decisions. That said, how "horrible" of a person are we talking here? I get that it's her circus and her monkeys, but if she's truly your best friend and this person is toxic, you should be able to at least have a conversation with her about this.

I'm always team openness, especially with regards to best friends. So I second what PK said - if he's always a jerk to you, sit down with her and talk about it in a non-wedding-related context.

I had this problem as well. I know that by leaving him off our guest list and informing her that he was not welcome that it wasn't good wedding etiquette. However, she recently told me that we are no longer friends and ended up marrying the loser this past weekend. To make a long story short, it's your day and if you two have a healthy relationship you should be able to speak with her about your genuine concerns. You do have plenty of time to see if their relationship works out so you don't have to decide to do anything right now. Be aware that when the time does come and if they are still together then you may have to decide whether or not her being there means more to you and dealing with her significant other or if you are going to decide to leave them both out. Overall, it's your special day and you should share in the joy and love with those who support and rejoice with you and your FH on your big day! You've got time to figure all of this out, don't stress about it. =)

If you're close enough to her that you want her in your BP, I'd invite her unless you want to end your friendship with her. That would be a great way to end things with her...

The etiquette police are going to freak out at my response.. but I do not believe everyone and their mother gets a plus one. Even long time boyfriends/girlfriends... If they're engaged that's different. If you have room, then yes give everyone a plus one fine. But in your case, if she was still with asshat I would say unfortunately due to room size/budget I can't give you a plus one.

Hopefully they won't be together and it will be a non-issue, but what I would do now is like PP mentioned about talking to her in a non-wedding way about asshat.

It's still 2015. They could break up by that time (or get married) who knows. Regardless she needs to get a +1. She's your bridesmaid

Your wedding isn't until 2017. You have absolutely no clue if she will still be dating them by the time you are married FFS.

I don't want to beat a dead horse...but you have TWO YEARS. That's a lot of time for things to change. I get that he's a douche-nozzle, but so many things can change. Stop stressing about something that might not even be an issue and focus on being engaged. Have a conversation with her as a friend to share concerns, and leave your wedding out of it.

I'm in the same camp as DMN, but I guess I'm a rude person. I'm ok with that.

You have time. If leave it alone for now, she may decide between now and then he's a terrible person and he may not even be in the picture. If list wait to cross that bridge.

A lot can change in two years. this shouldn't be too much of a concern.

I'm sorry but I would never invite someone to my wedding that is rude to me & treats me (& especially my FH) like crap. Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life! We are in a similar situation. My future mother in law is married to a complete jerk. He's really a horrible person. I can't even look at him anymore without being disgusted. There are other people that are coming to the wedding that hate him also. I told FH sorry but your moms husband is not invited. He agreed. We spoke to her and she was okay with it. Surprisingly FMIL's husband went up to my FH and said sorry but he doesn't want to go to our wedding because there will be people there that he doesn't get along with. Good thing, cuz he wouldn't have been invited anyway.

Your gonna hurt feelings either way but if you do not invite who because you don't want her boyfriend there then she might be really offended by it. Like they said she might not even be with the guy when your wedding approaches, trust me I had a bridesmaid that dated my cousin who was a Groomsmen and they split and she bolted.