Hotel room block

View Quoted Comment That sounds reasonable!

Sorry, I might be the only one to disagree. I travel A LOT domestic and international and have traveled a lot for over ten years. And honestly, for $400 a night I wouldn’t go. Even if it is all-inclusive (I’ve stayed at a lot of all-inclusive ranging from 5 star to diamond rated resorts for less than $400 a night as all-inclusives) I’d rather pay a 1 day resort fee to be on-site for the wedding day or send you a wedding gift than pay $400 each night from 2-4 nights going with a destination wedding. I can go on a pretty awesome vacation for $800-$1,600. I would highly recommend asking what one day resort fees cost and partner locations guests can stay at. Also, I would just anticipate a small guest count. I’m curious which hotel you’re looking at if you are open to sharing.

The Cape in Cabo San Lucas & I actually changed the date to get their cheaper rate.

Alexis, that is a fabulous place. Everything about it. Designed by one of the best architects in Mexico, the head chief is one of the best in Mexico. And I like Cabo.

As others have said, you need to talk to VIP guests, and I think, be open and honest with them. From Florida, Cabo is a long flight, no non-stop flights. So I were going to Cabo, I would want to spend more than 3 days. I assume you are combing this with honeymoon and will be staying longer, but IMHO it means that guests are in the position of staying longer (and spending ever more money), or making a long flight for a short trip. Some may stay one night at the Cape, then move to other places, but that is annoying too. There are no easy answers. If your guests have not been to Cabo, they may not realize they cannot get a direct flight. You may be stuck in a position of guests RSVPing YES, or saying they will attend, and then not coming, leaving you with the reception bill. Trying to hide the costs to them is likely to increase the no-show problem. If you do not come out and ask them to stay at the hotel, in today's internet age, they can shop for a much cheaper place. Even if you put the hotel block on your website, they can shop around.

No one here knows how well off your closes friends and family are, and how much vacation time they get. If you get married in Miami, I suspect that will be a much shorter flight, fewer vacation days. Some people may drive down together.

Sounds like a much better plan. Hope you have a fabulous wedding!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. That's a really tough ask.

Does the $400 a night provide different room options? Maybe your guests wouldn't mind if they had the option of splitting the costs with other couples? Usually when we have out of town weddings we try to get rooms with 2 or more beds because even though its a little less privacy its still a great time at a fraction of the cost.

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Sooo... karen was correct, you are asking your guests to pay for your wedding.

Yes, $400 is too much. And, I would never ask that of my guests, because it doesn't make them "guests" anymore. In my opinion you should go with another venue.

Yes. That’s too much to ask.

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Here is the problem with sharing. OP needs 10 rooms to be booked, and she in only inviting 30 people, so if a lot of people double up, she will not get the 10 rooms she needs. Her only two choices, as I see it, are to talk to the most likely lux hotel people and see if they are good for this, or indicate (on her website, whatever), that wedding guests MUST stay at the Cape. I do not see the latter option going over well.

That's a bit steep on top of already having to travel (likely a considerable distance). Unless all of your guests are wealthy, I think that would be a bad idea.

View Quoted Comment I hope you get to have the wedding of your dreams at the location you wish!! Best of luck!!

It is a beautiful place. We went for my brother in laws wedding. The ceremony was overlooking the water and we were in a pretty seating area for the reception. Unfortunately the room was 685.00 a night and no non-stop flights. Since it was family we wouldn’t have wanted to miss it.

Thank you for all of the info! If you don’t mind me asking, how are you familiar with The Cape? I’m thinking I might pay $1k towards the room which will drop it down to $300 per night. A lot of my guests would have to travel regardless of where we have it, & although the flight will be more, I honestly don’t think they’ll mind if they’re going to be in a beautiful resort in Mexico. I understand your point about the 3 days, but the flights arrive early Wed. So they’ll have most of Wed., all of Thur., the Weddingon Fri., & then they leave on Sat. unless they choose to stay of course. 🙂

Everyone’s opinion of what’s expensive for a hotel varies. We choose not to do a block because we were afraid people would think the hotel was too expensive. It’s $300 a night and it’s a 5 star hotel so I think it’s cheap, but so far no one has booked there besides us. They picked the less expensive option that we told them about and even thought they were expensive at $175 a night. When we picked locations, we checked flight prices and room rates to hopefully make it more affordable.

Alexis, we stayed there, on one of DH's employer's events. It was great. I have no idea what it cost. If you are going to try to reduce costs to guests, I would suggest negotiating with hotel, could you pay and reduce the number of guests who have to stay at the hotel?

Yes! $400 is a lot. Consider the Cost of flying into your wedding destination. Mine is $250, I got it discounted to $169 and I still feel bad.

I feel like that is way too much to ask of your guests.