Hotel room block

Do your guests have to stay at that resort to attend the wedding? I would let them choose what works best for their budget in the city you’re getting married in.

I don’t know how much your guests make salary wise, which plays a big factor in the decision. But personally I would be very upset if I had to pay $400 a night for a hotel for someone else’s wedding. I’m not even paying that for my honeymoon. And that 400 is on top of the flight to the wedding, food, transportation etc. for myself and my SO (if they are invited) it would deter me from going because I don’t have that kind of money to spend just to attend someones wedding. Like I said though it just depends on your guests. If you love it this much maybe send out some feelers to your most important guests. Casually see how they would think about it

That is too much to ask IMO. You would basically be cutting any friends or family members who don’t have an extra $800 (2 nights) sitting around to pay for your wedding.

You could suggest that hotel and one that is more near to $100-150. If you don't have a high enough room count for either hotel then don't block it just let your guests know what's going on.

It does seem like a lot, but it might not be to your circle of friends and family. Ask a few of them nonchalantly if that is too pricey and see what takes.

View Quoted Comment I’m only inviting 30 people & the hotel requires a minimum of 10 hotel rooms to be reserved, if not the cost would be my responsibility. 😬

View Quoted Comment We’ll be supplying food for the welcome party, farewell brunch, & catamaran that we’ll also be paying for so I was hoping that would ease the blow. I’m definitively going to take your advice though & ask them, thanks.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your advice, I definitely have a lot to think about.

I would ask them if they’re okay with it. If they’re not, which is definitely possible considering they have travel and other costs, you’re just going to have to pay the hotel or get married elsewhere.

I know I wouldn’t want to pay that for any hotel ever, especially if I already had to pay for airfare, food, and other travel expenses such as boarding my dog.

We’ll be covering most of the cost for the food for all 3 nights, but I know it’s still a lot to ask. That’s why I wanted to get an outsider’s point of view because personally I don’t mind paying $400 a night for a 5 star resort. Thanks for your input.

Personally I wouldn't pay that much for a hotel, even for a family wedding. I would find a cheaper different hotel on my own and just drive to your hotel for the events. I've done this before. Hotel blocks are supposed to help your guests find a food accommodation, usually at a cheaper negotiated price. They aren't meant to tell your guests where they have to stay.

Thanks for your advice, I’m going to reach out to the hotel again to see if there’s anymore room for negotiation.

I don’t think that it’s an outrageous amount for a hotel, particularly a 5 star like you said. I would happily pay that much to attend the destination wedding of a close friend, but I doubt I would for someone that I wasn’t super close to. Destination weddings are going to limit who can attend, and the cost of the hotel may further narrow that list, but I don’t think there’s anything necessarily wrong with that, especially if this is your dream wedding. I’d definitely see if the hotel can reduce the minimum room numbers or back off on the room guarantee. Maybe they could do a minimum spend, which can be met through room reservations or food and beverage? That way if you fall short on the rooms you can add a late night bite or something to meet the minimum? Just a thought.

I think there are a lot of factors I’d have to consider before I’d agree to spending $400/night on a hotel: how many nights do I have to stay? Is it all inclusive? Is that price for their cheapest room or their nicest rooms? How much are flights to where the resort is? What day of the week is the wedding (how many days am I taking off work)?

Since you're only inviting 30 people, I’d say having to guarantee 10 rooms could potential be difficult for you. I would ask some of your guests what their thoughts are.

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If thats the case, I wouldnt provide a hotel block. Just tell them hotels in the area and let them choose. I wouldn't want to be held responsible for unused rooms. I am having around 120 people at my wedding and 95% of them will be staying at the hotel. I called several hotels looking for where to hold the block and would hardly consider any hotel that held me responsible for unused rooms. And thats with knowing that I am going to have at least 25 rooms used. I would not want to pay $400 for a room for a wedding

View Quoted Comment Aw, yay, for a moment there I thought I was the only one who didn’t think $400 for a nice hotel was to much to ask. My only concern is that we can’t meet the minimum room requirements. I realize everyone’s budget is different, so I’m not going to be offended if some people can’t go. I just don’t want to be responsible for the rooms if they can’t. You advice was super helpful, I’m going to reach out to the hotel to see if there’s anything they can do.

View Quoted Comment Those are all legit questions !! I’m going to reach out to my family & friends to get their thoughts. ☺️

View Quoted Comment The only problem is that they require a minimum room requirement in order to have the ceremony there. I’ve researched several other locations & I have my heart set on this one. I’m going to see if the hotel will work with me in this situation, thanks for your advice !!

Happy to help! I negotiated with my venue regarding their minimum food and beverage amount, so I’m thinking you can probably get yours to do a minimum grand total amount so you can find a number you’re comfortable with. Then you’ll have some certainty going into it. I went to a destination wedding at an all inclusive for FHs college roommate and it cost us around $2000, give or take for the 3 nights. We ended up having so much fun we added an additional 2 nights on and changed our flights home. People expect these types of weddings to cost them more, so if they are planning on going, I think they know that it will cost money. They will probably make a mini vacation out of it.

$400 for a nice hotel room for a destination wedding is not ridiculous, however, as many of the other women said there are a lot of things to consider... how close they are to you, how many nights, how much does the flight cost.. but before assuming anything I think it’s always best to just ask ur guest they know what they can and cannot afford better than us. Then also talk to the hotel ask them about other deals or specials that they may have....