HOT Beach Wedding!!

Got it. Misogynistic - strongly prejudice against women. Highly doubt thats not the message she was relaying. What she was probably trying to say was theres tons of people on this site who think their one and only opinion matter and everyone should have that same opinion.

When I said 3rd grade I was implying that's when I stopped having birthday parties. I'm definitely not prejudice against women or anyone for that matter. Just saying the site is made up of women who would rather put others down than build each other up!

You are entitled to your opinion, and the rest of us are entitled to our opinions. In fact, we're allowed to challenge your opinions, and you're allowed to challenge the opinions of other community members -- even if your opinion is in the minority (which it is -- this debate of "you do you", despite what your guests may experience, has been beaten to death on this site). And any person who implies that the gender of a specific population is the root cause of the problem, which was more than implied -- it was stated, is either too hyped up on their own rhetoric, or actually believes what they're saying (which is far worse).

Hahahaha have a great night Rachel! Tarra I hope you do what makes you happy and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it!!

I find it hilarious that people complain about rude strangers on the internet, but think it's okay to treat guests rudely. How is someone pointing out a bad idea worse than being expected to bake in the Florida August sun for 30 minutes while clutching a bottle of water emblazoned with pictures of the people who sentenced you to that?

Any chance anyone will be pregnant? Undergoing chemo? Inviting anyone elderly? Heat can be really dangerous.

Get a tent for shade. At the very, very least. And set up an emergency station with buckets of ice and cold compresses.

Definitely changing my name now. Wtf.

Haha I was reading this too and was like oh no that's too close to my name... lol

Did I seriously just read that grown adult women have never heard of the word misogynistic? I think some would be better off hitting the books than playing on the Internet.

And yes, Lindsey, it certainly was misogynistic to suggest that the reason there are debates on this forum is because that's what happens when with women.

Flagging Lindsey for putting down other members, and moving on.

I also live in florida where it is VERY LIKELY you can have heatstroke. Florida heat is much different than AZ heat. heatstroke is a possibility on St. Pete beach. The beaches are very wide and the sand gets extremely hot, where it can burn bare feet. Factor in guests in suits and pants and dresses and no amount of AC or fans can take away the 100+ degree heat from a 45 minute ceremony. Plus, if you run late, even longer. This is exactly why I had to go against my dream of a wedding on a beach. My FSIL got married overlooking the beach and did photos/first look on the beach and it worked out. And yes, the marriage is about the two of you. But when it comes to inviting your friends and family, you have to consider them and their wellbeing.

I get heat induced migraines. Not something everyone knows (just H, my parents and sister) so I'd skip. I'd move inside or just do you and FH on the beach alone.

ETA also a half hour is long for not in a church, that's how long my catholic ceremony was.

FSS, it's not ALL ABOUT THE COUPLE once there is one guest. I'd say not having heat stroke is a pretty low bar for judging if you treated your guests well. It's like "well, no one died" as a justification for self catering. There is no way to dress for a wedding on a beach in the summer in Florida except in a bathing suit. Maybe that should be on the on the invite. Come naked. "Cause its all about us."

The 'bunch of women on this site", (there are guys too, by the way...) give tremendous advice. It has nothing at all to do with having their parents having made them the center of the universe (though that might explain your attitude). How insulting can you possibly be? This comes close.

I do weddings in all kinds of weather, from unforgivably hot to borderline freezing (no, 51 degrees with wind is not warm enough to be outside....). The guests hate it, they are grumpy and annoyed and that isn't a great way to start a celebration that theoretically includes people you actually LIKE.

If I never hear "But it's YOUR DAY" ever again, I'd be a happy camper. Because it's always used to justify shit that is flat out rude; cash bars, dry weddings, no seating, awkward ceremony settings, long gaps; everything the self centered couple thinks their beloved friends should just ignore because they adore the couple so much and should thank their lucky stars to be invited in the first place. We've never seen, "OMG, I ordered so much food! So much liquor! Such a big band!" "Oh, it's okay it's YOUR DAY!!!" And we never will, because people who give a shit about their guests and vendors, who treat them like they actually like them instead of being props at some 'vision' they created in a vacuum, don't use that rational to justify rude, uncomfortable decisions they make.

It's probably an UO but I have never had a problem with an outside FL ceremonies even in the summer as long as the reception is inside. I assume your ceremony is at sunset when it is cooler. I would make sure there is a place for guests to wait that is shaded or air conditioned until the ceremony is about to start and water bottles sound good. Also make sure your guests know it is a beach ceremony so they can dress accordingly. Also it thunderstorms pretty consistently in FL during the summer, so make sure you have a back up plan.

ETA: You might want to think about buying sunglasses too. If a guest forgets a pair the sun will be setting right in their face.

I live in Northern Canada. We went to my cousin's outside wedding in July. No shade. Water was provided. My mom wore a strapless bra and a dress that didn't breathe too well. Yes, she should have worn something cooler. However, again we live in Northern Canada (can't imagine Florida in August) and didn't know there would be zero shade. She had huge bruises for weeks from heat and rubber in her bra. After the ceremony, she went to my house to borrow a flowier dress and regular bra (reception was inside/outside with shade), since she lived 30 minutes away and was in pain and uncomfortable. I don't know how my 75 year old grandma and her 85 year old partner handled it.ETF typo

I'd turn around and leave once I realized it's outdoors...on the beach...in August.

It's hot as balls outside. Do you enjoy guests vomiting, fainting, and possibly having heat stroke?

If you do, go right ahead! But if not, reconsider.

Good friend had her ceremony outside and it was HOT. She provided lemonade, water & fans. It was hot but beautiful (and in my eyes that made up for it)

I live in the Chicagoland area. I have been a bridesmaid in a wedding that was outside in April. That doesn't sound too terrible except for the fact that on that particular day it was 30 degrees outside. The bride didn't want to ruin the "look" of the photos and didn't have a backup for the ceremony (reception was inside at a different location), so the bridesmaids got to stand up in strapless dresses and the guests got to sit wearing earmuffs and winter coats. EVERYONE WAS MISERABLE. I could hear guests complaining right before the bride walked down the aisle.

Now take the above scenario and reverse it. Change 30 degrees in Chicago to 90 degrees in Florida. The weather could end up being in your favor, but it's far more likely that it will end up working completely against you. At an absolute minimum you should have a backup plan for moving the ceremony indoors. Having the look you want is not worth potentially torturing your guests and bridal party.

My daughters birthday is August 28th and every year the weather is different. I would look in to those little battery powered fans and maybe a tent for shade in case the sun is unbearable. What time is your ceremony?

Ahhh more bad advice from LindseyO I see. Op, this doesn't seem like an ideal situation for guests. I would definitely look into a tent of some sort, atleast that will keep the sun from beating down on everyone. Personally I would move it indoors, I know my guests would be happier.

Kristin, twice already today I've encountered posts from you and both times you included a rather snotty comment directed at the users of this forum (and fyi there are men here too). If you don't like it here why keep posting? Not telling you to leave but you don't seem to be adding anything positive. Also, I flagged your comment.

Kristin, is your wedding in Florida? If not, then comparing the two doesn't make sense. I camped in Florida in September and it was MISERABLE! Location makes a huge difference.