Host couple

Yeah Hire a DOC.

Your family and friends are guests, and generally shouldn't be working on your wedding. If you need a coordinator, consider hiring a day of coordinator. If finances are an issue, talk to the venue and see if there are staff that may be able to provide additional assistance.

That would be a Day of Coordinator's job, not your friends. Your friends are there to enjoy the wedding not work it.

Yea I've never heard of having friends/family work my wedding. Sorry.

I would necessarily say it's "working" the wedding. I guess I would rather have someone I know helping me then a complete stranger..

A professional would know much more than a family friend, and they have done a ton of weddings and know how to put out any fires.

I had a friend offer to help set up and be my DOC... until I told her exactly what would be involved. We're getting married outside, and I need someone to set up (and break down) the ceremony space. Who knows, it might be 90* that day. We have a wooden arch that needs to be set up and broken down that day. I also need someone to time the BP to walk down the aisle. That means that she will miss seeing most of the ceremony. My friend changed her mind about helping and I hired a DOC.

Moral of the story: Friends and family are guests, not employees on your wedding day.

ETA: It is a lot easier to "boss around" a complete stranger than it is your friends and family.

I mean it's definitely working if they're responsible for transporting decorations, decorating and being a point person for questions, etc. People pay a lot of money for those services and you're asking someone you say is a friend to do it for free.

"...they seemed to still enjoy the night."

Keyword: seemed.

These family friends of your friend are probably nice and wouldn't complain. If I agreed to a favor for a good friend, I wouldn't then complain about it to anyone who would listen; I'd grin and bear it, too. You really should not ask a friend or family member to do this. It is literally a real job that people pay upwards of a couple thousand dollars for a professional to do.

ETA: grammar

This is what is known as a Day of Coordinator, someone you PAY to make sure everything runs smoothly.

It is rude to ask guests to work at your wedding in any capacity.

Of course you'd rather have someone you know help you. Then you don't have to pay them. -_-;;;;

Helping you with what??

I had friends ask me to "help out" at their wedding. They would have no idea whether I "seemed" to enjoy myself because during the reception, I was stuck in the kitchen pouring all the sparkling cider. I got to sit down with my piece of cake after everyone else had been served and the bride and groom were minutes away from leaving. I missed the bride walking down the aisle and had to sit in the back because I was needed to help the bride and BMs get ready. There was no fun in any of it.

@teach7 that's exactly what I was looking for thank you! My mom thinks they will feel honored! We're not asking them to sit in the kitchen they can sit with whoever they would like too and do whatever they'd like. But if someone has a question I want them to ask that couple.

Two pages of people telling you it's a bad idea and hire someone and the first person who tells you it's a good idea, you jump all over it.

So they can do what they want as they haul all your decor from ceremony to reception? And do all the set up there? I see lots of time for them to sit have a drink and enjoy appetizers.

Ugh. @Aleasha, I was just about to write that I hope you listen to all the wise advice you've gotten. But you pick the one person who tells you it's ok to have friends/family work at your wedding. Le sigh.

Yup take the advice of one when thirty tell you the opposite.

We are not having appetizers..all the stuff at reception will already be set up.

Classic.

If everything is set up what are they doing lugging things around from the church to the reception hall?

Are you not doing a cocktail hour?

Teach7, Helena was addressing the OP, I believe. Who said these "hosts" would bring items from the church to the reception for her.