Host couple

@Toni typically the DJ dismisses tables to the buffet!

I have two host and two hostess.. My hostess/ friends could not afford to be in the wedding at this time as BM so I put them in spot that the dresses we're cheaper and etc

I think this subject has come up once or twice before, and, as I recall, those threads began with "What?" and ended the way this one is going to end (i.e., the OP is going to have her host couple).

OP, you can do whatever kind of wedding you want, but you came here for opinions. In fact, you said it was your mother who suggested honoring people with this position. You said, in your OP, that you don't know if you should have a host couple, and that you don't even know what they are supposed to do (and then you said you wouldn't necessarily call it "working the wedding"). Maybe it's a tradition whose time has come and gone. Consider that -- at least think about it.

When I read what you wrote, "take things from the church to reception hall", I immediately pictured a married couple boxing up church decor and sweating as they carry that stuff (usually altar arrangements are included) out to their car. At first I thought, that's a shame because they'll have to wait until every guest leaves before they can deconstruct the church decor, and that means they'll miss some of the cocktail hour. Now we learn you're not having a cocktail/app hour. Your reception space will be set up and ready to go as soon as your guests arrive. So, not only will the hosts be late for the reception, but they'll be setting things up in front of everybody. Out of all of it, it's the sweating that really bothers me (I routinely repurpose ceremony to reception decor -- yes, you sweat doing it -- even in the winter).

Secondly, the only time I've seen guests looking "confused" at a wedding is when there is no seating chart. It's an unmistakable look, slightly nervous look as they pan the room and weigh their options. But that's easily remedied with a seating chart. Beyond that, I haven't seen many SOS cries of confusion; in fact, people seem to flow effortlessly into party mode. Unless you are doing a very casual, non-venue wedding, there are plenty of staff to ask where the ladies' room is, where the bar is, etc.

Finally, Soon2BSmith, your post really caught my attention. Those who couldn't afford to be your BMs (several, apparently) have been put in the hostess category where the dresses were cheaper? I'd interpret that as a demotion, but I leave that part alone. Please, don't say you intend to offer one iota of input as to what these hostesses will wear to your wedding.

When it comes to front row ceremony seats and corsages vs. being an honored guest at a wedding, I think the majority has spoken. They're telling you the truth.

Please don't make family or friends work at your wedding. That is what vendors are for.