Honeymoon Fund

Just don't...first of all, every company that's out there will take a cut of the money so that $100 aunt sheila gave you? Is really only $95.

Secondly, they're just plain tacky...Simply not doing a traditional 'registry' is key enough for most guests to figure out you would prefer cash. And, that way you get all of it without a third party taking a cut

If you want cash, just don't register anywhere and spread it word of mouth. It's far less rude and at least you'll get the full amount people give you.

I used honeyfund. I think its wonderful, dont let people freak you out about the fees, they are around 3‰, my state charges 6% sales tax. So those 100$ sheets really cost 106. Honestly its the same as tax- and in many cases 3-5‰ lower.

Forget what people on WW think about it. If you want it, do it!

That's the "fine print" stuff that concerns me; all this "FREE ACCOUNT" stuff tells me that the Site's way of making money is via our guests and not us, which is one of the downfalls for sure. I didn't know if it was through an additional "Service Fee" or taking a % off of the gift. Either way, it's not ideal.

I've been a guest at weddings with honeymoon funds and I thought that they were a great idea; in fact we gifted through the Site, but I can see how some people will interpret them as being tacky. I don't know if I agree with the comment about them being rude, but everyone is obviously entitled to their own opinion. Chances are someone on our massive guest list will feel the same, I guess. I think it's a fine line for sure…. Appreciate the input.

We've both had our own homes for years and we're travelling across the country, so gifts aren't really necessary or convenient for us, which is why we were looking at this option.

It is a fine line. Unfortunately, any time you outright ask for cash, it's considered poor etiquette.

I hope you find a solution that works for you!

I second Lilly's response.

I have honeyfund and it won't charge my guests, but it will charge me 2.8% + $0.30.

This is a hot topic. If this is something you are considering I'd check and read the fine print and also talk it over with friends and family attending your wedding. I did and everyone was on board that I spoke with. That's whose opinion really matters, not a bunch of internet users.

What if you went through a site that didn't charge a fee? I think there are a few of them (but you can't pay by credit card through the site, which is I think why Honeyfund charges that fee).

I personally find it extremely tacky. Weddings are meant to have everyone come together and show their love for the couple. In my opinion I think you should just enjoy the company of your family and friends. I would be offended if someone asked me to donate to their honeymoon. It's your choice on how much you spend at the wedding, women shouldn't be looking to get profit back on gifts or honey fund. Nothing against what you decide, I just feel strongly against it.

I'm originally from New Jersey. In NJ, you register for your bridal shower gifts, and it is standard for everyone to give cash at the wedding. Generally $200 per couple is considered a decent gift. I never knew it was any different until I moved to Virginia and realized that people actually gave gifts at a wedding.

By the way, it is never requested anywhere. It's just an unwritten rule.

Just do not register anywhere and you will end up with money. I do not need a honeymoon fund nor do I need anymore crap than I already have. I think the best way to handle it is to NOT register and then people will just give you money instead of gifts. Here in the Midwest it is NOT common to ask for money nor do people automatically give money when there is a registry of stuff to pick from.

I don't need anyone to help me "profit" from my wedding, Nikki; We are completely capable of paying for it on our own and we're smart enough to not plan an event on the assumption that someone is going to gift us enough money to pay for the bills.

It seems like you've perhaps missed the point, which is that we are looking for alternatives for our guests who, by Canadian tradition, are going to give us something anyways. Opinions are great, but making assumptions re. to the intent is a whole different ballgame.

I don't know much about traditional honeyfund sites, but I almost set up a gofundme acct to help my parents pay for taking care of my dying grandmother. They don't charge people who donate any fees, they just take a percentage when you withdraw.

Any site that ends in .com is making money somehow so read all the fine print and good luck.

Eh, we are doing Honeyfund, and I don't think it is a big deal. I have talked to my family about it and they think it is a great idea. My FH and I are both 30 and been on our own for years, so we don't need a new toaster. Our family would rather contribute to something we want (honeymoon) instead of buying us something that we "should be" registering for.

Honeyfund is right around 3% service fee, which I don't think is so bad.

FWIW, I also set up a traditional registry, so if people want to buy us a physical item, ideas are there too. Or they can just show up and party with us. Whatever people want to do is fine with me. We are having a small wedding so our guests know we aren't gift-grabby.

Eh, we are doing Honeyfund, and I don't think it is a big deal. I have talked to my family about it and they think it is a great idea. My FH and I are both 30 and been on our own for years, so we don't need a new toaster. Our family would rather contribute to something we want (honeymoon) instead of buying us something that we "should be" registering for.

Honeyfund is right around 3% service fee, which I don't think is so bad.

FWIW, I also set up a traditional registry, so if people want to buy us a physical item, ideas are there too. Or they can just show up and party with us. Whatever people want to do is fine with me. We are having a small wedding so our guests know we aren't gift-grabby.

I was also going to add what Miss P. said - if you feel uncomfortable with the idea of a service charge being tacked onto the gift-giver's end, a couple of the websites offer the option to take it out of your end instead. I totally understand why the ladies around here are against it, but I also think you know your guests better than any of us do, and you'd be able to judge whether they'd think it's tacky or not. I say go for it if you're comfortable! We're considering it.

ETA: There's also a point to be made for guests just giving cash/checks at the wedding anyway... that $100 is all yours, vs. $97 through a honeymoon registry.

Dont listen to naysayers. Heres ours if you want an example http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/anaelchris

everyone our age (under 40) is doing the honeyfund, and everyone our parents age is doing the traditional registry

Tacky.

That's great Anisea! Thanks for the link