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Following my first comment, Im not at all saying handle it all crazy. I'm just saying this is your special day. 💖

That was mean of your cousin! I would definitely feel some type of way. It’s not about the dress!! On another note make sure your bridesmaids use the size chart for JJs House their dresses run very small. 2 of my BMs ordered their dress early from there and the fact that the dresses were so small made me decide to just go to DB. Any who.. if you NEED 2 more bridesmaids I’d replace them.

View Quoted Comment I know I did feel some type of way, and thank you for that tip! 👍🏻

View Quoted Comment Yesss agree. I feel like some people disagree with me because they think the bridesmaids should make the decision. In my case I wanted to make the decision because at the end of the day it is my day. Thank you for your input!

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with you. At the end of day she’s missing out , thank you for your input!😊

View Quoted Comment I’m inclined towards not replacing anyone. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Of course girl 💖

View Quoted Comment Girl I’m with you, that’s awesome. It will make things easier on you. & she is a very picky person, I remember hanging out with her and showed her a potential dress and she said “meh” meaning she didn’t like it (this was like a month before I even started seriously looking for their dresses) ... & quite honestly nothing really went beyond behind scenes. All she said about the dress at first was “the dress looks cheap” which meant she didn’t like it, and all I said in a very direct way, which anyone who knows me knows I’m direct and to the point. Here’s what I said “ the dress is the final decision of what I want y’all to wear” to me that’s not rude, I’m just being direct with the decisions of what I want for my dream wedding, because it’s everything I have dreamed about. I was completely thrown off and disappointed when she sent me that text, which to me was absurd and silly for her to back out on me because she didn’t like the way I “was being”... anyways I do agree on not replacing any of the bridesmaids. Good luck on everything for you as well, thank you!👍🏻

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree! Thank you for your input👍🏻

View Quoted Comment I agree, and I’m sorry about you losing 2 bm. Hope everything all worked out. & thanks for your input 👍🏻

You’re the bride, you pick the bridesmaid dresses, end of story. Glad you found some girls who understand that!

Do what feels right in your heart, at the end of the day someone will always be unhappy no matter what you do. If there were two other girls you would’ve liked but couldn’t at the time- do it. If you’re fine without them then no sweat off your back.

Your the bride! I actually had one of my bridesmaids tell me they would wear the ugliest dress and it was my big day!! Mainly, because I kept worrying and asking if they all liked the dress I chose. You are the focus and the dress you chose for them was beautiful!

You dont need bridesmaids.

Wow! I’m so sorry you had two bridesmaids back down. One of them was definitely a legit reason and I wish she could still participate.


If you decided to replace anyone I would replace your cousin who dropped out because of the dress. That is very dumb - it’s a dress, it’s your wedding. I understand dresses cost money but saying yes to being a bridesmaid requirements is to get a dress that the bride wants.
But I would probably leave your numbers as it because the replacement people you ask will know they weren’t your first choice and could be a little sad knowing they are only second best or a replacement.
I wish you the best of luck in your wedding planning. Happy wedding days! 🥰

The first bridesmaid the one with the sick dad I totally understand things happen that we cant always plan for however your second bridesmaid in my opinion is being rude. This day is for you an your husband Not her I think this dress is beautiful and she is forgetting that this isn't about her. She can wear the dress one day it shouldn't be that big of a deal.

The first BM has a valid reason. i wouldn't replace her. the other one on the other hand (not knowing the whole situation and what went down) seems to be a little petty. i would replace her.

Of course the first friend had a valid reason, completely understandable it sounds like your biggest concern is with the cousin and if you should replace them. I would just like to say that there might be a bigger deeper rooted issue as to why she dropped out. I could be wrong, and maybe its just me, but i could never wrap my head around something so petty. There's to etiquette to who picks out the dresses, thats up to you and how you feel. It's a pretty dress, i believe to be a reasonable price, and yeah it might not be everyones taste but thats not the point. If you are not asking someone to go broke, risk their safety, or do something that goes against their moral/ethical compass I think you are a more than fair bride. I think you should take the opportunity to talk to your cousin face to face to see if theres something more than just the dress. Also, you can also pair up 2 groomsmen with 1 bridesmaids to help with the unevenness if that is a concern for you!

View Quoted Comment Yes ma’am I agree. I’ll see about talking with my cousin, but part of me wants to let it be. I’m already to stressed about other stuff, I don’t want to put all my energy and focus on her. I think her only issue was me having all the say on the dress and her having none. I don’t think she understands how to be a bridesmaid if I’m being honest, she wants things her way. & thanks for the suggestion with the pairing!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your suggestion!