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JJs House is a very hit or miss site with more misses than hits. From my understanding and experience, the custom made dresses tend to be better quality than the non-custom made (my BM got her custom made dress from there). They are known to sell cheap quality, knock off dresses. I think your BM was very polite in her text to you and her explanation was reasonable. It's common for the bride to include the BMs in selecting their dress especially since they are paying for it and wearing it. Most brides now are letting the BMs choose their own dress completely with certain criteria. That's what I did. But, no, it is not good to replace them. It sends the wrong message to the person being replaced as well as the person replacing.

I would not replace the two bridesmaids, to me it's tacky to be a b listed bridesmaid. I think your cousin, as others have stated, has a point and her text was not rude at all. Just like it was your choice for the dress it is hers whether she wants to wear it. Having said that - both weddings I have been in I wore dresses that I did not like because I could not imagine using a dress as an excuse not be standing near my very best friends. Lots of luck I am sure your remaining bridesmaids will look beautiful in that dress you chose!

View Quoted Comment Yes thank you! I chose them for what I envisioned my wedding to look like 🤩! But thank you for your input!

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I think the dress is very beautiful! Buttttt I also think just mayyybee would it hurt if you both chose to look at dresses and you just tell her your boundaries? Like specifically telling her a color,material,modest, and length and then she can show you the dress she found and you say yes or no. Because honestly although it is most definitely YOUR day no one else wants to feel uncomfortable in what their dressed in. Some people have self esteem issues or more I’m not sure but she may feel like it doesn’t look nice on her.

Wow! Your cousin is super selfish! I don’t think replacing the girls is a great idea because the ones you will be replacing them with will probably feel like an after thought. I would just have two of the groomsmen walk down together! Why not 😜

View Quoted Comment Yeah I’m inclining towards not replacing the bridesmaids.


That was my thought about her too, if it was her wedding and she want us to roll in, in a hotdog suit, a hotdog suit it is. Because I understand that at the end of the day it’s not my day, but hers! But I guess some people don’t understand that concept 🤔

View Quoted Comment Better off without her! My cousins would walk down naked if that’s what I asked them to do!

View Quoted Comment Lol girl I love your sense of humor! Thanks for your input!

View Quoted Comment Anytime! That’s what I’m here for! Hope it all works out for you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you, hope it all works out for you too!👍🏻

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That’s really unfortunate girl and I’m sorry about that. The first girl has a valid excuse , but your cousin is absurd . She prob would be had a issue with something else down the road . As bad as it might sound, good thing you found out earlier than later. It’s your wedding , and you should do things as you please. For me all my BM are different skin tones and sizes so I’m taking that into consideration. Maybe even giving them a couple of options. But your BM dress is really pretty and nothing is wrong with it

View Quoted Comment Thank you girl, I found it silly too. But cant do much and let it go. I’ll definitely enjoy my wedding day! & that’s awesome, I’m sure your bridesmaids will look great!💕

I don't like the dress. Actually I don't like the color. Not sure about the dress. It's a little revealing for me. Lol.


That being said, what does it matter?
My bridesmaids got ZERO input on the first dress I picked out [it was discontinued before we went to order.] And absolutely ZERO input on the second dress I picked out.
It's my wedding. I chose that they would all wear the same dress in different colors and I assigned them a color.
I tried to be mindful of price. [I had 3 picked out, and I chose the least expensive option.] We didn't have a budget discussion, but I knew I planned to stay as closed to $100 as possible. And I tried to be mindful of modesty. As i have one bridesmaid who can be a bit more modest than most.
Your cousin sounds ridiculous. Sorry.

I also lost 2 BMs. I think she is being ridiculous and petty. She simply could have asked if there is any way she can buy a different dress. Backing out just because she doesn't like the dress is childish. Theres nothing wrong with replacing in my view. I chose to stick with my 3 only because they were all on board and it will be easier to coordinate vs finding new bms and waiting for them to buy the dress etc..

Bridesmaid 1 has a valid excuse. Bridesmaid 2 is being a bit selfish. It’s your wedding, you decide what they wear and that’s it. You can elect for them to have an opinion if you choose, but ultimately you still get the final say for your bridesmaids.

I am choosing to have my sister as the sole member of my bridal party, partly because I don't want to deal with the anticipated drama of having a large wedding party and too many opinions! Haha

I don't know what happened between you and your cousin behind the scenes, regarding the dress, but my objective opinion is that her text came across as being very petty. I've been in two weddings in the past, and not once did I have any say about the dress I wore. Granted, the dresses were elegant and were flattering enough, but even if they had been hideous, I would have kept my mouth shut. The way I see it, my opinion didn't matter when I was a bridesmaid. Being asked to be a part of the wedding party was an honor, not an entitlement, and I really had no say in how things went down.

In my opinion, if that's how your cousin is acting about something as silly as a dress, you're better off not having her in the bridal party. She will likely find other things to complain about, too, and you'll be left feeling irritated and frustrated, and that's no way to feel on your wedding day. I say let her help with what she's willing to help with and be involved that way, but don't fret about her backing out of being a bridesmaid. As far as replacing her and the other girl, though, I have to agree with the majority of others in this discussion forum: Replacing them would make the replacements feel as if they are lesser than the other bridesmaids. Ultimately, it's your choice. Just be careful to handle the situation with tact. Best of luck! That can be tricky business!

Don’t replace them.

Your friend with the sick dad, is entirely understandable. Now your cousin on the other hand, she has to understand it's your wedding day not hers. You don't have to get anyone's opinion, you could be a total bridezilla about it (which you aren't). If she can't zip it and wear the dress then I wouldnt worry about her.