Yesenia
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Yesenia, on January 7, 2020 at 12:45 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 69
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2 of my bridesmaids backed out on me. One because she has her dad and her medical bills to pay for ( I can’t help paying because I’m on a tight budget still have to get a place to live) and she didn’t count on her dad getting sick when she said yes to being my bridesmaid. Now the other girl who backed out happens to be one of my closest cousins she simply backed out because she didn’t like the dress I chose. I chose something because duh I have the option too, it’s what I envisioned them to wear, for my wedding. I didn’t want my girls to wear anything too revealing... anyways what I’m asking is should I replace them with 2 other girls?
P.S ( added the text she sent just for fun & the beautiful dress because their is nothing with it) Help 1
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Latest activity by Allyson, on January 8, 2020 at 10:38 PM
  • Cyndy
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    First let me say the dress is gorgeous. If she’s going to “quit” over the dress then let her go. Your other BM has a very valid reason but I wouldn’t replace them. An uneven bridal party is no big deal. You certainly don’t want people to think they were added just because people dropped out.
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  • Morgan
    Devoted December 2020
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    Okay, the girl that has a sick father has every right to not be in the wedding with everything going on, I’m glad you’re being so understanding about it!! But the cousin on the other hand is being ridiculous. I’d replace her in a second. Technically you don’t need to have an even amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen so I wouldn’t get another 2 just for that reason!!😊
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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I wouldn't replace either one of them. It will only cause more problems and make the two replacements feel lesser because they weren't your first picks.

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  • M
    Devoted September 2019
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    I do think the bridesmaids should have had some input into what they put on their bodies. They are people, not props. I honestly think she handled that very diplomatically.


    No, I don't think you should ask 2 more people to replace these 2 bridesmaids. People are not replaceable. Can you imagine how it would feel to be those people who weren't good enough for the first go-round but you'll take them when your first choice backs out? I think that would be really hurtful.
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  • Yesenia
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    Thank you!!! I know I didn’t choose something ugly, because I want them all to look beautiful. But thank you for your comment!
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  • Yesenia
    Savvy March 2020
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    Yes I was completely understandable with my friend with a sick father. Thank you for the comment and your input Smiley smile
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  • Yesenia
    Savvy March 2020
    Yesenia ·
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    Thank you for commenting, it does make sense I didn’t think about it that way🤔
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  • Yesenia
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    Yes I completely agree I don’t think my cousin handled it well, oh well she’s missing out.


    On the other hand I do agree with that, replacing them would seem a bit messed up. Thanks for your input!
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  • Watts
    Super March 2020
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    It's pretty common for brides to pick the dresses, as long as it's affordable and a reasonable selection. Obviously you have to take body types in to account. She's nice in her text, but silly to back out because she didn't get to choose the dress. I think you could replace her and not hurt her feelings
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  • Kelsey
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    I think your cousin is being ridiculous. The dress you picked out is awesome. She did not handle it well. She was nice in her text, but in my opinion I think it's rather rude to back out of wedding because she doesn't like the dress.

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  • Denise
    Devoted May 2019
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    The text message sounds to me like she’s not upset about the dress so much as she’s upset about how you behaved about the dress.
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  • Yesenia
    Savvy March 2020
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    Maybe, but I was only being direct. So I think she disliked how upfront I was solely because I made the decision on the dress. In another message she sent to the groupchat with my bridesmaids she said that the the material “looked cheap” meaning she didn’t like the look of it.
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  • Yesenia
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    Yes thank you! I totally agree with you. She’ll miss out 😅
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
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    That dress is gorgeous! You can replace them or not. Up to you! I had one girl back out on me for personal reasons so I asked my guy friend to be my bridesman. And he is.
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  • Kasyah
    Devoted July 2020
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    So, I ran into this same thing. 2 BM's dropped out. One is Prego with twins and the other- had dress issues too lol I think there were deeper issues but whatev.


    I went ahead and asked my fiancés sisters to be in the wedding in their place. I hadn't asked them before because I couldn't afford to pay for 6 BM's. I had already paid for almost everything for the other 2 BM's and it meant the world to them to be in the wedding. Also, they're my family now too and we have all grown super close.
    I say do what makes you happy. It shouldn't matter if you asked them before or not. If you have friends that you're close to and want in your big day- do it!
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  • Yesenia
    Savvy March 2020
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    Thank you, that’s awesome though you were able to find someone who was willing to be a part of your day!
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
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    You're welcome! I'm sure you'll figure it out!
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  • Yesenia
    Savvy March 2020
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    Well that’s unfortunate, glad to hear it all worked out in the end .
    Thank you for your input!😊
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  • Kim
    Beginner August 2020
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    The dress is beautiful. You dont need the party to be even. You can have the extra groomsmen walk grandparents or parents down the aisle.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    You're the bride!! You're allowed to pick the dresses you want your bridesmaids to wear. Some brides allow their BMs to give their opinions on dresses, or to pick the style they want, but there's no hard and fast rule. You are the one planning this wedding, and it is ultimately your decision what your bridal party wears!

    I think your cousin was rude and ridiculous about it. You should be glad she backed out. Now she can't start any drama before your wedding.

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