Help! My guests replies are no!

Your groom is the small family on the west coast? What makes one person a small family? Who are the people in NYC and why would they be contributing?

I'm so confused by all of this.

Why do you keep calling him the groom? He's your husband..

...and if you're married, don't you have joint finances?

ETA: Who liked OP's post?

I would like to give you advice but your responses are so convoluted that I don't have a clue what the heck is going on anymore.

In my family or maybe culture (idk) it's not uncommon to elope then get married in a church later and they all still call it a "wedding", so I understand that you still think it's a wedding but realistically it's not.

I second everyone saying that you're freaking out too early! You have 6 weeks until the RSVP deadline! I sent my invites last week and only 2 have RSVP'd. It's okay! it will work out. Invite friends and coworkers where you live if your family far away can't go!

The more she responds, the less I think that she is actually the person this party is for.

I think we've been visited by Multiple Personality Barbie

Janeen, et al...is she real?

I wasn't paying attention to her original post because it had a date in it where it would be easier to track her down. Like september or something, right? As far as I can tell, this is her only post here so I really can't say one way or another....but the phrasing on all of this is so weird.

I'm not touching the rest of this post with a 10 foot pole, but if you take a look a lot of the RSVP venting threads for actual weddings, people usually don't RSVP until the last second and/or need to be hunted down after the deadline for an actual answer anyway. So the lack of responses 2 months ahead is quite normal and honestly expected. Don't sweat it just yet.

I'm with Janeen. I think she may be a planner who has to make some quick decisions to save a client thousands of dollars on vendors that aren't necessary because the "wedding" they were envisioning is obviously not going to happen. Either that or a well intentioned friend or relative.

The more information that comes out, the more obvious it becomes that we're not getting the whole story. The east coast family is dramatic and has never helped pay for anything. I thought I read that the west coast family had contributed, but now the OP says only the groom is paying. I believe it is VC who keeps asking about the venue minimum, and she has yet to be given an answer, and why is it so important to have definitive guest responses six weeks before the invitations require them? This is very confusing.

It IS unrealistic to expect people to fork over several thousand dollars to attend a vow renewal. You can keep calling it a wedding, but it is a vow renewal. And, just because they knew about it before hand does not commit them to attendance.

Perhaps the east cost family is tired of the entitlement that is going on here.

RE: I already replied to some good questions. Not everyone is reading everything I posted in order. Iam the wife/bride I already contacted the venue, DJ, and my husband/the groom! ...we have the whole question, dilemma right now in order and fixed. We are not worried anymore. Everything is going to be fine!! Thank you to those that were nice, kind, and polite with their thoughts and advice here. Have a great day!! ----THE END.

The End? Roll credits? See, the answer was within you all the time. All you needed to do was close your eyes, tap your heels together three times and say to yourself, "There's no place like the vow renewal, there's no place like the vow renewal..."

Knottie who didn't get the drama she wanted?

From a purely emotional standpoint, I say "Party on with those who come!"

On behalf of OP -

On a sidenote, I am so happy this got bumped. I found the kitty and now get to use him!

WOW! Just wasted 15 minutes of my life reading this thread!