Help! My bridesmaid was to dye her hair black and Red??

No i don’t think it would make you a bridezilla, my 18 year old daughter likes having different hair colors and she will be a bridesmaid and the first thing I told her is that she needed to have a natural hair color for my wedding. If your bridesmaid cares anything about how you feel she will understand (she should anyways) she can wait till after your wedding to dye her hair. You are right her hair will be the focal point. You should be the spotlight not her hair. Just talk to her and let her know how you feel. It’s the brides day and should be all about the bride and what she wants! That’s what I’m doing for my wedding and I told my fiancé that if anyone has a problem with it they can just stay home. We are going to have a fun and happy wedding. Hope everything turns out for you and she understands

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It’s the brides day and should be all about the bride and what she wants!

No.

It's no longer just about the bride when you choose to involve others in the day. And does the groom not matter either? If you want it to only be about you then you should elope. Having a wedding isn't an excuse for the couple to behave in a self absorbed and inconsiderate matter towards the people who they have asked to spend time and money to be a part of their day.

View Quoted Comment Apparently you are marrying yourself. Good luck with that.

I would be upset too it is her hair so if she wants to dye it that’s her choice. Yeah I understand what you are saying. Unfortunately you can’t say don’t get it dyed. I’m just curious is it a bright red or darker?


Was she just going to have hair down? Angle her so it would show only one color /black.
My MoH had blue hair and for party it’s a different way (around same color), but I figure not to make a big deal about it. I’m like go ahead do what you like. I wouldn’t stress much over it. Trust me she’s only in a certain amount of pictures. Photographers have wonders of doing things in pictures maybe it will be different (not sure how but I know mine was able to remove cars like oh ok then 😂)

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. It is one thing if her hair was always black and red. She can so easily put off dyeing her hair until after your wedding. I don't think it unreasonable for a bride to not want unnatural hair colors in her wedding party. If I were you I would absolutely ask her to have her hair a natural color.

You know your bridesmaid better than anyone else. You will better know how she will take it. I don't think it is wrong of you to ask, but if she disagrees, I wouldn't push the subject, and I will let it go. At the end of the day it is still her hair. It is her decision on how accommodating she will be.

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Maybe it is just because I dye my hair often, but I would probably get my hair dyed in a color of the bride's choosing, if she wanted me to. Like I don't see it as that big a deal if she thinks my hair would be look better in this color or that color for her wedding.

But still if it is your hair it is ultimately your decision.