Alexandria
Savvy May 2019

Help! Feeling very insecure in wedding photos!

Alexandria, on May 8, 2020 at 2:04 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 36
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I had my wedding last year. It was perfect. Stress-free. I was very happy. It was the best day of my life, small happy gathering with family and close friends. I had the moment when I got the dress, my mom cried. We had barbecue and laughed with family and had a lovely honeymoon in Charleston, Golden Isles and Savannah. I had a blast and it was bliss. I felt very pretty the day of my wedding. I got my photos back (my photographer friend did them) and I felt lovely at first but as I showed them to my coworkers or friends who said they wanted to see the dress they all just said "oh". Not one person said anything nice to me except my mother and a few odd Facebook comments. So that planted a seed of doubt. I began to go on Instagram and compare myself to other brides. I wore shorts under my dress and it made my belly pop out a little in some photos from the side and I'm afraid I look pregnant in them Smiley sad ! I didn't feel curvy enough up top. I started picking myself apart, my lips are too thin, maybe I had bad taste, maybe there's something wrong with me, maybe my pictures aren't edited well enough. Now when I look at my pictures I can't stop judging myself and wondering if I'm unattractive. I compare myself to other brides and feel like crying. My mind keeps saying I didn't look good enough and it makes me very sad because it has ruined me feeling happy about myself and my husband's best day. And it makes my husband upset to see me sad about how I looked. Does anyone else struggle with wondering if they were adequate? If their figure is good enough? If other people think they really look dreadful? I don't think retaking them would help since it's ME that I'm not confident about since other people reacted this way. Do you have any tips to help with feeling insecure about how you looked? Has anyone else been through this?


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Latest activity by Tiana, on June 2, 2020 at 7:57 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Dude these photos are so nice and you look just absolutely stunning. whomever you showed those to were just so taken aback by your beauty they didn't know WHAT to say.


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  • C
    Savvy September 2020
    Carolyn ·
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    I wonder if your friends and coworkers just aren’t the type to gush over things, because you look really beautiful and the photos are lovely! I honestly and truly do not see anything wrong, not even anything I’d think to myself but not say out loud.


    You look gorgeous, the dress and accessories are perfect, and you have a great shape in that dress! You definitely do not look pregnant.
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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    You look like a princess, absolutely gorgeous. And you do not look pregnant. There’s a few things I don’t like about my face from certain angles but I know it’s just me being nit picky and no one else sees those things.
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  • Trisha
    Super October 2020
    Trisha ·
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    Your Photos Are Nice And You Looked Beautiful! Don't Compare Yourself To Other People, Because You Will Forever Have Doubt In Your Mind When You Do That. YOU Are Beautiful AND So Are Your Wedding Pictures. Smiley heart

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  • Fenja
    VIP August 2021
    Fenja ·
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    You look gorgeous!! I don't know why you got that reaction, but these photos are beautiful!

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  • Nandi
    Dedicated March 2021
    Nandi ·
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    Your dress is beautiful! You look like a princess ☺️ & most importantly, the two of you look so happy. Congrats!
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  • Marissa
    Expert October 2020
    Marissa ·
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    Girl you look absolutely beautiful!!!! Your hair style is so romantic and pretty, with that gorgeous headband! LOVE your dress and fits your body to a T, you have such a small waist! Wish I had that hourglass figure and you don't look pregnant at all. Honestly I felt the same way when I got back my engagement photos. I saw only my flaws and kept comparing me to other couples. I know our photographer did a fantastic job, but I'm kinda worried about how I will look during my wedding day now haha. But you gotta remember we are all unique and different in our own ways. That's what makes you YOU. Everyone has flaws and isn't perfect!

    I think your coworkers and friends are probably used to seeing all those "extravagant and expensive" weddings on TV, Pinterest, and in magazines, and sometimes those are just staged photos and not even a reality for most weddings! (unless you spend A LOT of money). I don't see anything wrong with your photos, they were edited beautifully with the soft lighting. As long as you were happy on your day, then that's all that counts!

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    You look beautiful! I’m not sure why your friends would act like that.
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  • Anna R
    Dedicated August 2020
    Anna R ·
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    ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! You look like a princess Smiley smile
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai ·
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    Beautiful and gorgeous !
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    You both look great!!!!!
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  • Sasha
    Dedicated September 2021
    Sasha ·
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    You look beautiful and your dress is stunning!
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    I honesty’s don’t know what to say... I am sorry about that. You look sweet, cute, and pretty 💕





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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
    Alaina ·
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    Awe girl. You look so beatiful and happy! Don't be so hard on yourself.❤❤
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  • Faviola
    Dedicated August 2021
    Faviola ·
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    Beautiful pictures! The dress looked really good on you.
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  • Tara
    Beginner August 2020
    Tara ·
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    You looked so beautiful! I love your dress, it is almost the same as mine!! I hope I look as good as you in it! 💖
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  • Keah
    Savvy October 2022
    Keah ·
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    Girl! I am not seeing what you're seeing. You look absolutely STUNNING, your dress is GORGEOUS, and your photos are beautiful. I love the one of you two next to the window, and you walking down the isle is such a cool shot from that angle.


    Don't worry about what other people say. You felt so good that day, it was probably one of the best days you've ever had. Don't think about those people bringing you down, just remember how amazing that day was, because you look so happy and very beautiful.
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  • Nicole
    Savvy June 2020
    Nicole ·
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    You look BEAUTIFUL! What’s even more, you can see the love between you and your husband in these photos. I know it’s easy and natural to compare yourself to other brides, and I’m guilty of this even in stuff like my engagement photos. Try not to let other people’s reactions taint the memories and specialness of your best day ever. As other people have said, maybe the people that have seen the photos just aren’t gushing over them or who knows why they didn’t react as expected. I think you looked amazing, and the smile on your face says more to me than anything else in the photo. I hope you and your husband are safe during this time and as happy as ever! 💕
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  • Angela
    Dedicated July 2020
    Angela ·
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    You were an absolutely beautiful bride!
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  • L
    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    You look so pretty and I’d kill to be what you think of as fat. I think my problem is there aren’t enough if you closer to camera but you wedding and the dress are capture and it’s so lovely. I wouldn’t worry about it.

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