Head Table

Head tables are awful. Either it's a large portion of people at the head table which is odd to me, or you force people to sit without their SOs, and their SOs usually don't know anyone. Sweetheart tables are the way to go. Why don't you want to sit with your new husband for 20 min while you eat?

If you do a head table, include everyone. Having people sit separate isn't nice.

I can't tell if you're still anti-sweetheart table or not, but if that is the direction you're looking at now there is no need to seat the entire wedding party together. H and I sat together and our wedding party was scattered among several tables with their SOs/dates and friends. And I have had similar experiences as a bridesmaid in 2 other weddings.

Are you now considering a king's table with everyone included, or a sweetheart table?

They should be offered plus ones - if they don't take them, seat them next to each other.

I honestly don't get the need to even have the wedding party all seated together if it's people who don't know each other well anyway though. The great thing about a sweetheart table is that since the bride and groom aren't seated long, they can have that table to themselves to talk for a few minutes, then the rest of the wedding party can be seated according to social group.

Sweetheart tables are the easiest. And then you can put the wedding party and their dates with whoever you want, they all don't have to be sitting together. We had 8 on each side and they were scattered over about 6 tables. Some sat with family, some sat with friends.

I have never been to a wedding where I was separated from my FH, even though he was in the BP. We always sat at a regular table with the other GM and their dates. It's totally regional, some people expect to be separated because that is common in their region. We don't have head tables very often in the Northeast, I have seen a King's table (BP and SO's) and a sweetheart table is very common.

I plan on doing a sweetheart table and having the BP spread out at different tables sitting with the other guests who they know best. I do have some single BMs but there will be other people at the wedding they know, and they are getting to know the rest of the BP throughout the year leading up to the wedding.

But the OP said neither of them really want a sweetheart, and she's worried her sister and MOH will feel awkward sitting with other couples in the BP because they are single and don't know many people at the wedding. I do think King's table is a good way to go. Your sister and MOH will be able to sit with the bride (apparently the only person they know at the wedding), the rest of the BP will be happy to sit with their SOs, and it's what OP's FH wants.

We are doing a sweetheart table and then two rounds with our bridal party and their SOs near us. If we have all of our bridal party and their SOs up there, that will be half our guest list sitting up with us lol. I do like the look of the kings table and the head table, but I would like to seat my bridal party with their SOs.

We are doing sweetheart table as most of the bridal party has significant others and I want our GM and BM to have a good time with their SO rather than sitting right next to us..

We aren't doing any separate tables. My FH and I will sit with all of our parents and our BP gets to sit with their spouses at other tables. I have always found it to be awkward when BP doesn't get to sit with their SO or spouse.

@Reese that's what we are doing as well. We aren't even keeping our bridal party together because a lot of them have other friends and family that will be there and it makes more sense to seat them with those people rather than with the rest of the BP. They may all be sick of each other by that point haha.

My life goal is to get people to realize how dumb head tables are (unless everyone in the bridal party declines a plus 1).

We are doing a sweetheart table. I would not like to be separated from my SO. I was just in a wedding and my FH would have been pissed if we couldn't sit together because he didn't know anyone there!

**side note the bridal party wasn't even sitting all together. One other bridesmaid was at our table and that was it.

If the SOs of the bridal party will know other people at the wedding, you can seat them there. But if they only know you and their SO in your wedding party, it would be a real kindness to seat them at the table. I have been at the 'reject SO table' and it is no furn-- especilaly since I had very close friends in the room, NOT at the 'reject SO table', so why not seat me with them?

I find it really rude to seat the SOs away from the BP. Honestly, why is that the one time people think it's ok to do that? It's a wedding, a celebration of love, and yet you are separating people in love just to make things more convenient. Nope. They are already separated during the ceremony, then they don't get to sit together at dinner, at that point they will spend such a huge part of the night apart why bring a date at all? I just would hate to go to a wedding with my SO and then be forced to sit with a bunch of people I don't know. Honestly, even if I did know them I would still be really irritated that I couldn't enjoy the night with my husband. We sat with our BP but we included SOs as well. If that group hadn't fit at one table we would have worked something else out and the one option we would never have considered would have been splitting up couples.

FH has been a GM in the last few weddings we've attended and I always sat at a table with the other spouses of the wedding party. I got to know them and it was fine, but if I was shy or if they were unfriendly, it would be a really uncomfortable experience. Those damn meals can last a long time!

For us, we're just having a maid of honour and a best man. We're close to both their spouses as well so we thought it made sense for the six of us to sit at a "head table". Even if we weren't close to them, we'd still sit them with us.