Head Table

We are also doing one big table with BP and their dates, we will only have a total of 14 at the table though. It will be a rectangle table, both our immediate family will also have rectangle table on each side of us and then the rest of the guests will be at round tables.

Personally, I'm stacking everyone at the head table. Simply for comfort of significant others and a lot my friends are married. They want to be with their spouses and quite frankly I don't blame them. We also have less than 10 people in our entire bridal party. But I don't think either way is necessarily wrong.

Do you want to sit with your new husband at dinner? Why?

Building off what Lil Bee said... it would be considered highly rude, when making a seating chart, to separate spouses and SOs and dates just because of any aesthestics or grouping or whatever. Why is it any different for the wedding party? Why are the nearest and dearest the ones who get separated? I could survive a bridal shower where the only registry was a honeyfund but that doesn't make it the right thing to do.

We are doing are sweetheart table because of this. I wouldn't want my FH to be my plus on and then sit apart.

Being the significant other at a wedding and being seated away from your spouse/partner is always super awkward. I have had similar experiences to frugal even at weddings where I knew people. It's just weird and lonely and you're at a wedding so you're feeling romantic and the most you can do is try to make eye contact with your husband across the room. I just find it incredibly rude to split up couples, you would never do that at a normal party so why do it now? It's just a crappy thing to do to your friends.

I also don't understand not wanting your bridal party's (supposedly your nearest and dearest) partners near you since these people will most likely be in your life forever (along with your friends). I love my friends partners and was happy to share the day with them as well as my bridal party

Another possibility: Don't do a head table or a sweetheart table. Just sit at one of the regular round tables. It won't look weird that you're entire bridal party isn't at your table because you won't be "on display." You can have your MOH and date, BM and date, and siblings, if they fit, at your table, and start another table for the rest of the bridal party.

We are doing with Jeanne did!

It'll be a huge table - 26 or so people, but we are going to make it work. We will line both sides of the table with our wedding party and their SOs/Plus 1s

@Jeanne nailed it. Yes your wedding day is about you, but why would you make your guests feel uncomfortable or take away from the happiness of their day, just to convenience yourself. I really think people need to stop this "me me me" mentality of a wedding day. Yea it's about you, but that doesn't mean it's ok for your guests to come and have a shitty time!

We did a head table. It was important for me to have the BP sit with their SO's. Otherwise there is a random table of SO's or they are mixed into other tables. We had 3 GM and 4 BM's. The BM's weren't able to have their husbands come and one isn't dating anyone. However the 3 GM, 2 are married and the other is in a serious relationship.

Sure, it's the bride/grooms day and it will be ours on our wedding day. However, that doesn't give anyone the right to be rude. If the BP sacrifices their time and money to support the bride/groom, doesn't that entitle them to anything? I think there's a fine line between using "it's our day, we can do whatever we want" and making sure every guest is comfortable and treated like a guest would be at most other events.

Okay, I understand the need/want to be with your SO, so then brings the dilemma of how do I make sure my sister, and my MOH are comfortable at a table full of couples when they are single and will have only met these people maybe 2 or 3 times before the wedding.

Invite them to bring at date. Will they really not know how to socialize with a group of people they don't know as well? Just because people's significant others are at the table doesn't mean couples will only talk to each other.

Let them bring a plus one. They should be given one if they're in the BP.

Agree that it's very rude not to have couples together. We had a sweetheart table and sat the bridal party wherever they would be most comfortable (e.g. college bridesmaid & SO sat with college table, sister & SO with my family, etc.). It made the most sense for our crowd.

Dump all your married friends?

Give them a plus one. If they don't bring one, you could sit them next to each other so they can chat or consider the solution I posted above, but other than that, I got nothing.

I am confused Frugal Gator.. you just said you need to make sure your nearest and dearest are comfortable and you felt awkward being away from your SO, but you are now telling OP that single people shouldn't be comfortable....??

I misunderstood the question and edited my comment to reflect that. I thought she was trying to console her single friends because they were single. "We can't invite couples to the wedding because then all the single people will be jealous." That's a personal problem for the individual person.

But I realized that's not what was being asked (or at least I hope so). Everyone should be comfortable, so she should give them each a plus one.

I don't really get why the single ladies would be uncomfortable if others are allowed to sit with their SO's at a table with the bride and groom. Single people have to be around people in relationships all the time. Or are you talking about the sweetheart table idea now? I can see why that wouldn't work as well for OP.

I think it's extremely odd to put significant others up at the head table with bridal party. Which is another reason sweetheart tables are so much more popular now. No one wants to not sit with their significant other. Why can't you have a sweetheart table and two tables right next to you of the bridal party and their spouses? So that they are still up front and center but everyone is comfortable. Def don't do spouses at the "head table" that'd be awkward and bazaar in my opinion!