He doesn't want to marry me anymore!

Try to relax and breath.. If he's not ready, then you really shouldn't get married. just post pone plans and see if you's can work things out as a couple and farther your relationship and go from there..

Marriage isn't something to go into if one is not ready.

I am really sorry to hear this...

I'm really sorry to hear this. I agree with mayo post pone plans and work on your relationship. Not trying to make this about me, but letting you know that there are other out there. My Fh still waits to marry me, I think talking about marriage and all was stressing him and we fought more so we decided to wait till he graduated and not really talk about wedding things until this august! We told ours that we needed to remember why we feel in love and why we wanted to get married. We are actually taking some of our wedding money and taking a vacation for the three nights to get away from daily life (we live together) and reconnect. sorry that was long! I'm really sorry and all of us girls are here for you! sorry that was so much about me, didn't mean for it to come off that way!

Thank you both for your kind words. I know he loves me but all the planning is driving him crazy... thats all we talk about lately... I think we need to take some time and just enjoy being in love.

That is exactly how my Fh was feeling and we had a long talk and decided that we needed to focus on our love before we could plan a wedding! hang in there!

I agree with the other ladies. Sounds like it's best to put the wedding planning aside and work on your relationship. You wouldn't want to start your marriage with that kind of stress anyway! At least he let you know before it got too much closer instead of waiting and making things worse. Give him time, I'm sure everything will be fine in no time!

After a while we only talk about wedding. even your friends only talk about your wedding when you just want to have drink!

You might need a "wedding free zone"... when you get tired of wedding talk just say wedding free zone, that means that you can talk about everything else but wedding. Your Fh can use it too!

It seams to be working for us... I recently start using it with my bridemaids. they were driving me crazy!

i hope it works for you.

Sorry to hear about this. Marriage is bigger than the wedding day....so if there is any doubt, I would postpone the wedding and deal with any issues that may be present in the relationship.

Sorry to hear about this. Fighting like this during wedding planning can happen, especially since all it is lately is wedding planning. sometimes they say things they don't mean out of stress, as well as we do so i think taking time to reconnect, time for just the 2 of you, no marriage, just love is a perfect idea. maybe ensure 1 or 2 nights a week to be date night which means no wedding talk...just time 2gether and he picks what to do the 1 night and you pick the next. doesn't have to cost money either, could something as simple as watching a movie and making his favorite dinner. don't stress, if it is meant to be it will all work out in the end. hang in there!

Wedding stuff can drive any man crazy. That is how my is, so what I did is mainly plan everything and only talk to him about the important things. We had also picked the weekend to discusss wedding stuff and not during the week. Just remember that a wedding is for only one day. So you need to make sure that you are both on the same page when it comes to it. So take sometime off of the wedding stuff and relax.

I'm sorry to hear that your wedding will be postponed but I'm happy that you aren't splitting up all together. Wedding can be pretty difficult for men. I caught myself a few months back only talking about wedding stuff, and after hearing advice on here from brides saying to have wedding free time, I make a rule to not talk about wedding stuff more than 2 times a week to my FH. Because it really is important to not lose yourselves as a couple. I think you both just need to take a break from wedding planning. Maybe make a rule to where you can only talk about wedding stuff on a particular day of the week?

I agree with pp. maybe you should break for a while and put off the wedding for later. try to work on things so you guys can be together stress-free. then when its time to plan again, try not to bring it up too much. some guys just hate talking about it. mine gets in a weird mood every time i bring it up

Do a lot of talking. For starters, ask him: "When you say you're not sure you want to get married, do you mean to say that all we talk about is the wedding and you want us to talk more about all the other aspects of our life? Or are there some other issues you want us to be working on?" You need to get to the heart of the problem. And you need to leave yourselves both space to be very, very honest with each other.

I am sorry to hear about this. It can be tough pill to swallow. I have to admit, this too is my biggest fear. I think the other ladies have it, work on each other first. Think about you the both of you; when it comes down to the nuts and bolts it seems like he would marry you tomorrow at the courthouse; but the wedding is what is tearing you apart. The important thing is to remember to fight fair (no hair pulling and name calling...so to speak) and find out what is really going on and if it is the stress of planning a wedding, then as a couple you have to decide how you are going to tackle that problem. What my FH and I do (and it is cheesy, but it seems to work) since the day we became engaged we have become Team C. and we root for ourselves, look out for each other and wonder how we are going to get to the endzone together we can't win without each other (I said it was cheesy) Keep your head up, it will work out for the best in the end; I promise.

So Sorry to hear this Lizzie.

I think that most ladies on here are correct in that we get so wrapped up in the planning and forget the meaning behind it. We plan and plan and this tends to be our life and we let it consume every part of it... when we are so much bigger than the wedding itself.

Take the time you both need to adjust and to fall further in love. The rest will come.

Best of Luck!

I'm sorry. Find out why he has changed his mind and see if it can be worked out. Maybe he just feels left out.

I am sorry too , My Advise : don't Rush, take your time.

Do not make the mistake of letting wedding planning consume your entire relationship. (1) Guys hate it. (2) You will look up in a year and realize you no longer no your mate. What me and my FH did from the very beginning was we scheduled meetings to discuss the wedding. We've been doing this since August and it works very well. We discuss what needs to be discussed. We may have some action items but typically WE DO NOT DISCUSS WEDDING DETAILS OUTSIDE OF OUR PLANNING MEETINGS. Very seldom have we had to break that rule. Sometimes things will come up that need to be handled right away. We started out meeting once a month. Now that the wedding is closer we meet ever 2-3 weeks. We are almost to the point that we dn't need to have any more meetings. Once we finalize the ceremony details I think we'll be all set. Take a step back and regroup. If planning the wedding is ruining your relationship then obviously you need to do something different.

I think that was a very brave and non-selfish thing for him to do Lizzie....I know it hurts like h**ll but obviously he loves you a great deal to have told you now. I honestly think that it's that love that will bring the two of you to the alter at a later date..bear hugs sweetie:-)

"I know he loves me but all the planning is driving him crazy... thats all we talk about lately"

I have read that this can be a HUGE problem with couples...when you do restart your wedding planning, make sure that it isn't all you talk about. Maybe even designate a time when you can talk about wedding plans and only bring them up then.

I too went thru FH saying he didn't want to get married...I was planning wayyyy before we got engaged...and was ready to jump out of the wedding closet...lol...as soon as the ring went on...All he said he wanted to know was the address and time to be there...but he has put his 2cents in on plenty...even tho he said he didn't want to do anything...then we went to tour a venue this past wknd and he kind of woke up and amazingly had all kinds of input...like others said...just talk to him...Good luck!