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Kayla
Savvy October 2011

He doesn't like the dress..

Kayla, on March 30, 2011 at 5:00 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 21

Hello..

So Id like some advice. I am pretty confident that my fiance wont like my dress when he see's it. I model for a bridal shop, and she never puts me in a dress thats similar to mine, for the purpose of not being seen in it. But, his sister, my friend, models with me. She wore a dress of a similar style to mine. I was showing him pictures and he couldn't say enough about how the dress looks funny. She was wearing a mermaid. I wont say what style mine is, just in case he looks.. But I want him to melt when he see's me.. not cringe at the site of my gown..

Heres what she was wearing during the show. I have simliarities to the dress.. I want everything to be beautiful..how do I deal with the fact he wont like what he sees walking down the isle?



21 Comments

Latest activity by Kristin, on December 15, 2012 at 12:57 AM
  • Mrs. Marissa
    Devoted July 2012
    Mrs. Marissa ·
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    Personally, in this case I would have him see a picture of you in the dress to make sure he likes it. The same dress won't have the affect on different people.

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  • Mrs. Marissa
    Devoted July 2012
    Mrs. Marissa ·
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    By the way, he will love you in the dress because he loves you! Don't fret!

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  • Mrs. Roberts
    Super June 2011
    Mrs. Roberts ·
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    I wouldn't show him the dress and wouldn't worry too much about it. If you love the dress keep it. You will look different in it than anyother girl will and that day he will not be looking at the dress. Was there something specific he didn't like about it that is the same as your dress?

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  • Dani
    Expert April 2011
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    I would ask him specifically what he doesn't like... tell him it's a popular style so he doesn't get suspicous...

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  • R
    Dedicated May 2011
    Ruth ·
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    Here's what I did...b/c it is VERY important to me also that my fiancee loves my dress...show him pics of three different dresses, each next to each other, one being your dress and the other two dummy dresses, and ask him to tell you his likes and dislikes of each, which one he likes best and so forth....Dont tell him that one of them is yours! It helped me alot and I got a very strong sense of what his expectations are in a dress. I do believe that he will love you in anything, but I can relate to where you're coming from about him loving the dress. Good luck!

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  • Bitchasaurus
    VIP September 2011
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    My dress isn't one I think my FH will like only because it has lots and lots of beading and lace. However, I know that when he sees me in it, he will love it AND me. Your FH will love you no matter what you wear, even if you show up in a white burlap sack.

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  • Jennifer
    Master June 2011
    Jennifer ·
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    Ok...I see some flaws here.....first off, its not YOU wearing it and secondly, its not even the same exact dress!

    And what things des he find funny about the dress (reminder...its not the same dress and its not YOU in the dress)? if he says the chicks bewbs looks weird in them...well, your bewbs will look different in that dress.

    Honey....do you love your dress? do you feel beautiful in the dress? Then, if thats a yes, then you will rock that dress. Cause trust me....the dress is just a dress....a confident and sexy woman IN that dress...well, thats MAKEs the dress.

    nuff' said.

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
    FMS, the barefoot wife! ·
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    I had the same concern. My DH didn't like big, poufy, long trains, BEADING. Well, my gown was all lace and beads, from top to past my hips where the tulle bottom came out. I had not train (I hate them on me, same with the poufy ones) And I was freaking. He hates beads! But, I stuck to my guns and kept the dress I loved. ANd you know what, he didn't say a word the day of the wedding, other than I was beautiful and he was happy the dress wasn't puofy with a long train.

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  • Victoria C. Hernandez
    Master July 2011
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    Well Said Jennifer O... Don't let it stress you out... all he will see is you!!!

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  • Ramona
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    Ramona ·
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    Seriously! He will love you no matter what you are wearing! I think most likely he won't even notice your dress anyway until much later in the day!

    And I agree with Jennifer - it's not you in the dress and it is not the same dress and one dress can look funny on one person and be the perfect one for another! That's why there are so many!

    What did he think was funny? The flower on the thigh? Well yours might not have that! And - does he usually like your style? Then I think most likely he will like what you chose for your wedding gown!

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  • Sharon
    Master June 2010
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    Honestly, he won't even remember seeing a dress of a similar style on your wedding day. Sorry but guys are not really into clothes/dresses and all he will care about on the day is how beautiful you looking walking down the Aisle.

    Don't stress! Smiley smile

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  • akarenrc
    Devoted September 2011
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    I think I could wear rags and he wouldnt see the difference. Although I really like my dress and pay attention to all the details (lace, beading etc....) I know all he will see is a big white dress..lol. But here you have a guy who notices the different styles, I would ask him whats so funny about a certain dress and you will be able to tell what he doesnt like.

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  • Sonja Morgan
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    The dress wont matter...all he'll see is you!

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  • Kayla
    Savvy October 2011
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    Well thank you! I believe he'll like the momment no matter what I wear. And it does make a BIG difference if you show that your confident in what you are wearing. He doesn't like the style.. the mermaid. The tight on top and big on bottom. I love that style.. and it shows my curves which get mooshed when I wear a ball gown. I feel confident in the dress.. Its mine now, I've already bought it lol. My bridal gown seller says theres no way he wont melt ha... (It was between 2 dresses, they were completely different. The dress I didn't pick is this one. thats me in it too.. just thought I'd share it cause its so pretty.)


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  • Jaemi C. fka Jaemi S. :-)
    Master October 2010
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    @Jennifer and @Sharono said it. Don't stress. You are going to look beautiful that day and the only think he is going to be looking at is your smiling face coming down that aisle. I can't can't forget the look on DS' face. It took my breath away!

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  • K
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    I wouldn't stress! All he is going to see is you and your beautiful face when you walk down the aisle...

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  • Jennifer
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    Do you have a pic of you in YOUR dress? Smiley smile

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  • Rachel W. de L.
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    I would like to say... I took FH with me dress shopping. He saw me in the sample dress, he knew which dress I bought. Two months later I asked him if he thought a piece of jewellery went with the accents on my dress.

    He looked at me blankly and said something along the lines of "like I remember anything about your dress... I know it's white, but unless I look at a picture of it or something, I have no clue what your accent things even are, much less what they look like or if some jewellery goes with it."

    So no worries hun. He probably doesn't even remember that he laughed at a dress, much less which one or why. And on the day of, he won't be looking at your dress. Your guests will, but he won't... unless you make an effort to ask him what he thinks of it. He'll just be wanting to stare at the brilliant smile on your face and want to kiss you repeatedly. lol

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  • Samantha  Mullins
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    To be 100% honest with you, he's a man. He's not going to remember what the dress looked like in 10 years only that it was white. Choose a dress that you feel comfortable and beautiful in. When you feel pretty you'll be more confident and that's what he'll love and remember about it. By the way, your dress is gorgeous! No one in their right mind could not like it!

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  • K
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    Hey! Do you happen to know who that gown was by in the picture that you posted of the one you didn't get?

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