Having a dry wedding?

My FH and I are having a dry wedding my suggestion to you is to stand your ground! People need to have respect for you and your choices if not then they will be the ones looking bad. Also make sure you announce that it is a dry wedding on the invites so people are prepared. This is your wedding. You want your day to be what you want. I also had issues with my FMIL she isn't happy about it. You don't need to drink to have fun and the people who believe that are very sad and boring people.

Also think of a lunch time wedding

@J'mya if you want a dry wedding, that's your choice. However, be aware that there are only certain circumstances under which a dry wedding may not be considered rude and that is if you have a morning wedding with a breakfast reception or if you have a non-meal time wedding with a cake and punch reception.

Anything else and people will talk. So if you're set on a dry wedding, you should adjust the time of your ceremony/reception.

I just don't get it. Who is like "I want to throw a party that most people will find lame and be disappointed by". Because it's MY day. Well OK, but if your guests don't have a good time, was YOUR day worth it?

J'mya, I understand your fear of people (particularly your FIL from the sounds of it) getting carried away. My family can be the same way. However, I have been to 2 dry weddings hosted by family members in the past few years and at those dry weddings is when I saw my family at their absolute worst. The figured "Hey, no bar that's cool. I'll just bring my own." And sure for awhile it was fine. Grab a coke, go out to the car and poor a little alcohol in it then get back in to the party... but when people are mixing their own drinks, pours tend to get very heavy and people get drunk very quickly. A hosted bar with a bartender could have prevented that. Also, the few teens in attendance found out about the trunk stash and went to help themselves, drunk teens were the bride and grooms liability because the liquor was not contained by the venue. They got a huge fine. Not Good.

FH and I decided to have beer, wine, and 2 signature cocktails. That's it. No one can order off menu, no one can do shots, nothing crazy but because we are serving alcohol no one is going to try to bring their own, no one is going to get blitzed (bartenders will see to that), and no one underage will have such easy access.

I get your fear but hosting a small limited bar not only makes you a gracious and considerate hostess but it also make you less liable. I know that sounds backwards but its true. Plus, you will have the venue staff on your side to keep everything contained.

You have 3 stars. You have seen posts like this... if you expect people to tell you that's it's okay and your mom is wrong... then you came to the wrong place

You can limit it to certain Beverages but his mom is right! You can't expect other not to drink because you don't drink.

Oh goodie, another one.

Guess what: there is a HUGE difference between having a glass or two of wine or another beverage and getting plastered.

It doesn't matter if you don't drink, or your FH doesn't drink. You KNOW that part of the guest list does and will be expecting at LEAST wine or beer. So, you're just going to say "screw you" to your new family? You're going to punish them because you don't want to have alcohol at your wedding?

I get it. You're not a drinker.

Actually I don't. Alcohol is awesome.

But anyway, the day ceases to be about YOU and what YOU want when you start inviting guests. The reception is to thank your friends and family for coming to celebrate with you.

If you absolutely MUST NOT HAVE alcohol for any reason OTHER THAN it being against your religion, have an early afternoon reception with cake and punch.

If you serve food/dinner, people will expect to have a glass of wine or a beer with their dinner.

^^^ you're completely right. There is a BIG difference in just having a few drinks and getting drunk. Agree completely with you there. Me saying "they get overly loud" was honestly trying to be nice and not saying when they drink too much they all start fighting. That is definitely not something we want happening at our wedding.

But a pro bartender will be able to watch their consumption and help limit it so no one will drink too much.

Its a wedding. I strongly doubt that anyone is going to want to start a fight at a wedding.

Have to chime in on the religion line. Seriously, point me to the bible verse that says don't get drunk. I'll assume if it is there, it's Old Testament and most Christians should know that the new covenant with Jesus meant different rules to be followed. If it's New Testament, I will translate from the Greek (my Classics major pays off again!) and prove to you it probably doesn't say what you think it says.

@Makayla

@Makayla,

You said "The bible speaks against getting drunk."

Adults don't go to weddings with the ultimate goal of getting drunk. Unless your nearest and dearest are incredibly immature in nature and quite young in age, I can't imagine where you got the idea that 'getting drunk' or overly loud is what happens at wedding receptions which serve alcohol. A weekend evening wedding when attended by mature adults is generally a festive party atmosphere with guests enjoying themselves with conversation, loud laughter, and possibly dancing--after having a drink or two for encouragement to get them on the floor. Aunt Mary isn't going to shake her moneymaker on the dance floor without a glass of wine. (And have a great time doing it).

When one plans an evening wedding reception one generally hopes for an atmosphere of merriment and festivity, that goal is usually achieved due to proper hosting one's adult guests with alcohol. If you wish for something different for your wedding I wish you grand luck.

Sorry have to jump in on the religion aspect, no one needs to prove why they believe what they believe. If someone says they don't eat/drink or do something because it's their faith, they don't need to divulge any further for your comfort. To me, religion is one of the very few times when having a dry wedding is acceptable.

Lolzzzzzz. This thread made my Friday complete.

Drinks for everyone!

I'm getting wasted tonight. Free drinks at the bar we're doing karaoke at! Wewt!

TEQUILA!

His mom is a smart lady. You should listen to her.

If this is how you feel maybe think about having your wedding at a venue who does not allow alcohol or a brunch wedding and just serve mimosas (I don't think I have heard of anyone getting too rowdy at a brunch wedding on breakfast drinks)!

@Rose She can practice her faith however she wants, yes, but she did not say that God called upon her not to drink. She said it was in the Bible. That means that she's not saying it's an act of faith, she's saying it's a verifiable truth in the religious text. I would like to verify via the original Greek.

J'mya who is paying for the wedding?