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J'mya
Beginner June 2017

Having a dry wedding?

J'mya, on June 2, 2016 at 11:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 140
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My FH and I decided to have an alcohol free wedding. When we told his mom her response was "You need to think of other people because they will want to drink. If they are giving you presents you need to have alcohol at your wedding." She also keeps saying, "You can't tell people they can't drink." I just reply with "Yes we can it's our wedding" Neither of us drink. My family aren't big drinkers at all. His family loves drinking and typically drink too much and get overly loud. We feel very strongly about having a dry wedding. I am a very quiet person but she is starting to make me mad and I don't want to be mean. How can we get his mom to leave us alone about it?

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on June 3, 2016 at 11:02 AM
  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
    OG Dianna ·
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    I'm with his mom on this one. Properly host and have the alcohol.

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    You could properly host your guests and provide booze.

    This will not go over well. Unless you are in recovery or have a religious objection you properly host.

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  • Amy
    Super December 2016
    Amy ·
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    Is this seriously a real post?

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  • A
    VIP June 2017
    Along10 ·
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    Your mom is absolutely, positively, 110% right.

    ETA: Give the people alcohol. Host your guests properly.

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  • Erika
    Dedicated November 2016
    Erika ·
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    Ewww, 3 2 1 run...

    run now!!!

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  • LadyPearl
    VIP November 2016
    LadyPearl ·
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    Good luck, dry weddings are frowned upon around these parts. Hope you have thick skin...

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  • Possum
    Master December 2015
    Possum ·
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    Tell her she's right and serve alcohol at your wedding.

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  • Rose2Weaver
    Expert July 2018
    Rose2Weaver ·
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    I'm only here for the comments

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  • Niki
    Master June 2016
    Niki ·
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    SIGH.

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Sasswood ·
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    What happened to the post we wanted to make a sticky so people get the message? J'mya, your FMIL is trying to stop you from committing a huge hostess faux pas. You should offer alcohol at no charge, even if it is simply a choice of beer or two and a red/white wine option.

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  • therightLane
    Master October 2017
    therightLane ·
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    Hold on one moment. Let me finish my alcohol and I'll get back to you.


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  • Ashleigh
    Super November 2016
    Ashleigh ·
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    I read this and no joke, crossed myself and said "oh lord forgive her for her sins, for she knows not what she does"

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  • Amy
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    Amy ·
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    Why would you argue logic.

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  • GryffinBride
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    GryffinBride ·
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    I need a shot for the drinking game now.

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  • FutureMrsC
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    FutureMrsC ·
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    .


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  • Punkin Beer
    Master October 2017
    Punkin Beer ·
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    The word tacky gets thrown around here. Too much probably.

    Still, I think it's very very tacky to have either a cash bar or a dry wedding.

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  • Rachel
    Super August 2017
    Rachel ·
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    You can get her to leave you alone by having alcohol

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  • Katrina
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    Katrina ·
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    Yes. Beer and wine works. She is correct.

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Sasswood ·
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    FutureMrsC, that is exactly what my save the dates said :-)

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  • Muffinbutton
    Super August 2017
    Muffinbutton ·
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    She is right.

    And if you have a dry wedding anyway one of two things will happen. 1) almost everyone will leave early and it won't be much of a party. 2) a whole bunch of people will bring flasks and get really drunk by themselves/in the parking lot because no one is monitoring their intake/cutting them off.

    I've seen both.

    The only way she could be any more right would be if she's paying.

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