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J'mya
Beginner June 2017

Having a dry wedding?

J'mya, on June 2, 2016 at 11:57 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 140

My FH and I decided to have an alcohol free wedding. When we told his mom her response was "You need to think of other people because they will want to drink. If they are giving you presents you need to have alcohol at your wedding." She also keeps saying, "You can't tell people they can't drink." I...

My FH and I decided to have an alcohol free wedding. When we told his mom her response was "You need to think of other people because they will want to drink. If they are giving you presents you need to have alcohol at your wedding." She also keeps saying, "You can't tell people they can't drink." I just reply with "Yes we can it's our wedding" Neither of us drink. My family aren't big drinkers at all. His family loves drinking and typically drink too much and get overly loud. We feel very strongly about having a dry wedding. I am a very quiet person but she is starting to make me mad and I don't want to be mean. How can we get his mom to leave us alone about it?

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  • SimpleSeamstress
    Master June 2015
    SimpleSeamstress ·
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    Sigh. And this is why we get tired. Can someone link her the post from earlier today?

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  • Breanna
    Devoted June 2018
    Breanna ·
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    @therightLane omg right?


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  • Cynthia
    Super October 2016
    Cynthia ·
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    I totally agree with what she says.

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  • OG_MrsC
    VIP September 2016
    OG_MrsC ·
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    FMIL is right.

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  • Elizabeth
    Devoted August 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    She just wants to get us drunk.....

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  • Lauren
    Expert September 2017
    Lauren ·
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    I'm having a dry wedding too. It's your wedding and your choice. If guests are fed and given some kind of beverage it's okay. My fiance and I had friends who hosted a dry wedding and it was a blast! People danced and stayed until 11. There were no issues. Stand firm in your choice Smiley smile

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  • GryffinBride
    VIP June 2016
    GryffinBride ·
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    Dammit! Need a refill...


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  • Rebecca
    VIP June 2016
    Rebecca ·
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    Your FMIL is correct in this situation...

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
    OG Dianna ·
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    Cheers y'all ... Still drinking.


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  • Suzie_Cue
    VIP August 2018
    Suzie_Cue ·
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    Maybe host drinks for an hour and then have a cash bar after?

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  • GryffinBride
    VIP June 2016
    GryffinBride ·
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    Too many shots all at once now... I'm not making it to work tomorrow!

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  • Punkin Beer
    Master October 2017
    Punkin Beer ·
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    I think everytime someone says they're having a dry or cash bar wedding, I'm gonna grab a new beer from the fridge.

    I don't want to fight but all y'all without free alcohol at your weddings are *WRONG*.

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  • Lauren
    Expert September 2017
    Lauren ·
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    Also to add how to get his mom to leave you alone, explain you feel strongly and you aren't changing your minds and that it's not up for discussion. I tend to be quiet too and I'm not confrontational but if you feel strongly you need to be sure that you're not letting the opinions of others make you feel bad or change how you want your wedding to be. It's rough to stand up to someone, especially family (or future family) but this is your choice and your choice alone

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  • Hot Like Bea
    Master January 2017
    Hot Like Bea ·
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    Watch out, guys and gals. I bet this is bait.

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
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    Oh geez @suzie


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  • Suzie_Cue
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    @ Cathy...lol! Hey, I am just trying to help the lady out. Lol

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  • GryffinBride
    VIP June 2016
    GryffinBride ·
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    @Bea, that's why it's a drinking game. Come join us.

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  • 2016beachwedding
    VIP October 2016
    2016beachwedding ·
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    Super Lauren to the rescue

    No seriously op, people here are just trying to save you the embarrassment of having your guests called you rude and cheap behind your back, your fmil is 100% right

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    Valiant effort @suzie but no. My venue is trying to charge for pre-ceremony drinks and I'm doing what I can to change that, or try to get a tab started that I pay at the end of the night. It's making me cringe thinking my guests will say, "oh hey alcohol!" And then hear "that'll be $XX" even if it is just for 30 minutes.

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  • The Royal Blue's
    Super July 2017
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    Again I stress it's your wedding do what you want. I personally am having liquor but you have to do what you and FH want.

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