Having a dry wedding?

This is providing such excellent entertainment for my Friday morning.

For all the "we're Christian" excuses: I am Christian, my family is Christian. My Dad is paying for the bar. It will be a full, hosted bar and Dads even looking into Margarita and Wine Slushie machines to add something extra to the party! I fully expect that most people will drink and have an excellent time. In fact, I'm counting on it.

ETA: some Christians don't drink. I know that. But many do. Generally "being Christian" is t the reason. Your denomination, or you personally may have an objection to it.

I'm Catholic therefore I drink

My church served me wine (you know, the stuff with alcohol in it) at communion, starting when I was 12. Because Jesus turned water into wine, not grape juice. Most of the time when the bible speaks about drinking, it speaks against getting drunk, not against drinking. It is totally possible to have a glass of wine or two and not get drunk. Also, fun fact, in biblical times wine was safer to drink than water. So wine was commonly consumed.

OP, your FMIL is correct. If I spend money to travel, buy a gift, pay for a hotel room, I'll be cranky if I can't have a glass of wine with my dinner, or if I have to pay for it. If you insist on a dry wedding, host your wedding in the afternoon or during brunch/lunch. Also expect the reception to not last as long and to have a more laid back atmosphere.

She's right. How about a compromise? We decided to have beer, wine, and possibly a couple signature drinks. It takes longer to get drunk on beer so we figured that would help keep our families from getting too crazy.

J'mya - while I personally wouldn't have a dry wedding I think there's nothing wrong with making that decision if alcohol is not a part of your life. While having wine with dinner is a nice luxury, it's not a necessisty.

Ultimately I would have your FH talk to his mom and explain that while you appreciate and have put thought into her input, your ultimate decision is not to have alcohol at the wedding. People are welcome to go out after but the decision for the wedding is final. If she keeps bugging you, just smile and nod.

As someone who really enjoys a drink while at a wedding, I wouldn't judge someone who didn't serve alcohol because everyone has a right to their own beliefs. You're not telling people they are sinners or can never drink again - you're just not suppyling it to them while at your wedding.

J'mya who is paying for the wedding?

J'mya who is paying for the wedding?

J'mya who is paying for the wedding?

J'mya who is paying for the wedding?

My mother, not his.

So everyone hates these kinds of posts yet you guys keep it alive by continuing to comment? Stop complaining that this topic clogs the forums, there doesn't need to be a sticky on this. You need self control. I'm sure the OP has gotten enough feedback to made a decision.

No, just no.

Holy fuck, why do people think this is ok?

Your future mother in law is right. Open that bar right the fuck up. If no one is a big drinker, then just think of how little you have to spend in alcohol, but you offer it. That's what a good host does: offer their guests what they want to drink.

You're wedding will be as dry as your dry bar if you don't have alcohol.

I'm super late to this party but "overly loud"? THE HORROR!

Still waiting on that Bible verse....

Sorry not as vocal I guess.

@Rose we would rather have these posts then 10 posts about "what is your first dance song?" "What does your centerpiece look like?" or "Help! I can't figure out how to propose to my bridesmaids"

@Lauren Wow, really? I thought THIS was the most hated topic, at least that's what I read.

ETA: I actually like the centerpieces one..I'm interested.

Here's the deal.... if you drink. At all. Ever. Serve it at your wedding.

Also Lauren....Savage as always. I love it.

Anyone who says they don't enjoy these posts is a liar

I come on these to post/enjoy memes and see what O&S says

Hi J'mya, welcome to WW! As you can tell, this is a topic that gets brought up very very frequently on these forums. I encourage you to use the search function to check out some of these past posts!

Some people have shared really great advice - hopefully this helped!

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