Have you ever felt like quitting the wedding planning & eloping?

I consider dropping the planning and eloping several times a week. It really depends on what you want out of the wedding. FH and I really want to be able to share this time with our families, and we know that we wouldn't be truly happy just eloping. We'd rather get a chance to have a good time with our family. But it is definitely going to drain our accounts. I set aside money in our savings account every month dedicated to the wedding so that we aren't putting as much on credit. You're not alone! Good luck!

I'm with you as well but FH wants to have a weddiing to celebrate with our families but yet aren't contributing and are trying to tell us what to do. My family actually got mad with me because I told them they couldn't stay at our house because the wedding is at our house. We need the space to get ready. They didn't understand that and had a big fit about it. I guess when I send invitations, I'll know if they are coming or not. We are trying to avoid credit but the way things have happened fro us later we may not. I so wish we could have eloped...

I wanted to elope but my FH absolutely had to have a wedding, spending almost as much as I make in a year on 1 day is crazy & it bothers me a lot.

Oh yes. Quite often.

I feel that way every day...Where in SoCal are you? I am near Bakersfield and our venue is $2500 for the day, tables, chairs set up and take down etc.

I agree, thinking about how much money we are spending is insane.

I agree the amount I'm spending is insane. I've done everything I can to cut corners and a destination wedding was never considered because my family would of never been able to afford to go.

Every fucking day

Oh god, I think about it at least twice a week, but FH has pointed out that our respective parents would kill us

Absolutely and often

Anyone who would "kill you" is more than welcome to contribute....

EVERY-DAMN-DAY

I consider eloping for financial reasons, emotional reasons & due to the stress of negotiations with vendors. But at the end, my DH was right, my wedding day was wonderful & we both have the memories to share with ourselves & family, friends. You can push back the date, do some DIY projects, have silk real touch flowers. The WW brides can help you with a variety of ideas. good luck

So happy I'm not alone with this feeling. I've been feeling that a lot lately.

Just keep in mind these are one-time expenses and you will never have to pay for a wedding again! if its in your heart to have a wedding, i think you would regret eloping :/ maybe just consider pushing it back a bit! I did consider for a second having a way smaller wedding with just like 20 people somewhere far far away, but too many people I love would be left out and I just couldnt have that,

The only time I considered it was when we were in Vegas last year and we were at the top of the Eiffel tower at the Paris hotel. As we were standing there enjoying the view we got to the topic of why have a wedding when you could just get married here and go home and start our lives together.

Than we remembered what his grandmother(the matriarch of the family) said, if you ever elope you won't make it home alive! (they both eloped and regret it because no family got to be a part of their big day). My FH is so close with his grand parents and they are over the moon to be a part of our big day and watch us get married that we couldn't do something like that.

But sometimes the stress level does rise, though I can't complain because up till now we have had the most stress free planning I could ever ask for <3

For the 1st 13 months we were engaged I fought tooth and nail to elope, Lol! However, FH was right to push for the wedding. Sure the money is outrageous, haggling is the worse and DIY projects can get old fast, but now that we're right in the 60 day mark the excitement is starting to build and the excitment is overidding all the negative feelings from before.

P.S.

I've noticed that the men seem to want the big weddings more than us. What's up with that!?!

@Stephanie: Of course the men want the big weddings more than the women, if they women are the ones left to plan them, handle all the DIY, deal with the criticisms from friends and relatives, etc. As far as I'm concerned, any man who wants a big wedding should be willing to do at least half the work and planning for it.

I rather frequently have been starting to think this. If it wasn't for me wanting my grandmother who will be 92 this week with me on my wedding day, I would have considered it. With the amount we are spending on the wedding it could have been some amazing vacations or a gigantic down payment towards a house.

I just told my Mom a little bit ago I give up I can't do this anymore. Its very overwhelming with accommodating out of town guests and making sure you stay on budget. I'm in DC so it's going to be $20,000 and that will all be on what we can save because nobody will approve a loan for $20,000...well at least the places I've looked so far. I think it is all worth it though...a night your family will never forget :-)