Has anyone told you "Just go to the courthouse!"

People tell me that all the time. They are as annoying as the ones who ask when they are getting their invite who are not invited. Just ignore them. I really didn't think when we first got engaged that I wanted a wedding, but now I'm really looking forward to it. It's supposed to be a once in a lifetime joyous event, so why not celebrate it?

I haven't gotten that one but since my FH and I are having a Catholic wedding I've gotten- why not just do a DW and be done with it? ... No because we WANT to have a Catholic wedding.. duh! LOL ....

I completely understand how you feel about the courthouse weddings, they just seem so un-personable to me. I would just politely ignore them from now on or simply explain your views.

I have had some people say this to me to and it really pisses me off I dont care what their reasons are .... its all about the ceremony and pledging your love and devotion to the person you love in front of all your friends and family (and god if that is for you) .... its more than a piece of paper, ... thats why people have been getting married since before you needed a marriage license.

Yes, people have said that to me. They ask me why I would want to spend all that money in this time of recession. I said because my FH wants a nice day and we want beautiful memories and pictures. If they keep going on I just say..my day...my decision. Get over it. End of conversation...

I didn't say anything when you decided to handle whatever you wanted to do in whatever way you wanted to do it...

Am so fed up with hearing it. I just ignore them. It's really all I can do.

Umm, my FH has said that to me... haha - but in a sweet - I just want to be married to you already - kind of way.

Alas, wedding it is.

Also, I think it is super rude when other people try to tell you about your finances... mostly I feel people are super rude way too much

We get it all the time - just go elope somewhere and have a kick ass party when you get back. Or Just go to the court house & take all that money you're spending on the wedding and go to Europe for a month... Ugh. I just smile politely and say thanks we'll take that into consideration - and under my breath I have some explicit advice as to where you can go, how to get there & which horse to ride

Omg yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I used the courthouse the 1st time and we were suppoose to have this big reception when hubby came back from deployment that never happened so this is my second marriage and my step dad had said numerous times i dont know why you wasting money u need to go to courthouse........................I got what I wanted and paid for i wanted a church wedding......they kept saying u can get married at courthouse and have a nice honeymoon well why cant i do both...........geesh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Strange things, you ladies ever have anyone suggested better yet insisting what color you should choose for the wedding? That's another annoying one, I've actually taken 2 people off the guest list for that, my colors are red/black/ivory and some gold and I've had people coming to me saying "oh no, why these colors, you should pick these colors instead", well these are the colors I love, "oh no, you really should go with these instead, I hate red, I hate black, I hate this I hate that, pick my colors instead.

The minute I got home, she was off my list and I haven't talk to her since.

It is rude,&it's been said to me

Alot of people that Fh&I know have been divorced, some even more than once &don't think very highly of marriage. They say it's a waste of $ to have a wedding when marriages never last anyway. Their words, not mine.

But I agree w/ you. But I was also raised with parents who have a very healhty marriage. They are the only couple in my family that is actually still married. my grandparents would still be married if not for the fact that on both sides, my grandfathers have passed away. My mom's dad died a few months after my mom told him he was going to be a grandpa, &dad's dad died when I was 10.

But other than that, my aunt's have all been married at least 3 times, & one is on her 2nd marriage & although they are going on 20 yrs, they hate each other, & she's contantly kicking him out. So in the 20 yrs, they have probably only been together a solid 10yrs maybe less.

I hate it. I wish I had more people around me that were more supportive!

To me there are two parts of marriage. The legal cold government part that says you are legally married and can now have some benefits and the spiritual part where you say and mean your vows to each other.

To me, FH and I can stand in our living room today and say our vows to each other and be just as married in our hearts than all the couples with a piece of paper. The only thing we wouldn't have is the piece of paper stating our relationship status.

So the "it's just a piece of paper" thing is kinda true. A marriage certificate is just a piece of paper, but a marriage comes from the heart.

Well I haven't heard about the courthouse, but my one of my aunts told me that we should have a destination wedding so she wouldn't have to buy us a gift!! Now that pissed me off because sometimes I feel that people hope you have a small ceremony so they wont have to give a gift...personally I wouldn't be offended if we didnt get gifts because the wedding is not about that in my opinion, but the fact that she said that was plain out rude!! Some ppl just don't know what to say out of their mouths so you just have to ignore them sometimes.

Not so much me, but all the guys tell my FH to just go to the Courthouse...kinda really bothers me because they like have him convinced that weddings are all for everyone else and just cause fights... I mean he's still supportive and I think he likes watching me come up with things for the wedding ...But it still angers me that all the guys are saying that to him...I guess it could be worse, they could be telling him to not get married..haha.

It depends on where they are coming from with it. Some people said it because from their own experience it wasn't worth the hassle and the money. I see nothing wrong with giving advice in that case.

Some people are just rude and grumpy, but chances are "just go to the courthouse" is not the only rude and/or grumpy thing they will say to you.

FH's father told him that cause he didnt want to help pay.. Money is no issue for them.. he's always doing things with FH brother, & not including FH, so it hurts, I wish we could not invite him.

@ Dawn, I was thinking the same thing!

Everytime I mention anything wedding related to my aunt she says we should just go elope. Solution: not talking to her about anything wedding related.

Plan the wedding of your dreams. It will be worth it. Don't listen to negative people. It is your day. Enjoy it.

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Yes and I was beyond upset. It is fine if that is what you had to or wanted to do, but I want the real thing. White chapel, country reception, all of my friends and family celebrating this huge step that I am about to take. Since no one is helping me pay I just listen to their comments to keep the peace I take what I can use and leave the rest.

We live in Germany and are having a civil ceremony next month but planning a wedding in the States for spring 2013. For us, the civil ceremony here is just a step we need to do towards getting married...it is not our wedding. We will not be exchanging vows ect. It's required here in Germany to have a civil at the JOP and then of you choose to have a spiritual ceremony you can which most everyone here does bc you can only have so many people in the room regardless. I am not wearing a wedding dress, everything will come at our wedding with our family and friends at our amazing venue we have just chosen. This will be the day we get our marriage licence basically.

Yes, i think its rude for people to say that, I would never want someone to second guess our decision to have a wedding after our civil ceremony here, but anyone who loves me would never say such a thing and understand we need to do this step first and are so excited to attend or wedding in 2013.