Guys. I can't believe I'm not invited to your wedding.

I had 2 different people approach me at my MOH's wedding with "I just heard you two are finally getting married! I'll be expecting an invitation!"

Um. No. There'a reason you JUST heard. We don't talk. We're not really friends. I had to bite my tongue & reply with "the invitations have already gone out & it's an intimate wedding with mostly immediate family". Ugh.

Its always the people that want something from you or they just disappear until they hear things are going well for you, and then all of a sudden they want to be a part in it. I have a step sister whom i love but shes a super selfish asshole who doesnt care about anyone but herself, who decided when she heard me announce my engagment to stand up in front of everyone and say "ill be your maid of honor!" Outloud so everyone heard her just trying to get attention, but she hadent bothered to talk to me for like a year until she wanted part it in. People are so annoying!

Kristina - I'm DYING. I need that!

I have an old friend from childhood who keeps sending me messages on facebook to confirm that I have her correct address. I finally had to call her and explain that she isn't invited. I may have known her for 35 years but I haven't seen her in 15. It's not a pleasant conversation to have but it is necessary and you shouldn't ever feel you need to justify your decision.

Yup, my FSIL did this. She was upset because we didn't invite her husband's parents. Umm.... we've met them twice....

@ Heather ... so is she your MOH? I want to know how you dealt with that one.

I have no problem letting anyone know they are not invited. N if your name is not on the list you will be turned away. Invite only. So don't bother showing with the intention thinking "well I am already here so they probably won't say anything".

I'm *eagerly* awaiting these awkward conversations. My mom claims she won't go guest list crazy, but she has it in her head that if so-and-so invited her to their wedding, they have to get an invite to ours. She's bound to forget someone.

Or that we have to

invite a certain amount of people to "represent" her dad's side, who we don't even interact with after her dad passed 10+ years ago.

Our venue is limiting us to 140, DJ and other vendors included. My grandma is one of like 11 kids, who all kids of their own...we can't invite everyone, and FH and I want OUR friends there too.

Even with that, there's bound to be people coming out of nowhere on Facebook eagerly checking their mailboxes.

Oh no. I am sure we will be dealing with this soon. We're about to send our formal invites out and our wedding is an intimate, mostly immediate family and close friends affair. People who have been pestering me but didn't make the cut will be flooding my inbox soon, I am sure.

I had something similar so far.. but not about the wedding invite specifically..but about my bridal party.

I did a balloon that you had to pop in a decorated box to ask people to be in my bridal party... after my sisters posted on facebook a friend from high school immediately texted me and said they couldn't wait for their box. I didn't know what to say so I never replied :/

She's still a good friend, but I was doing mostly family (2 sisters, FH sister and FH SIL) and my BFF as my Maid of honor. If I wasn't doing a destination wedding I'd probably include her and another friend, but I'm keeping it small.

I've would of snapped on her ! that's so rude

Some of these stories are really astounding! I mean, I think weddings are fun and everything but why are people this desperate to go to weddings especially of those who it seems they may not be especially close to?

I personally haven't experienced this, but my FH has had a lot of people ask when they will receive their invites. People are so awkward!!!

An employee of the non-profit organization that I'm a leader for recently told me that she can't wait for my wedding, and that she'll definitely attend. I've never seen this woman outside of work, and even then I only interact with her for maybe 1 hour a week.

We're having a tiny wedding - immediate family and a couple of very close friends only - with about 25 people on the guest list.

It's bittersweet to see that I'm not the only one... as @gymrat stated.... le sigh

My ex (my 2 older kid's father) ask me if he was invited. We haven't been together in over 17 years and he was never there for his kids their whole life. FH is the only dad they know....is he serious???

Ugh people.

Ive have a few people wait for me to say something like "Oh don't worry you'll get invited" but I be poor and the guest list is short lol

I had a former student of mine and her mom message me and ask in person when are they getting their save the date. The mom is also doing amateur photography and was volunteering herself for our wedding. SO uncomfortable to explain she's not on the guest list.

People are insane. I can completely relate. I had a crazy ex friend send me this recently: "Congrat. Hope the wedding was nice... I'm not mad or anything just hurt because I thought I didn't have my best friend anymore. I noticed that all those newer people were invited and I wasn't. just hurt. Guess I hoped to be your maid of honor but it costs money I dotn have so I don't blame you at all just be nice to know you didn't forget me. I was working for the one invite and then didn't get anything for anything else so thought you didn't want me there or were upset at me I figured u kept the wedding small I probably would've been working but an invite would've been nice but your wedding your choice I thought I was your best friend and that you'd want me there....."

We stopped talking because she started showing up at our house at all hours and would get crazy jealous when I spent time with anyone else, including my family. We havn't spoke in almost 2 years and aren't even friends on Facebook... I explained that the 'new people' were my husband's family... She then said things I won't put here...

Yes. I haven't even sent out invitations or save the dates and I have people mentioning that they are invited to the wedding and if they aren't they will be very disappointed. It's for sure the rudest thing I've ever encountered. Don't assume you're invited.